canada_couple

I can understand the confusion. I suppose there is a lot of situations where the sex that takes place in the LS tends to be more along the lines "i want to see another man fuck my wife" which in my mind suggests fast hard sex (which is great and nothing wrong with that). I would image that for many women, seeing their partner have slow, sensual passionate sex with another woman might not be a turn on for them (I could be off on that) so I was thinking it is ok for a man to want to see that and if other people felt similar.

Wow...I'm completely jealous . I would like to have that situation to watch that kind of passion and see my wife make love but in a safe non threatening manner. I have a friend who we have gotten naked with but he has issues with sex and it never seems to turn out well.

Good to know your experiences which is much the same as I feel. I agree, I get much more turned on watching them kiss, touch and then slowly move to him being inside her and them having sex. This can some lead to the debate of "fucking vs making love" but I would rather phrase it as "fucking vs passionate sex"..

Hi there My wife and I have been casually into the lifestyle for the last three years. I say casually because we have young kids and finding time is challenging. Most of our experiences have been MMF's as it seems to be easier to find a connection. We have mostly played with one guy for the past two years on and off given our schedules. It's a real turn on for me to see my wife with another man. We we first started playing with this guy he tended to have sex a little more on the rough side. We've talked and my wife gets more turned on by the experience being more sensual - which he has been great with. For me however, it has also turned me on even more seeing my wife and him have more "sensual" sex than erotic - if I am explaining this properly. Is this normal? I trust this guy so there is no threat and my wife and I are solid in our relationship. I just find myself being more turned on fantasizing (along with my wife) about seductive, slow sensual sex. Appreciate the opinions.