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FLPlaytimes

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About FLPlaytimes

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    I got nothin here...
  • Birthday 04/09/1977

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Orlando
  • Swinging Experience
    1 year
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    xx/xx/xxxx
  1. Maybe I should just let it go. It's a small thing, and I'm not sure who I'd be punishing more if I didn't kiss the girls lol. I do want him to discuss it with me though. There usually isn't any subject or topic we can't discuss. We're very open about everything. This is the first time he's shut me down without discussing it, so I was taken aback by that fact alone. I am not used to a lack of full communication between us. Thanks everybody for all your advice.
  2. I could try that. Maybe that would open up a dialogue. That's really all I want. I just want to know where his head is on this matter. Understanding the whys of it and knowing why his feelings are this way would help us both. Without any communication my mind is left to think the worst, which is probably not even the case. I will try this. Thanks for the help!
  3. Well I will be fine without it, I guess. I would be lying though if I said it didn't dampen the mood a little to skip the kissing. I can kiss women, just not men. Maybe we need to plan out more FMF instead of MFM lol. I have the ability to be able to completely detach my emotions from sex. My husband says that's a rare quality in a woman. I don't know. I've never asked other women, but from just watching my vanilla friends, I'd be inclined to believe him. Typically it's the man who can detach his emotions, and for the most part he does, just not on this one thing. I'm getting almost the whole enchilada. Maybe I should just quit bitching about the small stuff.
  4. Oh don't get me wrong. After he told me his feelings on the subject I never did it again. I asked his permission to do it once after that, but he refused so I dropped it. Like I said in another comment, we're still pretty new to all this and maybe after time, his feelings on the subject will change. I am not going to pressure him, though. After all, this is supposed to be fun, right? If we both aren't having fun, there's no reason to proceed. I just wondered if anyone else has experience with this rule and could enlighten me on the reasons behind it. I just want to understand, mostly. It bothers me a great deal that I can't kiss unless it's a woman, but not enough that I would end what we do. I just worry that he thinks I would actually fall for someone else. He is everything to me, and that just is never in my line of sight. I wouldn't ever leave him for anyone. Also, his lack of communication worries me. I know he and his long term relationship before us was into swinging also. Maybe something happened that he ties to the kissing? I guess my need to know is what's driving me the craziest lol
  5. He has no problem with me kissing other women, which also confuses me. He kisses the women too, which doesn't bother me in the least. To me it's all part and parcel of the experience. I like seeing him take any pleasure he can get from the experiences we have, otherwise what is the point? I even asked his permission once, and he refused. I just don't understand the need to keep only my lips (the ones on my face lol) away from other men. I think we will eventually have to have this out, but for now I'm going to play along. Maybe once he sees that I'm not planning on falling in love with every male partner this will abate. Like I said before in my introduction thread, we are still very new, so maybe he just needs some time to adjust. We'll see. Thanks for the advice.
  6. We're only a year in and we've been very selecive and maybe a little too discerning lol. We have only had a few experiences, and they have been great. We just don't want to get too crazy with it. We don't want our sex life to be overshadowed by our swinging sex life. We love what we do together alone, and we want to keep that balance, know what I mean?
  7. My husband and I have found a pretty regular MFM playmate, and for some unknown reason, my husband doesn't want me to kiss him. I don't get it. To me it's the most benign of the things we do with this guy, believe me it IS the most benign thing we do, but he's told me he will stop altogether if I ever kiss him again?! Is there a reason my husband is this way? It just seems strange, and for me, kissing is what gets me going, if you know what I mean. I don't attach intimacy to it or anything like that. It's just another fun thing to enhance the experience and nothing gets my panties wetter than hot kisses from 2 different hot guys, but I feel like he thinks it's some kind of "relationship thing" that attaches some kind of intimacy to my interactions with the other guy. I'm very confused about this, especially since my husband won't kiss me after I've done particular things, but our third will, so it's nice to have that option when my husband is "icked out" for lack of a better phrase. I love to kiss. I feel like this is his dealbreaker, but I also feel like it's kind of my dealbreaker too. I hate to think he feels he can't trust me. We've been together for 14 years, and I would never cheat on him. I didn't bring up swinging, either. He did. I would never have considered it were it not for his influence. Don't get me wrong. I'm glad he did, because it's been great, but I feel like this "no kissing" rule is some kind of commentary on his trust level with me. Does he distrust me, or has he just watched Pretty Woman one too many times lol... Any advice I could get would be greatly appreciated because I am flummoxed by this one. Before you tell me to communicate with him, I have. He just replies that he doesn't like it and that's all I need to know, that I should just take it at face value. Basically, he just shuts down when I try to figure out where his head is. He doesn't seem to suffer any other conflicts other than that when we participate in multiple partner sex, so I guess I just wonder if maybe anyone else has this rule or if they know why this rule would be so important to him since he won't divulge his reasoning to me about it.
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