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HollyGood1

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About HollyGood1

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 12/19/1982

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    Florid
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  1. We are new swingers. But we have done a lot recently, we have only been with one other couple multiple times. Yesterday I was having a deep discussion about why monogamy doesn't work. I used to be a die hard monogamist. My last serious relationship was plagued with cheating. I stayed faithful to him while I was being cheated on and when I left him I used to say there was someone out there for me who would be faithful to me for life.. like I knew I could. So now I am married to my husband and he never thought EVER, that I would want to be in this lifestyle because of the betrayal I had experienced in the past. Well, I'm the one who brought it up. And I realized how much I really enjoy all the aspects of swinging. Am I addicted? No. Do I want to do it a lot? Do I think about swinging a lot? Yes. But I think about regular vanilla sex wth my husband a lot each day as well. What's wrong with that? Lol My viewpoint is evolving, I am evolving. I have found I enjoy women, and I never would have thought that. I think about all the pleasures in life and I don't think I should be restricted from enjoyment and I don't feel like my husband should either. I want to see him in ecstasy. Cheating is not a worry. Jealousy is not there (I have never been jealous.. Even when being cheated on in the past). And now I have found that watching my husband with other woman is probably the sexiest thing ever.
  2. Thank you all for the support and advice. I realize how common it is and don't personally feel like it's a big deal. But I understand why it was an issue for my husband the other wife. Being new-ish to this also adds the element of dealing with the thoughts like 'the other couple is having such a great time together, they are really hitting it off... But my swap partner can't do the same... Is it me!?' Or my husband seeing how much fun/pleasure I was having and not being able to do the same and then hyper focusing on what im doing. We talked about getting a sample of Viagra or cialis as a trial and give him that piece of mind. I honestly just having it will set his mind at ease enough to get hard. Hopefully we get another try/chance soon.
  3. Yes SW, you read it correctly. The four of us are not very experienced swingers. Them More than us, and this 4-some is only been going on for a few months. It's our first swinging experience. So these are all new emotions and feelings to deal with. I got a chance to talk with the other couple and everything is fine. They understand and just said it was A let down. I told my husband he just owes the wife I just hope my husband doesn't get himself siked out for the next time.
  4. We have been swinging with another married couple, good friends of ours. Our children hang out together. We have a fun vanilla social life as friends and then have our dirty secret that we are swinging behind closed doors. We have a lot of chemistry and always have a good time. We recently went to a swingers club for the first time, and things didn't go so well. My husband had performance issues. He realizes it was all in his head but it was a big let down. Her husband is a spitfire and can cum again and again. I know this put a lot of pressure on my husband and I believe it has a lot to do with his "issue". Plus being tired, a new environment (club), and drinks all contributed. I tried to help my husband out... Didn't work. Me and my husband had sex once but he was not fully aroused. He was unable to swap with her at all. She was bummed out. And she felt like it was her, that he wasn't into her. This isn't the case at all. I'm not exaggerating when I say she is probably close to being hottest woman in any room. He feels very attracted to her and says they have a great chemistry...plus I'm very very into her. So me and her had sex, you name it.. Hoping to help my husband out with the visual. No go. In the end. He was embarrassed, we were all disappointed and now there is awkwardness between us. I don't want it to be the end of a good thing. My husband wants to keep things going. But I have no idea how they feel. I think she just needs to feel like my husband wants to bang her brains out and want her. He is always more cautious and reserved and I am the aggressor. I've even given him full permission to have sex with her without my presence there (different room etc) if it's hot and they are into it to give her that extra attention and make it up to her. I know performance issues are common in swinging, but this is a first for us. How do you avoid letting it ruin your group? What should I do next? I'm hoping me and her can go grab some drinks and talk.
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