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Wifeypoo

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About Wifeypoo

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  • Birthday 11/27/1977

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    It's a Girl!
  • Location
    Washington State
  • Interests
    This is going to read like white trash olymics - Fishing, camping, hiking, drinking!, traveling, hosting, poker
  • Occupation
    Healthcare
  • Swinging Experience
    ~2 yrs
  • Anniversary
    07/07/2001

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    sleeplessinvancouver
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Sesso

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  1. We've started in the same room and then separated, started separate, and been in the same room the whole time...all is good! But the preference leaned towards same room because that's what USUALLY happens...so that's how I answered!
  2. We have only been in the LS for about a year. We have been tested twice and shared the results with partners. The purpose of testing the second time was so that we could play bareback (all four of us were tested). But as stated above, just a snapshot in time. We don't expect the other couple to be monogamous with us, so it's back to condoms (but what a fun trip). We don't expect others to share results, and even if they did - taking someones word for it is not good enough for me. HIV has a window period. HPV doesn't even get tested for (visual exam only). Herpes has a terribly expensive blood test that almost no insurance will agree to. Hepatitis B/C also has a window of negative. Playing bareback means your taking ALL those risks. That being said, I almost never see condoms being used during oral. Myself included. We also take special care of cuts, scrapes and oral hygiene problems (brushing too hard!) or no playing.
  3. We have been married for 12 years. There have been 2 times that we have seriously considered splitting. Both were before we were swinging and both were for pretty good reasons...personality changes that might not be compatible ever again. Turns out, one was caused by a disease that was undiagnosed (super bad sleep apnea from a tiny trachea) and long lasting grief from the death of a family member. Aside from those two times - I don't feel like I have to protect my marriage. But I do try to come up with ways to make it feel new and special. I guess that is a form of protection. But one I like doing! Communication, trust, respect - all that comes naturally. If you have to work hard on those things...hmmmm....
  4. I hear that Chicup! I wouldn't be into it if I were just an observer the entire time in any situation actually. I'm sure he'll chime in here sometime...but I don't think this is so much about the bi-sexual fun as it is the inclusion/exclusion and not knowing if he is there as a main or side dish to me. He very much enjoys being the main dish. Actually, using the same food metaphor, he would like to be his own one man buffet!
  5. I like this Michelle! I think mixing it up and being with some completely straight couples would be just a nice change too. Hubby? This is your thread!
  6. Your SO funny (and right) funcouple! We do the same thing by saying things in a kidding (but , no really now) way about all sorts of things! This should be fun for everyone...and I am good with or without the women playing together. Now when asked some really specific questions like "Does watching turn you on or interest you in any way?" The response is, "For about 30 seconds or so." Or "What if all this were occurring with you lying in the middle?" Answer "Well, THAT'S a whole different situation!" It's not the act that is a turn off it is the exclusion, and I TOTALLY understand that. I wouldn't want to feel left out either. We have only played with a limited amount of couples and only a couple of them more than once. There is this one couple in particular that we interacted with the first time and she was ALL about the Hubby. But since then, she has been wanting a lot of girl on girl talk, attention and when we played again last night - that was definitely on the menu. I think this switch in attitude has left Hubby with a bad taste in his mouth. I would feel the same if roles were reversed - especially since they matched up so well previously. We get along very well with these folks (both in AND out of bed). Would it be wise to just let them know how we are feeling? They are 'swinging veterans' and do know that we are still fumbling are way through the dark. If they wanted to hook up again soon, I would need to SAY something so things went differently...or turn them down all together. See, now I'm just rambling.
  7. I'm the wife in question here! He has told me. We definitely take the communication part of this seriously. I am totally willing to step back from the ladies if this is something that needs to be done. I like it not only because I find some women attractive, but because it adds another demention to playing in a four way scenario and more options! It WOULD be nice if there was a night that was ALL about 'husband'. I don't want hurt feelings - for anyone. We are still sifting our way through what works best here.
