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GigiInGA

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About GigiInGA

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  • Birthday 06/07/1970

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  1. Hi and thank you so much for taking the time to read and reply. But as I said earlier " I started out the entire first year of our relationship doing just that. But after time I got to the point that it really did not matter to me anymore." I am 100% fine with the way things are and don't want to rock a boat that is already sailing smoothly. If I were unhappy, trust me I would bring it up again! Thanks for your advice on the swinging aspect. For some odd reason I feel responsible for her outcome........go figure! LOL
  2. OK so a bit of a different situation here. To be perfectly clear I love my husband like no man I have ever loved before. We have been together for five years and are a perfect fit in every way including our desire for sex and making love. He is the love of my life and wouldn't trade him for anything. BUT he has never once been able to provide me with an orgasm. It is not a health or psychological issue on my part. I have had many men prior to him who could push my buttons to the moon and back It is very hard to explain but there is just something about his “style” (or the lack of it for a better word) that just doesn't do it for me. He tends to be clumsy, inconsistent, and doesn't really pay attention to cues or even when I say to him “Yes do it like that, keep it right there, don't stop”, he just keeps doing his own thing. I know it's not the best thing but I have gotten very good at faking it since we have met and yes, he thinks he is doing a great job. I know many of you will tell me that I should discuss this with him and let him know. Trust me, I started out the entire first year of our relationship doing just that. But after time I got to the point that it really did not matter to me anymore. Sex and making love to me are two different things. We make love daily, often twice daily and I am more than happy to pleasure myself to make up for that one lost aspect. It has no affect on me or our marriage. I am 100% satisfied with things the way that they are with him. Here, though, is my problem which is preventing me from wanting to swing. My husband really wants to but my only hesitation is that I am afraid I might be embarrassed to share him with another woman for fear that the result will be the same for her. Everyone seems to brag about and be happy about sharing their amazingly skilled lovers; but knowing that my husband has not even once brought me to orgasm makes me assume that this will be true for most others he will be with. I am trying to get past the potential embarrassement issue I have so we can try this, as I would like to as well. But I have a hard time with the thought of being in the same room with the other woman either during or afterward and wonder if she thinking he wasn't all that great. I can't imagine that every encounter ends in orgasm and sometimes it's just about flirting etc...but he is 100% interested in full/same room swap. I realize he may have the ability to “do it” for others but in the back of my mind I am unsure. He had many and I mean MANY girlfriends prior to me that didn't last long at all. I've always wondered if lot of that had to do with his lack of performance, because other than that he is a 100% keeper! How do I get past not worrying about the other woman, what she may be thinking and just worry about my side of things. Please know that I feel HORRIBLE that I even think I might feel embarrassed about the one I love the most in the entire world. This is something I would NEVER tell him. However, in our discussions in talking about considering swinging, I did feel him out and asked him, " do you worry about pleasing someone you just met, not knowing what it is she may like". His response was, "no I have never had a problem like that before". What to do, what to do??
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