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Thanks for all your advice (some more helpful than others). I am always willing to look at both sides of the spectrum with disregard to casting judgement (to which I expected this LS to be all about). We have been cruising the boards, and after careful consideration we arrived at a mutual decision against it. We will start off by entertaining new friends. Thanks again.

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 6 yrs now (moved in year 1). After months of discussion we both feel open-minded (and freaky) enough to give the lifestyle a go. Yesterday we had a good long talk, airing out secrets we kept from each other in regards to cheating early on in our relationship. Mine was more of a rehashing of my extensive rap-sheet, but she revealed that she did sleep with her ex-lover around yr 3 after we moved in agreement to start anew. It was an isolated incident for which she was ashamed, however I have little room to be upset in light of my long list of transgressions. We are now in a happy healthy relationship. After mild hesitation she agrees that she too would enjoy the passion of bringing more fun into the bedroom. She then suggests that she could get in contact with her ex-lover as he would be her ideal candidate given her social inhibitions (shy). She says that they had limits to their past relations (i.e. no kissing, cuddling, etc). As much as I want to find issues with this, I am equally intrigued (I've always had a thing for the dangerous and uncertain). This guy is a bit of a thug and do not know how that will fare with my ego (I am very domineering in bed). I am a first time poster and would like any advice or similar stories in relation to my current dilemma.