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JonMeg2112

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About JonMeg2112

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 02/03/1969

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Greenville
  • Interests
    Sports, Music, Movies, TV
  • Swinging Experience
    9 years
  • Anniversary
    xx/xx/xxxx

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    JonMeg2112
  1. It seems to be just like anything else. Being attracted to someone who has tattoos (certainly a lot of tattoos) is not for everyone. The wife has none and I have just a few but I'm seriously attracted to women with a fair amount of ink. Still searching for our "Suicide Girl" unicorn. :-)
  2. I hate to hear about the pain and loss you're feeling. It's fine to feel that way but he doesn't deserve more than another day of it. I promise you that he's not feeling the same pain you are. He may even pretend to but he seems like nothing more than a selfish manipulator. Be glad he gave you such an easy out when he said you both needed space. It's not an easy thing to do but the older you get in life the more you realize how much less time you should have spent thinking about an asshole like that. That's just me being brutally honest and trying to show you some "tough love". Pick your head up and move on. You seem like a very sweet person and I'm certain you are destined to meet someone that truly deserves the love you are prepared to give someone. And that person will love and RESPECT you back. Good luck and keep checking in with us if you ever feel like it.
  3. No, his behavior is NOT normal amongst swingers. Not even close! There is always a small group of people who get into swinging for the wrong reasons and they (or their relationship) usually doesn't last long. The majority of folks in the lifestyle do this FOR EACH OTHER!! It's obvious from your posts that your partner is doing only what he thinks is good for him. You have to muster up the strength to get out. Wishing you nothing but the best!!
  4. I feel you just need to talk open and honestly about it OUTSIDE the bedroom with her. Tell her how much it excites you and that you would definitely like to pursue it IF she is comfortable doing so. We have found from talking to many couples in the lifestyle that sometimes the female is tentative, not just because she's worried for herself but she's worried about what YOUR reaction will truly be once it starts happening. Reassure her and make her understand what you feel about it. For me it was all about letting my wife know that the excitement about it comes from me seeing her have fun and us sharing the experience together. Good luck and let us know how it goes!
  5. We were great communicators before we started exploring swinging but it has increased and opened that communication even more for us. And I'm not talking about just communication about lifestyle related things. It has really spilled over into everything we do so that we are never worried about hurting each other's feelings. If either one of us is bothered by ANYTHING in our marriage that person brings it up and we talk about it, understanding that it's not about being "mad", it's about letting your loved one know how you are feeling. Openness and honesty. Like I said, we thought we had that before (and we did very well) but the lifestyle has just made everything better. Our love for each other, our trust, our communication, our honesty and DEFINITELY our sex!!! It's ALL been pretty mind blowing and we really have just scratched the surface.
  6. We have been in the lifestyle on and off since around 2003. Our only experiences have been MFM but we have recently found the time and freedom to actively pursue our other interests (couples!). We've also met some really cool people in the lifestyle and love swapping stories and experiences.
  7. I think the feelings you describe your wife having is pretty normal. When we first started it was with MFM and my wife was very tentative. She didn't necessarily feel like she would be "cheating" but she was worried more about my reaction when I really saw her with another man, even though I had told her I thought it was hot and was excited about it. Her "cheating" feeling COULD be reflecting that attitude a little bit. Maybe she is just worried about what you will be thinking? I'm no therapist but it's a possibility. The key is to just communicate and take it really slow. Sometimes you don't know what either of your boundaries are until you push them a little bit. When and if it happens just make sure you comfort her and make her realize how hot it is and how much you love her. Once my wife realized how I really felt it was pretty much "game on". LOL Good luck!!
  8. We put in our profile on SLS that we will share pics with anyone interested (G-rated or whatever) and we expect the same. Every couple is different but from our perspective our time is sometimes limited and valuable so we certainly would want to see who we are meeting beforehand. We do understand people not putting pictures on their profiles but if we are communicating through, chat, email, text or phone and talking about meeting we think it's not unrealistic to expect to see who we are getting to know before we meet.
  9. I knew very early in your post that it wasn't going to be good. When you said he had participated in the lifestyle when the sex life in his previous marriage was "boring" that was a HUGE red flag. Anyone who gets involved for that reason is doing it for the wrong reason. Swinging should never be to replace something you aren't getting. That doesn't mean you won't experience new things but those things are meant to be shared with each other and then perfected...WITH EACH OTHER!! Sounds like what some here have said, that he's addicted to sex and he's doing this for himself. You should NEVER allow him to do anything because you want to make him happy or don't want to lose him. From what you posted it seems that this person is only concerned about himself. My initial reaction to that for you is to RUN!! Get out!! So sorry you are dealing with this. Wishing you nothing but the best of luck in the future!!
  10. We were also nervous about "taking the plunge" even after already having some MFM experiences. We told ourselves that whenever we go out we are going out for US to have fun and just go with the flow. Once you are out and mingling within the lifestyle you find out really quick that there are plenty of different people into plenty of different things. Some play a lot. Some are more selective and just like to hang out and have fun. The one thing that MOST of them have in common is that they are respectful of rules and boundaries. I'm not so sure now why we were so nervous in the first place! :-) Good luck and thanks for sharing your story.
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