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wow, wow This thread has really got'n us going... we haven't "over flowed" anything yet... but we talk about it all the time.

Sounds like a blast. But being 1 year in the LS my wife and I would only go if we we're hosting or were really good friends with the hosts AND knew 60%+ of the males. We have NEVER EVER had a "bad' person in the LS. We have been very lucky, so we are told. But at the same time we only go where we know the majority already. If we were in your position we would probably pass... Granted everyone's response is true... just too many unknowns for us.

That was the most polite redirect I have ever seen. I have been on forums for many many years and I am impressed with the manners of this group every day. Would it be possible for this community to create a utopia somewhere? If so tell me where and when... o wait.. I require being with in 50 mins of the beach at all times... so as long as the commune meets this requirement , sign me up. ;-)

Great idea! Wife and I both wanted to start with private house party and waited 3 months before we did a club. Looking back we should have done both. We personally enjoy going with a single or couple to the club OR atleast chat with someone(s) new and meet them at the club. Going with no warm up peeps makes us nervous but at same time there isn't any presure that if we don't click with the people we want to meet there... We have many couples we talk to at the clubs every time and never play with them, just not a click but we still enjoy chatting.

Wow just read more. So there are tons of reasons. 1) emotional 2) age 3) medication(s) 4) medical conditions Wow... I guess there are a FEW reasons it sucks to be a guy... but that is about all.. the rest is pretty F***ing awesome. lol

I can't wait to read all of these responses. First I would like to ad there is a double standard. When a man doesn't get hard, the women internalizes it as "he doesn't found her attractive". Which then makes most men EMOTIONAL, Not horny. Which then makes an erection difficult. But when a woman is dry, it means the guy needs to go down on her... guys don't think of this as the WOMAN isn't into me. If she doesn't get wet simply pull out some lube and game on. We even had a SM once who LOVES my wife and he only had a 80% erection during play time. She was SAD for two days before she told me why. So funny, this guy is crazy for her (in a good way, we are buds) BUT since he had a fuck fest for 3 days straight before we had a MFM with us, he was a little tired.. also only 6 hours of sleep in 3 days will do it. ... BTW I never did tell my bud she was upset about it... what's the point? As a 37 yr male I can tell you I have had issues with this since I was 19. I am very emotional during relationships and sex , NO I don't show any emotions-- typical man. But I have realized I base my actions on emotions of others not my internal emotions (require acceptance of others---)... really weird and if you bring this up to me in person I will deny ever making this statement. lol When it comes to sex with my wife (emotional bond) I can/have sex with her back to back for hours... normally till she can't take any more. I run daily and love to work out so I look good (not modest) and have great endurance.. but our first few times swinging didn't go well for me. I know good friends in the LS that can have 5+ orgasms and stay hard forever and my theory is they are VERY self centered when it comes to sexemotions (do not depend on acceptance of others). They are very polite and giving.. but their core values are based on selfish emotions.. nothing wrong with this at all as long as you are polite and considerate. Mean while I get my kicks on the emotions of others in and out of bed. When you ad nervousness to this .. it has a rocky start. I used trimix a few times and kicked my nervousness in the LS and now no worries. In fact we normally get double hitters in a night when we do go out. One couple isn't enough for either of us. Really good work out too. ?

Yes, yes and yes!! I'm glad I found this thread, I was going to post a new one about this. Wife is pregnant and WE are taking a break. She has told me I can have a hall pass but I need to tell her details after. I have not taken it once. Also I have friends that have single females, smoking hot, who want to play with me and I get text messages with pics every weekend of what I am missing and who is asking about me. YET I really don't feel the NEED to go. I feel like a total pussy to be honest... it kind of bothers me. I will take one soon but I can't explain the lack of excitement I have for playing alone. I guess I am a team player/ team leader. And when I am a one man team I lose interest. Very strange and I have been internalizing this for almost a month....

