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Dumuzi

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About Dumuzi

  • Rank
    le désir est la vie
  • Birthday 12/21/1973

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Philadelphia, PA
  • Interests
    Outsider art, roleplaying games, science fiction, fantasy, video games, diversity, alternative spirituality, philosophy, feminism
  • Occupation
    Consultant
  • Swinging Experience
    1 year
  • Anniversary
    10/29/2005

Swinger Info

  • Favorite Club(s)
    The Pleasure Garden
  1. We've decided that we want to move our exploration out of the hyper intensity of the club and find a small, intimate house party to attend. Do any of you have suggestions on how to find one and, even more importantly, determine if it is the right environment for us? We're looking for intimate, classy, and sexy.
  2. Well, I would agree with your post NiknMik except that THEY talked about polyamory before we ever even hinted at such a thing. In fact, we were both like, "Nah, we tried that and it didn't work out!" Truthfully, they were both 100% on board and were aggressive about us hanging out again....then vanished. Me and the husband talked on email a few times, just planning our next encounter, and then they ghosted. So, no matter how I slice it, there wasn't anything we did on our end to chase them away. But, I guess that's just how it goes.
  3. Thank you for your responses. At least I can feel comfortable knowing its not just us. Ah, well, that's one of the reasons we only play with other couples once or twice a year. We're probably closer to being poly than just pure, hardcore swingers, only in that we want a more meaningful connection with others in addition to the sexual fun. But, we also tried poly and it was just too contrived and dramatic for us. We're still seeking that gray space between being hardcore swingers and being poly, if there is one.
  4. So, my wife and I swing about twice a year. We just don't have the time or energy for it, I guess. Anyways, last week we went to our local swingers club and met this amazing couple. We played, but more importantly we really connected with them. They were funny, down-to-earth, sexy, intelligent, and really enthusiastic about our playtime. We had a great time, exchanged information, and emailed a few times. They kept saying things like, "Make sure you keep in touch with us!" and "We want to see you again!" Then...they ghosted us. What causes couples to ghost others? We didn't talk on email about anything that would have scared them away, just the most basic of pleasantries and making loose plans for when we would hook up again. And then...nothing. So, what's that all about. Please, help me understand. I assume anything could have happened: one of them could have reconsidered for a multitude of reasons, they could have just changed their minds...who knows. But, I guess what I am asking is: what have your experience been with couples who ghost, even though everything seemed really awesome between you?
  5. My wife and I are, once again, floating towards an open marriage. We explored it a few years ago, stumbled through some poly experiences, and finally came back to mono life for awhile. In the last few months we've started checking out the Pleasure Garden (swinger club) again. Now we're thinking/talking about doing the open marriage thing. Why all the vacillating? The first time around we had both made some poor decisions that dropped us into a situation where being open was a way to let off some steam and turn a potential disaster into an opportunity for growth and exploration. It worked better than we had hoped but not well enough to convince us that the lifestyle change was worth the necessary or beneficial in the long term. Now, however, years later, we're coming back around to take a second look at all of it (open, swinging, poly) in a more mindful, conscious, and conscientious way. We can feel the potential for wonderful things in opening our marriage, and this time we want to move slowly and really examine our motivations, fears, and hopes instead of just plunging headlong into something crazy. Open marriage fits with our philosophy about how we want to live in the world with regards to open love, freedom, and a new perception/experience of what our love for each other can be.
  6. I always find it a bit obnoxious when people write "We are really good looking and in shape so we only play with people who look the same" or some similar statement. I mean, yes, we all have preferences but there are some things that we won't write in a profile because it could be offensive and actually turn-off the very people we are trying to attract.
  7. Ah, yes! Will definitely put the mention of "geeks" back in, also. Thank you for your suggestions. Please, keep in touch with us?
  8. @mauijanedoe : Too bad there isn't a way to Friend you on SLS or this Board, like on FB (lol).
  9. C'est dommage! It does seem like there is no one on this board from Philly!
  10. Hmm. Stuff that gave window into our personalities? Like what? I will put it back in there if it made us hot. We are trying to find the FRINGE version of us, HAHA.
  11. @mauijanedoe: Thanks for the fast reply! We just made some changes, took out the negativity, and just kept things simple and sweet.
  12. @junglecouple: We like your profile...funny that you say about the same stuff we did, especially around the respect and how to send a proper email. Nice pic, btw. This is not a critique...we don't know enough to offer any suggestions, yet lol. Just wanted to say we liked it.
  13. Can someone please take a look at our profile on SLS and make suggestions for improvement? We get single men and people who completely did not read the part where we told them NOT to write us speaking street slang as a way to break the ice (sorry, I know that sounds snotty but we all have our things, right?). Our handle is Hades_Persephone165 Thanks!
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