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hypnicjerk

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About hypnicjerk

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  • Birthday 01/23/1987

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  1. CoupleInMD79, I like the idea of making friends and meeting couples in the way you suggested. My friend is aware that my husband is aware of/encourages play...and he didn't really want to talk about that/reference it. That was already a red flag right there!
  2. Wow, I really appreciate everyone taking the time to reply and crafting such great responses. Thank you so much. Let me see... DH gets turned on by the idea of me having sex with other men, yes. He would probably like to watch in the future. He would prefer it if I slept with strangers but we agreed I could start off with someone I know. My friend was there, he was safe, he was (somewhat) willing...but now I see that just because he was there for the taking didn't mean it made things easier. Otherwise, my marital sex life is great and passionate. I'm open to DH having sex with other women, too, but we're starting out slow. It is extremely difficult for me to be attracted to a man whom I don't know because I care nothing about a man's physical appearance. longun45, thanks for sharing your past experience. We aren't close friends, so I didn't think it would be so tricky. I just didn't think, I guess. I believe I need to have some kind of discussion with my friend right now. I can tell him I enjoyed the sex, but we by no means have to do it again if he doesn't think it's a good idea. We have started talking again, but about inane things, and have ignored the subject of sex at all. I will keep the board posted.
  3. Thank you, funcoupledayton. That's good, solid advice. I'll give him some space right now and hope he'll be willing to hash things out after some time has passed.
  4. A friend and I have been flirting with each other for over a decade. I have been with my husband all during this time. DH recently decided that he wanted me to sleep with other men, so my friend and I started taking things to the next level. First, we kissed. After that, my friend got a lot weirder about flirting. He doesn't respond nearly so much. He goes through periods of not responding and then times where he demands to sext. He said he didn't think he could handle having sex with me (basically indicating that he didn't want to develop feelings for me and screw everything up). We just had sex a few days ago despite his reservations, and now he's completely shut down on me. He's hardly talking to me and not responding to flirting at all. He wants to be very noncommittal about any more-than-friends activities we do and he won't even kiss me with gusto. We didn't kiss at all during sex. I understand that he's trying to protect himself, but...his indifference doesn't make me feel very good. I want to continue to explore a sexual relationship with him, but I don't know how to get him to connect with me. I know there are risks to this, but I'm not trying to catch feelings for him, either. I just want some passion! I also feel like it would be hard for us to go back to being just friends now that we've started down this path. We work together and see each other often. Would love any advice. TIA.
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