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wearetheone1967

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About wearetheone1967

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  • Birthday 07/19/1967

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  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    Green Bay, WI
  • Occupation
    management
  • Swinging Experience
    since 12/2015
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

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  • SLS Name
    weareeone1967

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  1. My wife is truly an angel among the saints. her patience, compassion, and kindness to others is second to none. She has encouraged me when I am feeling down, and is truly a beacon in the storm of life to me. She was able to prove me wrong about my self image by attending that event. thank you all for the honest replies!! Another Hotel take-over on May 21st. Maybe we play with those we have met... I will update as needed. If I was a nerd card game character, I would be body image= poor, Personality+48. lol.
  2. Well, My wife and I attended a hotel take-over where we had only chatted a few times with two other couples. and the admins for the group about the event. Within an hour, we had met three couples and a handful of single women that jut hung out it us by the bar. Three hours later, we are in the hotel room with the admins and another couple, laughing, talking and getting to know each other. We didn't play, but my obvious obesity was overshadowed by my personality and my eagerness to be outgoing and meet people. Being a drummer for a band for many years, I know how to get people talking and having a good time. By the next morning, the Admins and a few other couples couple we hadn't me were calling us by our first names and talking like we have been friends for years. So, YES, Body size is important, but Personality seems to be the BIGGEST attractor of others. I am OK with what I look like. If people only see my size, sucks to be them, because it WILL be fun and full of laughter and good times. I still want to lose the weight for health reasons, and to up my stock with others even more! I guess my wife was right all along.
  3. STOP IT! Sometimes, it is the person inside that makes you beautiful, not the physical. Yes, the physical is a part of it, but a thin attractive, "beautiful person" can be SO ugly inside. My wife has given me 8 kids and it isn't stopping her. I am way overweight, but I still forge ahead. Don't judge yourself against the pictures of others. Just be yourself, and you may be pleasantly surprised! At any rate, welcome aboard. We hope you enjoy you stay, and "Hello", from Green Bay, Wisconsin!
  4. When we decided this was the path we wanted to pursue back in December of last year, I read as much as I could. the swingers sub-category on Reddit helped a lot, as does listening to various podcasts (found episodes about beginners and things that pertained to us). That being said, I am pretty confident the same advice can be found here. This place is pretty awesome, with some pretty awesome people. You may not 100% agree with their advice, but you definitely have to respect them for forging the path that we follow in.
  5. I had a crush on anything with boobs, back then. I doubt my wife would go for that now. The funny part, is the only girl I dated in high school besides my wife... had no boobs. LOL.
  6. Thank you Padoc for the blunt honesty. I seriously appreciate your insight, as much as it hurts me to hear. I figured there would be some resistance to my size (which I am OK with). Of all the people we have met, it hasn't been an issue (so far). I was trying to point out the difference between a few pounds overweight, 20 to 30 pounds overweight to severely overweight, as there isn't much distinction between them all, yet, there is a HUGE difference. Hope you have an AWESOME summer!!
  7. Hi Everyone. SOOO glad I found this forum. I have taken a LOT of great advice from here. So, here goes, my first foray into what is going on inside my head. I see a lot of people talking abut being overweight and the lifestyle. Now, I have heard people complain when they put on an extra ten pounds, or even 30-40 pounds. How about 160+ pounds extra? I am 6 foot, 384 pounds as of today. I am not all "jelly" as would be expected. I have had a very physical working life and do have some decent muscle definition on my arms and calves. The rest of me is a dumpster fire (physically). My wife and I have youthful faces, which helps, and my personality a warm, humorous with a sharp, quick sarcastic slant. I have no problem making friends with people wherever I go(smile, be friendly, and take an interest in the other person). As for the swinging, the thought of meeting other people, and having good laughs, and getting to know one another sounds golden to me. The though of taking my clothes off in front of strangers scares the hell out of me. I am embarrassed to get undressed in front of my loving and beautiful wife of 30 years, and while she says I am sexy and loving.. I just don't know how "others" would feel about having a man of such large proportions. I feel this is the one hang-up I have to being a carefree swinger. My wife says personality and intellect are huge turn-ons for a woman. But at some point, the physical has to kick in for them, like the men, right? Thanks in advance for any insight, info and help. There are overweight people, and then there's me. Is there a place for a "morbidly obese, charming, funny, sincere, swinger" in the world"
  8. The graying I don't mind.. It is that it is growing so long. My chest hair kinda weirds me out with how long it has gotten. I had to go up a shirt size. Just kidding, but it is really noticeable to me...
  9. The infamous shed burning incident!! You need to keep that running on here. I chuckle every time I think about that.
  10. Damn. Sorry for the horrible encounter. Most of us are decent, respectful, caring people. A few pieces of SH*T ruin for you. This REALLY makes me mad. I hope the communication between your husband and you lead you both to realize you were taken advantage of. I agree with Fundamental Law, it is almost criminal. So sorry for you. You need to find a nice couple, not those two scum of the earth... Stay Strong!
  11. I have edited our profile at least 4 times on SLS and AFF since we got into this. The wife is slowly changing her views about things and opening up. She was cautious and guarded about me with "other women", due to an ugly 'cheating' incident when we were younger on my part. 20 years later, and the old wounds are still there, but bless her soul, she is trying to be as drama free as possible. We are looking for married couples only. Once I decided I didn't want a true unicorn, I stumbled upon one. I didn't even have to burn a shed down either (another thread on here). Life is strange sometimes. FYI, we use the same username on all the various sites we are one. search us out, and say "hi!"
  12. Thanks, Alura. just one of a BILLION questions we have about all this. And to everyone else, thanks for the replies! Kind of neat to see those who consciously walked into fully aware, to those who just kind of "fell into it". Everyone has a different story to tell. I find them all fascinating and insightful. One thing I learned from reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is to take an active interest in other people. The more I can get others to talk about themselves, the more liked I become and the more honest and decent I am perceived. That book has served me well!
  13. I am curious how others decided that the lifestyle was right for them. Our story, I was going through a deep depression 6 months ago. Did a TON of "research" on Reddit about jealousy, inadequacy, and honesty. Every post I read that made sense was from the "Swingers" sub-reddit (category). I kept reading this GREAT marriage advice from "swingers". I just didn't make sense to me. I got put on anti-depressants, and suddenly EVERYTHING was clear... My wife of a billion years and I have always had tried to bring "others" into the bedroom with disastrous results (friends, acquaintances) when we were younger. I always thought I could never share my wife because I loved her so much. then in a moment of clarity, I realized I could share her... BECAUSE I LOVED HER SO MUCH!! We met a guy... and he was her "second". no jealousy or bad feelings on my part. I guess the brain candy works. lol.... So, how did you fall into the lifestyle?
  14. Me, it is my light blue eyes, and strong personality (not overbearing). for the Mrs. ... her beautiful long red hair, glorious boobs, and personality. We are quite the duo, her and I.
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