We have like 6 or so. We could have more but think 3 to 6 a year looks good. We steer clear from profiles with over 30 or 40. We have met some awesome couples with 90+ on their profile ... and when we meet them in person and they are really cool (and hot) I let them know we didn't hit them up BECAUSE they had too many certs/validations. We are all sluts but come one... let's not get too slutty. lol

My wife and I felt the same way about making friends... at first. We actually had plans to NEVER PLAY with the same couple/person twice. We still kind of do that. But what happened is we became really good friends with a few people. Really funny, having sex is like playing a really cool board game now. But I believe the real surprise is when you go as a couple you GROW so much together. It's hot to get ready for another WITH your spouse... AND you get to talk about getting laid with your spouse on the way, and after and days later. It is like a team on a date. SO MUCH fun. So it is true you share emotoins with another.. it is apart of it. But you already have a much closer relationship with your partner AND you spend more time with them on the pre PLAY and post play... so it is a HIGHER quality and Deeper emotional bond. The NEW emotions are nice but almost childish and fun. Like someone letting you play with a transformer toy (very small) and you brought your own LIFE SIZE transformer that can launch you to the moon and talk and stuff. (Sorry I have a 4 year old and transformers seem like a good analogy). So the new SHARE toy is fun and cool and you get emotionally involved BUT that toy isn't going to fly you to the moon and take you home... doesn't even compare.

I saw references on here and a few comments... didn't read all of them but I would suggest REFERRALS. My wife and I started out of the gate and met a few good single guys, some use to be in a couple. But we give referrals to other couples and the single males don't even need to look for couples anymore. Getting in is the trick. WE HATE when a single guy keeps bullshitting. Especially about how many chicks he has bagged and how big his dick is...who cares. We could all sit around and talk about our past and how impressed we all our with our selves... but why? That normally means the guy is in secure and probably problems. We haven't even played with someone like that, not even close. AND WE ARE VERY EASY... but if you bullshit you don't even make the first cut, no matter what the person looks like. We even have some peeps with helicopters and yachts... blah blah blah... who cares. Unless you are going to donate one of your toys to our family being real is the only thing important. lol

I have a perfect solution for you... well except it is in Miami. LOL MV has the red room, fully clothed and people play and watch. We personally like the private rooms but if you want to watch 70% of the people there are clothed and watching. You should go on a night with an expected large crowd to ensure the room is active, also if you are concerned about SM go when it is couple only. Long drive for you though. LOL If you go there are tons of ways to get free membership for club and very low door entry.

Have fun! I think the most important thing is for the female to watch the male. I am a complete perv and want my wife to do crazy stuff.... no jealousy at all. However there is a difference with NOT being jealous and FEELING left out. We have never had a problem but we worked ALOT on plans and stuff before we first played. When finding playmates it is easiest to have the woman choose on looks first... then have the guy set it up... atleast for us. Looks mean so much but also so little. It's like looks must be a minium quality to be attactive but will only get you so far. I would suggest an invite Meet and greet. Clubs are cool but very clickish and sometimes the music is so loud you can't even talk. Idealy meet a cool couple wiht more experience and have them invite you to people they know. We met enough people at our meet and greet it took us almost all year to go down the list. Oh yeah... HAVE FUN. Also ALWAYS respect each others opinion. If someone is uncomfortable NO explaination is needed.. just move on. Maybe later talk about it just for understanding but all emotions are important.

Nothing major but two funny things on our profile. 1) I put as our title "Hot Latina Wife looking for cocks" Or something like that. One it brought out a ton of SMs... two I later learned a "hotwaife" means a more than just HOT. lol 2) We put searching for " bi sexual couple" Didn't realize it was guy too... nothing happened but it brought up a few questions from others.

Nope, the wife and I did NOT have sex in school, high school. She was a senior in high school when her and I met. We were each others first and ONLY for 16 years. When we started the LS we jumped right into it. Full swap at a private house party, 3 weeks after we just started talking about it. Then MMMFF the next weekend. And a triple hitter the next weekend... just got crazier after that... lol.

Yes, 95% of the time. We get so few outs that we chat and talk for awhile before we meet. After the first 6 months we mainly get refferals and makes it even easier. If we don't play on the first date it is becuase of the other couple/single, not us. In fact we always have a back up plan... a single or couple on back up just encase. Takes the presure off the first date couple... so we aren't pushy... damn horn balls we are but are planners.