MrLee & MsBee

Thank you again for all the replies. It's good to get different points of views, and it's helped me sort thru some of my own thoughts that are twisting around in my head. My next question to you all is, how did you deal with jealousy? My jealous emotion really roller coasters sometimes. It's never about sex though. For me, the jealousy monster really rears it's head when she's out with the other guy and I'm at home alone. Something as simple as the two of them just hanging out down by the river having fun sets me off way more than the thought of her having sex solo. I'm not sure why either. Have any of you ran into this?

She's never wanted to share me Sun. She's told me, that she didn't care if I had something on the side (solo), as long as she didn't have to see it. Her sudden 180 came after I told her that I wasn't ready for her to play solo, and that for the sake of our marriage, to slow up on that front. Like you, I'm trying not to read into it either, but, also like you, my conclusions are leaning towards "Hey, I'm willing to let you have your fun with another woman as long as I get my fun alone with this guy."

Thank you all for your insight. We sat down and had a discussion last night. For now, the solo play has been put off. For how long though, I don't know. We are all going out again next Friday, which I'm sure will end in more threesome fun. She threw a total curveball at me last night though. She wants me to bring home another girl Next Friday to join in and play with all of us.(Herculean task anybody?!?) I mean, I'm good, but damn...find a woman to hook up with, then have her be okay with hooking up with my wife and another guy she just met besides me? I've always said I like a good challenge...but I digress. This is completely out of the norm for her, as she's always been anti sharing me, and the one time we had a group situation she did not like the other women touching me, at all. When I asked her about the total 180, she just said she thinks it could be fun for all of us, and that she wants me to have my fun too. I'm trying not to read too much into this, and I asked her if she was just messing with me, but she said she's serious, so we'll see. Feels kind of like a give me something I want to get what she wants compromise. Maybe I'm wrong though. She loves playing with women, and she told me that maybe it would be easier for her to see me with another woman if she had someone occupying her. The whole thing was punctuated by a "who knows though, I may hate it and flip out" statement lol. So yah, who knows.

And that's the thing. I'm not TOTALLY uncomfortable with her going solo. The kink side of me actually finds it a little exciting (I think that's called hotwifing these days?). I think it's my heart side or logic side that's really twisting this for me. She doesn't push it, but I know she wants it. She's told me that while she would never do anything to jeopardize our marriage or us, she really wants to play solo at some point. And now that she's found a guy that's compatible with us and we've already had a threesome with, she wants to go solo with him. The whole thing leaves me confused most days as I have trouble making sense of my own emotions.

I'm trying to nutshell all of this. It's hard to fit all the pieces in when the situation as a whole is very complicated. She's been "dating" different guys for awhile. No sex, no nothing, just going out and having fun. Sometimes it bothers me, sometimes I'm okay with it. I guess it just depends on which way the wind is blowing. I've never been the insecure/jealous type, so it's usually a non-issue. In the past (before this most recent guy), she went on these dates trying to find the right fit for us as a threesome. She can't just have sex with someone she doesn't know, so she wanted to get to know the guy to see if the potential fit was there. We tried meeting guys together, but I can be a pretty intimidating guy. Not by choice mind you, I'm actually a huge goof ball, but all a new guy sees is either 6'1" of muscle, so they're intimidated by size, or the dark hair, tanned skin, light eyes, so they're intimidated by looks. At first it was kind of humorous, but after a few times it became counterproductive for us to both meet the guy for the first time. Which is fine. So, yah, maybe it's just this particular guy that I don't want "dating" my wife. Maybe it's because I know she's not doing this just us in mind, but also for her own solo enjoyment at some point. I don't know.

Couple play is out, for now. My wife has 0 interest in couple play. I think, ideally, in her perfect world, she wants an open relationship. She wants to be able to go out and play, do as she pleases, and mix in threesomes with me here and there. I do not think anything can come of this, at least not in the current direction it is headed.

Hello there. Mr. here. First time poster, long time reader. I've been putting this off for a long time trying to sort thru things and figure them out myself as we go along. We've gotten to a point now though, that I think I need some outside input from other people who are familiar with these types of situations. Wife and I have been married 11 years. We have always been very "open" sexually. It wasn't until earlier this year that we dabbled in swinging though. First mmf went down about 3 months ago. It wasn't a horrible experience, but it wasn't a very good one either. Both my wife and the other guy were too drunk to remember or perform lol. Morning after went a little smoother, but the other guy was too passive and soft for my wife's tastes. Fast forward to this last weekend, and our second mmf went down. Great time all around. Wife was able to just let go and lose herself. There was no awkwardness between the other guy and myself. Just a great sexual experience. So here comes my dilemma.... My wife wants to have sex with this other guy solo now. I'm not sure how to react to this. Before our night together she had hung out with this guy a few times, and they had kissed and did some petting. She had expressed to me that she was really interested in having sex with this guy alone. Now that we've all had sex together, and him and I somewhat know each other, she really wants to have sex with him solo. The prospect of it both scares me and excites me. I'm not sure how to contain my jealousy though. I find myself getting super jealous of them hanging out together. I don't mind someone having sex with my wife, but the prospect of someone "dating" my wife and doing things with her that I would want to do really get me worked up. I have talked to her about how I feel. She's tries her best to reassure me, but there's something in me that just won't let go and roll with it. So, here I am. Using all of you beautiful people as a backboard to maybe help me sort some things out that I haven't been able to wrap my head around. Thanks