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  • Birthday 05/25/1961

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  1. Hi OhioCouple, The no contact rule we had that evening mean't that we didn't want each other playing with each others "spouses". She didn't even want me to touch her husband and I felt the same about mine. Although there was no talk about girl/girl activitie on that specific evening... there was talk between her and I several weeks or so prior to that particular evening. She told me that on occation she could be bi - soley for the benifit of letting her husband watch. I had no problem with this, because my hubby wanted to watch to!! That evening it just happened. Gee - I guess I really need to go into more detail when I post! :slam" Later, Ann
  2. Hi OhioCouple, The no contact rule we had that evening mean't that we didn't want each other playing with each others "spouses". She didn't even want me to touch her husband and I felt the same about mine. Although there was no talk about girl/girl activitie on that specific evening... there was talk between her and I several weeks or so prior to that particular evening. She told me that on occation she could be bi - soley for the benifit of letting her husband watch. I had no problem with this, because my hubby wanted to watch to!! That evening it just happened. Gee - I guess I really need to go into more detail when I post! :slam" Later, Ann
  3. Hi OhioCouple, Okay, I see your point then, but....if girl/girl activity is considered "swapping" as you call it, what definition would you call this activity? Soft swing or a full swap? I was under the impression that full swap/swing mean't that you would have sex/intercourse with the spouse of the opposite sex! I see... Soft Swap.... WHOA...... there are several different terms going on here.... Soft Swing ----- Do these 2 mean the same then? Soft Swap ------ Full Swing ------ And do these 2 mean the same thing? Full Swap ------ Thanks, Ann - Who is starting to see the light!!
  4. Okay, another member brought this up in another thread.... I hate to say this folks but I guess I am rather confused here. I always thought that the defination of "Full Swap" mean't that each couple swapped partners, U know... husband/wife and wife/husband. Now I have been told yet another meaning of this.... Girl/Girl or Bi Activitie, can be considered a "Full Swap" too.... So.... what is your defination of 2 girls getting it on while their husbands watch? Thanks Ann
  5. Exactly..... "Different Strokes" We choose to start out this way, as we have never been in such a situation before we do not have any idea of what each of us can handle. I guess we are taking what can be appropriately called "Baby Steps"!!!!! The other woman suggested "Playing" for the benifit of our husbands! We each knew before hand that our hubbys had no problem with girl/girl action we went ahead and played! Please.... In all honesty, I don't consider this situation a full swap? I consider it just what it was "Girl/girl or Bi activitie" I know of lots of couples who's husbands let their wifes play, but the here is no male/female partner swap going on. bear_n_bunny, you are entitled to your own opinion and your own version of what swapping means to you.... Why in the world would you think that I would wish to flame you for this? To each their own I say!!!!
  6. Exactly..... "Different Strokes" We choose to start out this way, as we have never been in such a situation before we do not have any idea of what each of us can handle. I guess we are taking what can be appropriately called "Baby Steps"!!!!! The other woman suggested "Playing" for the benifit of our husbands! We each knew before hand that our hubbys had no problem with girl/girl action we went ahead and played! Please.... In all honesty, I don't consider this situation a full swap? I consider it just what it was "Girl/girl or Bi activitie" I know of lots of couples who's husbands let their wifes play, but the here is no male/female partner swap going on. bear_n_bunny, you are entitled to your own opinion and your own version of what swapping means to you.... Why in the world would you think that I would wish to flame you for this? To each their own I say!!!!
