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Pett

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About Pett

  • Rank
    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 04/02/1980

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    female
  • Location
    Australia
  • Interests
    All things vintage.
  • Swinging Experience
    Zip
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. Hi, A little update: We've been talking and talking and talking some more about what it is we both want from this and it seems we are on the same page. We've talked about rules, and everything we discuss makes us think of something more. He surprised me by making a couples profile on an SLS. I didn't think that would be something he would do at all! I didn't think he was as interested as he is. So now it's sort of a deer in the headlights feeling for both of us. There has been more interest than we could have anticipated. It has been overwhelming since we don't exactly know how to proceed in terms of talking or even meeting for vetting and possibly having that eventuate into more. I'm not sure what people mean by no time wasters either. Does that mean if you aren't going to jump straight into everything, that makes us time wasters? So, that's where we are for now. It may be some time before anything actually happens. We are certainly not going to rush and I appreciate that he is as cautious as he is. It has proven its value more than once in our relationship.
  2. Thank you for all of the suggestions and advice! I asked him about it one more time and he said we need to sit down and hash out what our boundaries are and then go from there. So it looks like it's going to be slow going, but not off the table yet. Thank you for the advice about being safe. It feels rude to bring it up, but it's been a major factor in the past for not moving forward.
  3. My partner and I have discussed opening up our relationship to swinging for a few years and now I find myself really wanting to do so. We've been together for 20 years and have a solid family life together. We've been adventurous sexually with each other, but have always kept it monogamous and never included others. We've been concerned that we want to be safe physically and emotionally because it seems irresponsible to risk disease or heartbreak when we have been disease free and emotionally stable for so long. We've turned down more than one offer based on this thought process. I have admitted how much I would like an MMF and though I have never been interested in women, I would enjoy exploring how a woman feels and having an FFM as well. I've thought about it almost constantly for the last year and brought it up several times. My partner has said he's not opposed to swinging and wouldn't mind sharing me (as long as I'm okay with it, which, I am) but doesn't seem interested in actually moving forward with it. I don't know how to help us step across the line. I am keen to experience what it feels like and he says he is as well, but he has been apathetic about pursuing it. I have always been the more conservative one and I have tried to be open and honest with him. I don't want to push us into this if he's not enthusiastic about doing so, but I feel like we need a firm push forward. He can be a procrastinator sometimes, but in general he's always led our sexual explorations. We've always gone at the pace of the slowest person and he has been so patient with me in many instances, so I want to afford him that same courtesy. I don't want to seem like I'm nagging or pushing. Are there ways to move forward without going to a party or should I just make plans and tell him we are going? He seems happy to participate in a swinging experience the only hesitation is in the follow through. My apologies for such a long writing for one question.
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