Hello, my husband (of 14 years) and I have decided to try swinging, however, I have some reservations about him being with another woman. He expresses that it's ok that I don't do something I don't want to, after all, it's about having fun, and he agrees we try MFM. I am truly appreciative that he isn't pressuring and is supportive and doing and saying all the right stuff. But I feel selfish now, like I'm getting what I want and I'm not doing as much for him as he is for me. We are moving slowly, I am not saying MFMF will never happen, but what if it doesn't, if I can't ever get there? He is saying he'll be satisfied either way, but I am struggling now even with MFM. I don't want guilt and selfishness to have any part of our fun.