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  • Relationship Status
    Married Couple
  • Location
    Central Arkansas
  • Interests
    Friendship, Traveling, Gambling, & Sex Of Course
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    Business Owner
  1. We play with more single men than we do women or couples. Most generally I do most of the talking and email answering, and then I'll talk to Lisa about possibly meeting someone. Our preference though is to meet others in a club setting. Either of us have veto power over who to play with, even if it's me saying no to Lisa about a man she wants to play with. A good example was on our last trip to Atlanta. We were at the Trapeze Club there. To go into the back room area where most couples play, you have to disrobe. You can either wear a towel or nightie or nothing. A couple was in an open play room having sex, and another man was there watching, and touching. We went into the room to watch, and the couple having sex invited us to touch if we wanted. Lisa had a great time since touching another female is such a turn on for her. Anyhow, the "odd man out" who was there touching was also getitng handsy with Lisa, which was ok. As things progressed the "odd man out" suggested to Lisa that he'd like to have sex with her, and Lisa was ok with it, but I wasn't, and told her no. She was fine with that decision. NOW, here is the reason....Earlier in the night, I had went back up to the front of the club which was mostly empty since everyone was in the back. While I was up there I did see this same guy arguing with his wife/girlfriend. She was still in "street clothes" and he was in a towel. He left her sitting in the front crying. He told us / Lisa that he was single and there alone. I was simply not comfortable with the situation. I kind of got the feeling that she did not want to be there. Later when I explained why to Lisa, she was in total agreement. We just always think two opinions are better than one.
  2. If we're in a play session with a group of people we don't leave to clean up during that time. If we're playing with a couple (or single) at a club then we would clean up in anticipation of another get together. Lisa always douches before we go out, and in her purse she'll carry a little can of FDS (what's it called?), and also the towlette version of the same stuff. Also a small package of baby wipes. The main club we go to has baby wipes in all the play areas so for me I can pretty much "wipe off" right there, while Lisa goes to a bathroom to clean up.
  3. When going out on a nice date or to a swing club I always wear my favorite...."Cool Waters". Most women seem to like it also.
  4. If a male approaches us, then they pay for the room or provide a place. If our house is available we'd not mind playing here though either. On a rare occasion if we approach a single man then we would split the tab. Jayson used to meet married couples as a single man, and he would always pay for the room.
  5. We both masturbate in front of each other. Sometimes that might be all one or the other of us do. If we feel like doing it, and the other is not into it for whatever reason, we still enjoy ourselves, and the other usually enjoys watching. Lisa will also masturbate in front of others when we are at on-premise clubs, and I would not have a problem with doing it also, but it is usually frowned upon by others at a club.
  6. Just wondering if anyone has ever gotten an email from a male who is very openly just wanting to steal your wife? We got one just about a month ago from a male whose profile on SLS states he's a couple. He doesn't beat around the bush telling "her" what he's looking for (a wife amongst other things), and how well he can care for her. Also states that if "your husband" happens to get this, then just delete it.
  7. Jayson is 47, and I'm 42. I would say the majority that we've played with are in the 35 to 45 range, but for me I have been with men in their late 20's & early 30's, as well as men in their early 50's. Jayson has been with women in their early 30's, and one who may have been late 20's that we met at a club. Also some who were a bit older. We've always tried to steer clear of anyone in their very low 20's since we have as son who is 24. It sounds as if most of the ones who have responded so far thinks it is ok to swing with someone as young as say 18???? as long as they are fully aware of what they are doing?
  8. We used to use the term "Hardcore" in our SLS profile, but at some point changed it to read "Very Adventurous". To us both terms meant pretty much the same thing and had nothing to do with being "Bed Notchers", or the number of people we've been with, but instead had to do with what we would do.....if that makes sense. We've not met a bunch of people from SLS, and don't even accept anyone's certifications. We simply don't think it's necessary to advertise who we've been with. Back to the question at hand. Our use of either of the above mentioned terms has to do with the fact that we're just not shy at all (sexually), and neither of us have a problem getting naked and doing whatever in front of whoever wants to watch. We just really like to let loose when we have a chance to visit an on-premise club (2 or 3 times a year). It doesn't matter if it's Lisa with another guy or two, or us with another woman, or us in the middle of an orgy. That is what (we think) makes us Hard-Core.
