Hi everyone. I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask this but I really don't know where else to turn. I was wondering if anyone has any advice on how to get my husband to open up to the idea of me sleeping with other men.
I feel like I missed out on a big part of my sex life. I'm 27 years old and I've only slept with two people. My husband and my boyfriend in high school. I'm not saying this is a bad thing, I understand there are probably lots of women who would be happy with that. And I'm not saying that I want to be a total slut and just sleep around with lots of guys. It's just that this is not how I pictured my sex life would be. When I went to college I had this list of things I wanted to experience and I never did any of them. I met my husband my freshman year and we dated through all four years of college and got married after we graduated.
When we first started dating everything just seemed so much more wild and free. My husband was the first (and only) guy that I've watched porn with. We had sex in public a lot. And we talked about our fantasies all the time. We even did role-playing during sex. I won't say that I expected that we would be swingers, but he knew my fantasies before we were married and I guess I thought that fulfilling these fantasies together by inviting others into our bedroom would be part of our marriage.
He wants nothing to do with any of it though and he doesn't even like talking about my fantasies anymore. I almost feel like that the man I married is not the man I dated. I realize all married couples go through slumps in their sex life, but it is more than that. The more I want to spice things up the more he wants to keep them the same. When we were dating and I would tell him some of my fantasies he would say that it really turned him on. He even asked me several times if I would ever go through with them. When I said that I would he would tell me how hot I was. But now it's like he forgot all of that.
I don't want to divorce my husband but I don't know that I can go the rest of my life without fulfilling at least some of my fantasies.
What do I do?