  7. Julie, I think you and everyone have nailed the problems we had that night perfectly. Thanks for all the advice and support! Its just amazing though how peoples personalitys and boundries in this case can change so drastically when alcohol is involved. In a way, I feel just as guilty because I was drinking to. BUT.. I wasn't drunk to the point that I didn't know what was going on, nor drunk to the point that I didn't respect the womans boundries w/her hubby!!!!! Thanks again everyone! Ann
  8. Julie, I think you and everyone have nailed the problems we had that night perfectly. Thanks for all the advice and support! Its just amazing though how peoples personalitys and boundries in this case can change so drastically when alcohol is involved. In a way, I feel just as guilty because I was drinking to. BUT.. I wasn't drunk to the point that I didn't know what was going on, nor drunk to the point that I didn't respect the womans boundries w/her hubby!!!!! Thanks again everyone! Ann
  9. Wow Ladies, After re-reading my initial post, Heck I'm confused now! The Attraction that I am speaking of is the no holds barred, I wanna jump your bones type of attraction or chemistry if you will. Lets say you meet a couple at a club. The guy is fairly good looking, has a nice smile, is well groomed, polite and respectful. After several drinks, you get up and slow dance a bit. The conversation is witty and the guy is fun to visit with, but the attraction or chemistry is just not there for you. In the mean time tho, your partner is enjoying themself with the other half of the couple and the attraction/chemistry "IS" there. Would you swing with the couple anyway under these circumstances? Later, Mrs Ditto
  10. Hi ya'all, Please forgive this really stupid question but Mr Ditto and I have been having a disagreement that maybe ya'all could help us with. He thinks that a man can have sex/swing and not be really attracted to the women. On the other hand I think that most women have to be attracted to the man in order to have sex/swing. So....... Do the ladies of the board need to feel a "Real" attraction for the guy OR is a genuine fondness for him all that is needed to make the decision to swing? Thanks Mrs Ditto
  11. (EBF) Thanks for your advise. I have to say that watching the flirting/touchy feely thing going on made me feel somewhat betrayed a little hurt and feeling left out. I think the couples husband probably felt something along those lines as well, but he just watched, and smiled as if to say, "Oh well, there's nothing I can do". Mr Ditto and I agreed prior to doing anything, that we would only experience soft-swing. He tells me that he doesn't want to full swap with this couple or be with this woman. I try to give hime the benifit of the doubt, but in all honesty I am having trouble believing this after what happened. So I guess we need now to really talk huh! Thanks Ann
  12. (EBF) Thanks for your advise. I have to say that watching the flirting/touchy feely thing going on made me feel somewhat betrayed a little hurt and feeling left out. I think the couples husband probably felt something along those lines as well, but he just watched, and smiled as if to say, "Oh well, there's nothing I can do". Mr Ditto and I agreed prior to doing anything, that we would only experience soft-swing. He tells me that he doesn't want to full swap with this couple or be with this woman. I try to give hime the benifit of the doubt, but in all honesty I am having trouble believing this after what happened. So I guess we need now to really talk huh! Thanks Ann
  13. Hi Ya'all, We are new to the board, and wanted to introduce ourselves and thank ya'all for such a great place to get info on this lifestyle. We are also new to everything and have just recently experienced our first soft-swing. The couple that broke us in are newbie's to, so this is a classic case of the blind leading the blind:eek: Our first time was great, we all agreed that we wanted to play with our own partners, watch etc. Nothing was discussed about a girl/girl thing, and needless to say, we (us girls)ended up playing. I think we all had a good time that night, so we all decided to get together again. Our second get together kinda leaves me confused and just a tad bit jealous. The wife of the couple started using alcohol, The more she drank the bolder she became. She and my husband were flirting, back and forth, using "Body Language" as I would call it and she started becoming touchy feel'ly. In the mean time Her husband and I just sorta sit there etc, and discussed the weather, and his inability to maintain an erection? WOW! Now this is really getting interesting! The wife then announces that she would be willing to do a full swap provided that we take things slow and work up to it. On the other hand, I am now completly dumb founded because not 1 hour ago this same woman told us that she wanted to limit things to our partners only! Needless to say we ended the evening not doing anything, and told them that we might be able to get together next weekend. So now I am wondering how to handle the situation, Should we get together again knowing that they are trying to push our boundries out of bounds OR.... ? Thanks, Ann
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