My partner and I have discussed opening up our relationship to swinging for a few years and now I find myself really wanting to do so.
We've been together for 20 years and have a solid family life together. We've been adventurous sexually with each other, but have always kept it monogamous and never included others. We've been concerned that we want to be safe physically and emotionally because it seems irresponsible to risk disease or heartbreak when we have been disease free and emotionally stable for so long. We've turned down more than one offer based on this thought process.
I have admitted how much I would like an MMF and though I have never been interested in women, I would enjoy exploring how a woman feels and having an FFM as well. I've thought about it almost constantly for the last year and brought it up several times. My partner has said he's not opposed to swinging and wouldn't mind sharing me (as long as I'm okay with it, which, I am) but doesn't seem interested in actually moving forward with it.
I don't know how to help us step across the line. I am keen to experience what it feels like and he says he is as well, but he has been apathetic about pursuing it.
I have always been the more conservative one and I have tried to be open and honest with him. I don't want to push us into this if he's not enthusiastic about doing so, but I feel like we need a firm push forward.
He can be a procrastinator sometimes, but in general he's always led our sexual explorations. We've always gone at the pace of the slowest person and he has been so patient with me in many instances, so I want to afford him that same courtesy. I don't want to seem like I'm nagging or pushing.
Are there ways to move forward without going to a party or should I just make plans and tell him we are going? He seems happy to participate in a swinging experience the only hesitation is in the follow through.
My apologies for such a long writing for one question.