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Imswingin

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About Imswingin

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 05/07/1986

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  • Relationship Status
    Married female
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    Midwest
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  1. So hubby and I have said we would like to take a visit to a swingers club and we have put out some feelers on a site and gotten a handful of emails. We are hoping to meet those we are interested in the club that night. First we want to make sure that those people are aware that we may not be ready for play that night. As we get closer I can feels myself getting cold feet, and fears. My hubby reassures me we won't so anything that I am not ready for, and I know he is 100 percent truthful in that. Were you nervous you first night going to the club? Did you end up playing with anyone your first night? Whenever you did have your first time did you jump in two feet or did you dip in slowly and get "used to the waters" before proceeding further?
  2. Being upfront is important and don't mislead them. If it doesn't fit what they are looking for then they will probably move on. However, I can tell you from our perspective as my husband does have interest in male male play, the lack of it doesn't deter us from meeting that couple. I occasionally like anal but don't require it or enjoy it every time we have sex. So most likely they will be fine with the limits and boundaries you set.
  3. Thanks, this was exactly the type of situation I was talking about. We can gracefully say no to someone we aren't interested in before action starts. But it's how to gracefully end a situation that is about to begin or has already begun and isn't working. As a single girl it was easy to end things that weren't working for me, a simple headache or too much to drink could end it easily. It gets more complicated when your spouse is involved and we are interested in activities together not seperate, so excusing myself isn't going to work. I think we talked about sayin something simple, like "I want you" that tells him we can finish our okay exclusively and move on. Like maybe, we just got caught up I. The moment and finished worth eachother, no explanation needed.
  4. Hey guys, newbie here. One of my biggest concerns is getting stuck in an awkward or unwanted situation and not knowing how to get it of it, tactfully. So if hubby and I are asked to join a couple, we can totally tell someone thanks, but no thanks. My concern is getting into acts and something not feeling right, maybe it's an std concern or suddenly having a change of heart or once we get started things just aren't matching up. How do you deal with it, do you just keep going (of course not on the std issue) and take one for the team or do you have a signal or say something to your spouse letting then know this is over. Even if you give the signal and you and your spouse are ready to stop, what do you say to the other couple. Is there a way to end thing a wih the other couple and just finish fucking eachother? Is this a weird concern to have?
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