  9. There was a similar discussion in May of 2004 in which we commented. I went back and cut and pasted my comment, since it still applies. We were somewhat raked over the coals then for our views. I guess we'll see if the consensus has changed any. Here is our exact reply.......... We enjoy meeting single men, and do so more often probably than meeting other couples. Some may think this is extreme, but we do have one VERY HARD rule when meeting single men....and that is we must have their name, and home phone number. And be able to call them at various times to verify they are single. We let it be known up front that we will only meet single men, and that we will verify they are single, so it's not like we mislead anyone. If someone tells us they're not listed in the phone book (it's probably their cell number), then we don't meet them. If for any reason we can't verify the information we don't meet them....it doesn't matter how handsome, buff or whatever the guy is. This also works as somewhat of a security measure also. Unfortunately when going to an on premise club and "connecting" with a single male, you cannot always be so sure about them being truly single or not, but we do question them and try to get a feel about their honesty. I know this is a bit off topic, but just to clarify something...we would also NOT MEET a married woman who is cheating on their spouse. If we never met another single lady again, we just would not do it if we knew they were married. Obviously we cannot use the same verification with a lady, but many times we do talk to ladies on the phone before meeting. I was a single man for 12 yrs, and actually pretty successful at swinging as a single male. I think I had better luck with just the "general population" rather than with admitted swingers. There are alot of couples out there (on yahoo, AOL, MSN, etc) who have probably never heard of most swinger sites, and might never consider themselves to be swingers, but they still have that fantasy of having a 3some with another man.
  10. We have no problem showing our nude photos on SLS in public, as long as we don't show our faces. We do try and hide our identity so our private pics are simply face pics. You'll notice on our profile that we have some nude shots of Lisa, that have her face blurred out. The private pics are the same pics showing her face, and then one of me (clothed) and two of us (clothed). Jayson
  11. I'm not so sure that you do know what you're talking about....My wife Lisa just turned 42, and we get a tremendous amount of propositions from young men. Alot of guys as young as 18 has made contact with us from the various groups we belong too. To many it's either a big fantasy, or else they look at is as an easy way to "get a piece". Ever heard the term MILF?
  12. I would just send them a polite reply that you appreciate their interest in meeting, but at this time you just dont feel their compatable. If they continue to send any other emails other than one more to say "ok" or whatever, then block them. If they have your real email addresses then just ignore them.
  13. First let me say that we are fairly liberal in who we play with....but at the same time we don't feel we've ever taken one for the team. I (Jayson) am probably more picky than Lisa is, which is really kind of interesting, since Lisa could have just about any man she wanted. I, on the other hand am 47 with some gray hair, and need to lose weight. As for looks though I'm an average looking guy...so not dog ugly or repulsive or anything. Maybe I'm lucky that I have Lisa and her good looks opens up more possibilities for me. Maybe the other couple is so hot for Lisa (she is bi) that the lady of the other couple doesn't mind being with me. We also mostly play at on premise clubs, love exhibitionism and voyeurism, and maybe this helps us out, since we don't mind getting naked and doing "it" in front of others. Oftentimes that seems to be an invitation for someone to join us. Lisa has been much more "satisfied" by men who are probably over 40, and not a muscle bound young stud. Yes we've played with couples that we'd never date if we were vanilla. But then we tend to be with younger couples, and I'd never date someone so young in the real world.
  14. Shelly, if you are asking about the "lounge area" upstairs, meaning the bar area then the answer is (unless they've changed it in the last 6 months)......It's still there, although we have never seen it being used.
  15. We're just curious....once you actually lose your virginity, and possibly marry, are you interested in becoming a swinger? Just curious since you seem to be wanting to learn about swinging? Or is it just learning about sex with your future partner?
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