jordan11

You're completely right. He did take the time to learn what I wanted and enjoyed. The people I'm coming across aren't allowing for the same situation. They have told me they know what I need or blatantly ignored my cues and attempts at assistance. That's the problem I'm having at this point. I'm not a crazy control person but I do know what's best for me and I'm being ignored. It's weird to me because of my husband. When we first went in to this I was always reminding to pay attention to his partner, they aren't all going to be me. He needed to listen to them and watch them for pleasure cues and requests.

LOL I'm not sure I could be introduced to a new thing. Unless it's something I've watched on the internet and want to erase from my mind. I know there is the old saying don't knock it til you try it, but we love sex ( we've tried it if we wanted to) . I think your food analogy is interesting. My mom made me eat everything served. I had to try it twice to be sure i didn't like it. I do the same thing in life. I try everything twice to be sure. The situation I'm refering to involves things I'm intimately familiar with. It involved a total lack of skill ( I'm not familiar with that I'm familiar with what I enjoy and what doesn't do it for me.). The guy that said he knew what I needed continued to lick his fingers before touching me even though it wasn't necessary ( sorry to blunt) he never thought to explore first. The other one just tap tap tapped away. With his tongue with his fingers. Zero motion to the ocean. I wasn't ejoying myself so talked to my husband and we were out. I really hope this is a bad luck situation. I'm not down for meeting random people on the internet at this point. I like the safety of the club situation but I feel like I needed a screening card or something. Maybe make a fun we just met questionaire or something ( not really but Jeez!!)

TLDR: Personal History and Guys not taking into consideration what I want in bed. My Husband and I are relatively new to the life style ( sub 1 Year) but have been married over 15 years and still loving it. We still get called out by kids for their being clothes in the front yard or why the bathroom door at a party is locked for way to long. A little back history. I'm apparently what the kids these days call Bi-Flexible? I actually asked what that was when reading an article about it. It means that in the right situation with the right person your hetrosexual self can be bisexual. Cool Okay. We dated a lesbian couple for a while ( penis penetration sex not allowed) and we've hooked up with our best friend a couple of times. He still wasn't allowed to penetrate her in that way either. We had a random oral swap with a set of friends of ours. And he let me relieve a good friend of ours that was going through a break up ( he was there and participated ) this was all prior to us actually joining the life style. We did the standard head out to the club things the first time. Get way to nervous and just nail eachother all night in the different play rooms. We've gotten better at our game. The first couple of encounters always involved girls that were interested in "testing" out their bisexual curiosity. I played along ( no truly bi) in hopes of getting him some play too. Well the last 2 times we went out to play we had a different encounter where we actually met couple both interested in playing ( the point of this long drawn out tail) 1st couple he was attractive to me and she to him. Awesome cool Go for it. NOPE!!! She kept telling me how much I was going to love the way he did things. NOPE. And he wouldn't take direction would allow me to show him what I wanted. Just kept going his own way, which I understand is her way, and works. but damnit! Not good. Ladies he was a mouse clicker . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ( you get it) So I shake that one off and next time we're out. Same thing! No questions, no suggestions I show or tell him what I like. This one ( Obviously the sub in the pair) decided this was the time to pick up his skirt and grab his boys. He told me he knew what I need and how I needed it. O.o Umm..... I noped the F*$% out. So I guess my real question here is how do I get guys to take this into consideration? I'm not a crazy ball buster but I do like to enjoy the sex that I'm having. Help!