easternluv

So today is going to be our second visit at swingers club. Hopefully we could make a bit more progress towards lifestyle , will update later, how did it go!!

I would like to thank everyone who has taken time to provide me some insight.I didnt reply earlier because there was no point until we hit swinger club first time. So it happened last Saturday. When we were heading to Swinger club, i told wifey that we're going to a sex club, there will be naked people and people making out with each other's spouses, So be open minded and just enjoy the moment without thinking too much. It was actually first ever visit for my wife to any sort of club ( she came from India 4 yrs back, we had 2 babies those year never got a chance to take her out to club) let alone swinger club, So i was bit skeptical but she really enjoyed the night. She was surprised to see happy people. Everybody were so happy, No one was judged for their dressing or body type, which is a taboo in regular clubs. All night my focus was only on her, even she was trying to check out other people ( i could see how happy she was that i kept looking at her all the time even there were few hot half naked ladies around). She doesnt drink at all but that night she had 2 breezer and that spoiled the night for her, her head started spining and she felt dizzy so we had to leave earlier than planned but we talked few times about its sexual energy, happy vibe and amazing people. We going back next month on my birthday. Since then twice we had role playing sex which never happened before ( i have been requesting it for past 2 years). I feel like it is a positive sign. Still a long way to go but i am willing to wait, i will show her path but let her lead, no matter how long it takes

Everyone gets cranky once in a while, Doesn't mean we go on internet and rant. I had questions and i thought forum might help. little did i know few people here are so judgmental, comes to the conclusion without even giving a second thought or understanding the situation. And the tone is certainly not called for. At least one thing i learned, Not everyone in lifestyle are super nice ( which was written all over the internet). Did you even read what i wrote in previous posts? All for now we planned to do is going to swinger club and have sex with each other.But you didnt find it necessary to read my all post, Choose to be disrespectful and advice me same thing? "Why not just have sex at a Club on her terms ? Ya know, the terms she's most comfortable with ? ". In lifestyle or not, being judgmental is not a quality earns you respect.

Hey Funcoupledayton, What you said could be very well true. I am just not sure what she says is real or just to use it as a shield because she doesn't know what to say. She doesn't have any refusal argument other than this. thats what confusing part for me.

hello cplnuswing, Thanks for your reply. It's definitely not her but random stuff kept coming (both taking courses on part time and 2 kids). Thanks for suggesting to not go forward much on first visit and just test the water. Makes a lot of sense. I will definitely make it happen in couple week time and give you guyz update how did it go . I feel much better now with your words that it's a positive sign .

hello coupleinMD, Thanks for replying. As I said, not going to club had reasons (study, no sitter, etc). In fact for 2 yrs we haven't gone anywhere that much, but she has been positive in going to swinger club throughout. The reason I am positing this question now, is finally we are getting close to make our first visit, hence my confusion is increasing. She still doesn't know about swinging that much. Basically my confusion is when to introduce idea of wife swapping? Before swinger club visit, I am thinking of taking her to any dance club and encourage her to dance with strangers and then take the next step?

Hello Folks, I am delighted to join this site and believe that I will get all necessary support from members to make a transition into exciting world of lifestyle. I need help or advice on how to take things forward with wifey from this point. So I have been expressing my desire to have sex with others on same bed (me with other women and she with other men). She never rejected the idea but every time her counter argument is "I don't know, I need be in love in order to have sex or I won't enjoy if I don't have feelings for him" etc. We talked about going to swinger club and she is quite excited for that and she said she would like to have sex with me (only me, nobody else) in the middle of an orgy. She is quite confident she won't be shy. Every time we have the same conversation but no progress. It's been 2 years now. With one way or another, there is always something comes up and we never been able to go to swinger club. My only question is - Am I on right track? Is her willingness to go to swinger club a positive sign that in the future she might open up a bit more? or it is just normal? Any advice how should I proceed further? Any sort of help would be greatly appreciated!! Thanks, A future lifestyle enthusiastic