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shesmy1

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About shesmy1

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  • Birthday 05/28/1976

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    couple
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    AZ
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  1. Thanks bbarnsworth! I'm glad she and I both felt equally uncomfortable lol! And that Vegas/LA/San Diego are all close enough to provide a viable alternative option. The support is much appreciated though.
  2. Thanks AZCouple. I've seen their site. I'm just not sure it'll provide the club/dance floor scene we're looking for. We only get a weekend together every couple of months, so until she moves down here it's hard to get out and explore much. Not giving up though ;-)
  3. So we went out, had a couple of drinks and drove over to check the place out. The area of town it was in was no shit the ghetto. Found the club and the first impression was hell no. The clientele hanging out front scared the crap out of me. Mostly thug types, a couple of dudes that no kidding sported the epitome of pedo mustaches. The hourly rate flea bag motel behind the place creeped my gf out more than anything. We looked up the second place on GPS and saw it was literally around the corner. We decided to do a rolling check out, with the same or worse vibe. After some very short contemplation, we decided we'd rather wait for a Vegas trip and go somewhere that the mere sight of doesn't give us the heebie jeebies. Patience and baby steps.
  4. Thanks for the feedback everyone! We're getting ready now for a night out, hoping to hit the club. Wish us luck! I'll post a follow up when I can.
  5. My gf and I were talking about our fantasies, and her biggest one is to be on a club dance floor and have me come up from behind her and take her in front of the crowd. The appeal to her is for everyone to see what we have and want it. We have a long distance but awesome relationship: very secure, mutual trust, respect and acceptance. She's my one ;-) She assumed this was going to remain a fantasy until I told her about a sex club my friend worked at in Portland. We did some Googling and have found what sounds like a relatively acceptable club here in PHX. She'll be in town this weekend, so we're planning on hitting it tomorrow night. We've talked at length about what she wants and what her boundaries are. She's adamant she does not want any other male participation, which I'm fine with. However, from what I've heard about the two on-premise clubs in PHX, there are a ton of skeezers who follow women around jerking off. She's drop dead gorgeous, so I have no doubt she'll be the center of attention. I'm a bit worried that she's going to get out on the dance floor to set up her fantasy and get swarmed. I've also heard these guys will try to join in without invite, and I have visions of dudes going beyond a polite touch to ask permission and just go for the prize. I've read women's accounts about going into a situation thinking they knew their boundaries, and then getting into the thick of it and a switch flips and they discover desires they never realized. I trust her to know herself and what she wants, but I'm not so naive to discount these accounts. So we had even more discussion about boundaries. My goal is for my baby to fulfill her fantasy and have a memorable night. Ultimately what we decided is if either of us are uncomfortable with what's going down, we'll immediately and clearly say so. Other than that we want to go with the flow and what feels right without a million "are you ok with this?" questions to ruin the spontaneity. My first concern is too much pushiness is going to ruin her experience. I've read several people on here saying swing club members don't just arbitrarily grope others without permission, but I've gotten very different accounts from locals. Any experience or advice here? A secondary concern is I've read lots of advice on here about setting clear and absolute boundaries beforehand and sticking to them. Are we being too lax by just seeing where things go? Thanks for the awesome, open environment to share and learn!
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