  8. This question gave me pause. I wouldn't discourage it if it were something my hubby wanted to try. But my initial gut reaction was...."No, thank you." I know I'm only thinking that way because of my own insecurities. What if he likes it A LOT?! More than me? I don't have a penis? This is not something I could offer him on the regular! But then I come back to reality and realize what we are is SOOO much more than any type of sex. I would give it a try with an open mind. I wouldn't lose respect for my husband, but there also isn't anything about the visual of him with a mouthful of cock that says "uber-masculine" to me either.
  9. I know I like closure. So I thought I would bring this back up since we finally met up with this couple this weekend! My inner Grandma would not let go, and I did bring them a bottle of wine. I didn't give it to them until they asked if we wanted to go back to their place for drinks. Then I said "Oh, I totally forgot! We picked you up a bottle of wine. Even if nothing had come of our meeting - I wanted to let you know I appreciated the effort of cleaning and offering to host!". They were very thankful and said they bring a little something along with them for first meets too for the host couple...even if nothing comes of it. I was SO relieved. The evening went really well. Our turn to host next time ; ). I'm still thankful for the advice here. This worked for these people, but if things had gone poorly from the start - or even if they had different personalities...I could see how this could have been misconstrued or inappropriate. The worst that would have come of NOT giving the wine that evening was that WE keep it....shucks.
  10. Do it ALL! Lick breasts, stick fingers in, rub fingers on her clit, GIVE oral. Listen to how she is responding...moaning louder? Keep doing that. Holding you tighter...yup...right there. Breathing turning into panting? Ding! Kiss with passion while your using your fingers...that drives me nuts! Who doesn't love a man that can multi task? If you can do me AND rub my clit...well then it's too bad we live on different coasts.
  11. Hubby loves it! Once we figured that out we experimented with all sorts of things. When in the right mood, even strapping on a toy and dominating him is something he likes...but that IS a LOT of work for me. I have to hand it to the guys here...those abdominal muscles used so naturally while thrusting...don't come so easily to me. He isn't in to men at all, but the idea of me having that kind of contol and dominance over him coupled with the extremely powerful orgasm that is achieved when your prostate is being pressured...well, worth the sweat : ). Other things that are enjoyable include having just the outside stimulated (or licked), or a good old fashion finger. I have to admit that I'm not that into the finger or licking. Mostly because I have a very sensitive nose and I don't want to stop playing to go wash my hand if there is any odor at all. So I bought a box of gloves. We don't do it that often so I also use them for our first aid kit and ugly household chores! With the licking...I got baby wipes and incorporate it into play as gracefully as possible. He is incredibly clean...this IS just a mental thing for me. I work in healthcare and am probably becoming neurotic about some things. I'm okay with poop being one of them. I like doing things for him that he is totally into even if they aren't my favorites. He does things for me that aren't his favorite either. If it were all one sided, I might feel differently of course. Then there are ALL the things we both like equally. BONUS!
  12. If you have the option of a meet and greet or a club I really recommend this. No expectations of play. People in real life (no photo shop required)! Opportunities to get numbers and meet up again. A chance to talk with people of ALL experience levels in real time...and an almost guarantee that you and your loved one will have some mind blowing sex of your own later talking about what's to come. If that's NOT an option....I am totally with these guys! Don't settle just because the internet is frustrating...the internet is just that, time consuming and frustrating. Initially, when we wouldn't hear back from a couple, we would take it a little personally! It felt like dating all over again!! But, we realized we were doing the same to others and got over it pretty fast. Your picky, I'm picky...we can do that because we already found the perfect person for us forever....I wish you both the best of luck!!
  13. Great advice! I was always told by my Grandmother never to show up to anyone's house empty handed! This is a hard lesson to UN-learn. But I can definitely see how a gift could create an idea of expectations and seem a little creepy when what I was really trying to say was "Play or no play ... thank you SO much for cleaning your home in preparation and offering to host." Turns out all this was unnecessary since they cancelled! She called and let us know that she was sick (sounded horrible and genuinely ill), I appreciated the call instead of text, as well as her NOT sharing whatever germs she has with us. We will try again another time when all of us can be at 100%. Hubby and I still went out to the local club and had a great time : )
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