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About swingymcgee

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  • Birthday 04/18/1986

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    Female half of a couple that plays both together and separately
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    Washington, DC
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  1. I like both! I'd say I have a very slight preference for uncut because I know they have even higher capacity for enjoying themselves.
  2. I've never been to any swinger party, young or old, hot or not, where people were just hanging out and dancing. There's always plenty of action. I really don't think it has to do with age or attractiveness.
  3. hi guys, just wanted to give you an update. i do think that his reasons are a combination of factors, but the fact of the matter is that our most recent experience left him feeling discouraged enough that he is not open to it at this time. i have pushed it a little too hard, leading to fighting and potentially more serious repercussions in the relationship. at this point, i have decided he's more important and i need to let go and focus on him. our foray was fun, and hopefully he will come around at some point (and be ready to address some of his own insecurities), but right now he's not ready.
  4. drinnt and daggersnroses, thanks a lot for your great advice. the more people i talk to, the more normal i realize all of this is. i think that with time and trial and error, he will figure out what works best for him. i know it's always important for the person who's less comfortable to make the decisions, and although i initially thought that would be me, it's definitey turning out to be him. so i'm going to go at his pace and if/when he's ready to try again, play by his rules. thanks everyone. cross your fingers for us being able to continue in this amazing lifestyle.
  5. hi guys, thanks for your responses. both situations were in the same bed, with us touching each other for much of the time. i think the issue is less just that he can't stay hard, and more about the REASONS he can't stay hard. i'm trying to determine whether it's physical or emotional, but i guess only he can figure that out. in the meantime, we are going to go on hiatus and i am going to have to just deal with it.
  6. hey there, we are having some issues. our relationship is not in jeopardy, we have talked through it but haven't really come to a conclusion about how we will continue. i feel very confused and sad, and i would love some advice. basically, we have had 2 full swap experiences, and both times, my boyfriend wasn't able to stay hard more than a few minutes. he has never had any problem with this with me, or with anyone else before our relationship. he felt (at least somewhat) attracted to both girls, but just couldn't stay hard. it has also been his first time using condoms in over a year, which might have contributed. he feels very emasculated and distraught about this situation, and neither of us know what to do about it. i have loved our experiences, and i want to continue. he feels very turned on by the idea of being with another woman (and seeing me with another man), but when it comes time to perform, he hasn't been able to do it. he feels like maybe he just loves me too much, and now can't have sex with someone else because of the strength of our emotional connection. i suspect this is true also, but i find myself so turned on thinking about the experiences we've had so far, and am finding it really hard not to check our accounts and read the messages i know we're getting. i feel like the right thing to do is to stop and delete our accounts and just be with each other, but i really want to continue. he says he is not sure whether the issue is the condoms, not being attracted enough to the girls, not getting enough attention from them (bc they were paying a lot of attention to me), or just that he feels so emotionally connected to me that he can't get it up for another girl. he says he is not willing to be with another couple with a bi girl...he wants to be with a girl who will only pay attention to him, make him feel masculine and wanted again, etc. i suggested that he just go out to a bar or club, like he used to do before our relationship, and find a single girl to bring home. i would not be there. this is the only possible scenario he will consider, believing it will allow him to figure out whether he is capable of getting it up for a girl who's not me. i'm fine with it (just wish i could watch! which he wants me to do, but i know a vanilla girl wouldn't be cool with, and a unicorn would be impossible to find). however, i hesitate because i don't know if it's what he really wants. he wants to do it as a first step to finding out if he can keep swinging with me, because he knows how much i like it. he would be 100% happy just being with me and stopping swinging, but wants to please me, and that's why he wants to do this. am i putting too much pressure on him? should i just accept that this may not be for him? is it wrong to let him try this scenario out as a way of getting back into swinging? i realize that ultimately, he needs to make this decision and figure out whether he's comfortable or not. and if he decides that he's not, i will stop. but i guess i want to know if other people have experienced something similar. side note: i know you'll see my previous posts and warn me that we're too young, inexperienced, etc. i get it. just skip that stuff and give advice on our specific situation, if you don't mind.
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