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christnthms last won the day on March 21 2021

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About christnthms

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    Swingers Board Addict
  • Birthday 07/29/1972

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    single
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    Hampton, VA
  • Interests
    D&D, History, DIY projects
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    building maintenance
  • Swinging Experience
    want to start/ here for info
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    xx/xx/xxxx

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    christnthms

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  1. Unfortunately, we're not still together as a couple. We parted amicably, and the sex was never an issue. We've left the door open for each other if either wants to reach out. As to opening up an existing relationship, vs starting out that way... I think it's easier to start out open. But to those already in a relationship, that's not always an option. Certainly, it's better to get it out in the open as early as possible. But the reality is that many partners won't accept an open relationship, so you may have to face the hard decision.
  2. I certainly like the idea. I'm not aware of any existing lists, and I think I know why... Even in the swinging community, it is FAR far easier for a woman to have sex, than for a man. As such, the hotwife challenges are more aimed at being daring or adventurous with your sex, not just HAVE IT. It is presumed that you CAN have sex, pretty much as often as you choose. A guy, on the other hand, may or may not be just as adventurous. But he doesn't have nearly as many opportunities. Thus, the challenge to come up with a "hot-husband challenge list" has to find a way for him to demonstrate the adventurous nature, while not punishing him if he doesn't have new partners throwing themselves at him. Things that popped into my head while typing this... 1. Participate in a 3way, without your spouse. 2. Have your partner's spouse watch you have sex, without touching. 3. Come home from a date, and have your wife act out the things you just did with your date. 4. Go on a date, and have your date send your spouse selfies from her phone. My thinking with these examples is that they do not require access to a multitude of partners. In fact, a single playmate could be used to meet all of them. It's more about him setting up situations that are more adventurous than JUST having sex. Hope that helps.
  3. This answer is from my gf... She said she prefers inside- mouth, pussy or ass doesn't particularly matter. BUT, if the guy is going to pull out, she loves to be able to watch him cum up close. Whether it's on her face or tits isn't important. But the closer the better, and she wants to be able to feel the energy and urgency when he lets loose. So yes, she enjoys a facial. It's not so much about the face, but about enjoying getting a guy off.
  4. I'm not interested in wrestling with Chewbacca. But there is a lot of middle ground between a wild jungle, and waxed vag. As long as I have reasonable access, I'm an enthusiastic cunnilinguist. If a lady prefers to shave, that's fine. If she prefers not to, that's fine too. Just keep it trimmed enough that I don't have to spit pubes as I go.
  5. My current GF has been curious about swinging and nonmonogamy in general, and not found anyone she could be open about it with. When we started talking, and she found that instead of the idea bothering me, I was an enthusiastic supporter, she was able to talk about some fantasies that she's never been able to say out loud before. I don't think she really believed that it was okay with me. The first time she came to me after a hot date, she was so excited to shot me her creampie, and she came almost instantly when I pushed into her. I think that afternoon, she was finally able to relax and trust that I like her, even when she's leaking another guy's cum. She's still at the early stages of the lifestyle, and I"m encouraging her to take small steps so that she's comfortable at each new experience. But so far, it's been a helluva ride. To think that several guys let this one get away... well, it certainly works out to my benefit. As to sloppy seconds (or thirds, or fifths, or whatever), the hotter and slippery-er (yes, that's a word now) she is, the better. Also, the more turned on she is the better. She gets SO turned on showing off for me, that the sex can't be anything but amazing.
  6. You're taking my post out of context, which is odd since I provided context IN the post. You just chose not to quote that part. If you quote an entire post, it looks less like cherry picking and is less likely to be misunderstood.
  7. I 100% agree, and said nothing to the contrary. Consent is key to everything here, not just the spanking and choking. My point is that there is a strong "all rough sex is shameful and bad" vibe developing here, and that's just plain untrue. It is judgmental in exactly the same way that people here wouldn't tolerate if it were aimed at them.
  8. Consent and respect are a must... But there's a lot of judging here, that's surprising in this community. Lots of people enjoy very rough sex, and it has nothing to do with disrespect or violating trust. In fact, in many cases, it is an extreme expression of trust. I mean, the entire BDSM scene is an extreme expression of trust. You guys get that, right? I know it's not for everyone, and that communication and consent is key. But enjoying rough sex is NOT intrinsically disrespectful or dangerous.
  9. This is a pretty common "like" by women, in my experience. I'm not a choker or hitter by natural inclination. But I've learned to play along when requested. I think it's the kind of thing that really requires a comfort level and boundaries, though. As a personal guideline, I never, ever, choke unless it is specifically requested. A light smack on the ass is sufficient to test those waters. If she likes it, you'll get pretty direct positive feedback. If she doesn't respond, then it's probably not helping. As a guy, I kind of work off the assumption that the better I make it for her, the better it will be for me. Even in a very casual situation, this has been true for me.
  10. Love giving. Love receiving. Love watching. Yeah, ok, I just love oral sex. I'm simple like that.
  11. It's already been said, but I'll chime in with agreement... I'm not a very big guy, and I've been with partners who had bigger partners, and also partners who have had multiple kids. Not only did the size of her other partners, or having had kids, not matter. I'd even say that in a roundabout way, it helps. From my side of the equation, the thing that seems to be the greatest deciding factor for "tightness" is her level of arousal. It may be that a woman who has been around for a few more years and experienced a few more things, is capable of becoming more aroused, simply because she's less insecure and more comfortable. ...which also leads indirectly to an obvious "insurance policy" for any guys that aren't packing a massive personality... be sure that you're a generous lover, taking the time to get her as turned on as possible. It may be fun for her, but I promise that you'll benefit as well.
  12. LOL, mine seems downright tame compared... I'm always turned on by the sight of a woman blowing a guy in a very casual, leisurely way. Not the quick race to the end, but the relaxing sort of bj that's more of a promise than a finale. It's all that much hotter if I know that they don't previously know each other.
  13. This wasn't as hard for me as some. I definitely fall into both the intellectual and gladiator categories. But the effect of hormones and such... when the dick is hard, the brain shuts up. So, for the purpose of THIS survey and in the context of THIS website, it's like 90% gladiator.
  14. I'm sorry to hear about your experiences. I can only speak from personal experience, but the one full body shot you posted seems above average in fitness. I'm almost 50, and I'll admit that in my 20s I was pretty shallow about appearances. In those intervening decades though, I've had enough experiences that I've learned that attraction is a lot more complex than just appearance. Some of the most powerful lust I've ever felt was for a woman who's outward appearance was fairly plain. Some of the best lovers I've ever had were decidedly chubby. I'm no Adonis either, and like to think I know how to turn a lady on and leave her satisfied. I don't suppose a couple strangers on the internet are going to completely rebuild your self confidence. I sure hope it helps a little, though. Confidence, even when it has to be faked, can be one of the most attractive features.
  15. It's kind of disheartening the number of responses that are essentially telling the OP that his feelings are irrelevant, and that the ONLY consideration is whether she's happy. If this had been a woman posting about the a husband that wasn't a very attentive lover and was far more into other women, the streets would be flooded with compassion and the husband would be universally branded as a bad person. While not entirely surprising, this lack of compassion and blaming is sad.
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