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  1. That's been my issue, I do wish mine was smaller. I've done anal once and was slow. However, my wife gives me great head and does enjoy it now that she's use to it, but I still have to be careful about banging in certain positions, but she can take it all in. The next go round was a slow process. Her husband seemed more interested in her taking it in than she did. I did go slow and she said it really felt good as long as I didn't get carried away. Before the night was over she really seemed to enjoy it fast in certain positions, but she did tell my wife she could hardly walk the next day, but that it was a good sore...lol. Here I was with the larger cock jealous watching the other guy bang away with my wifes legs almost behind her ears, I could never do that. However, his wife gives great head, she was really good using both her hands stroking why she took in as much as she could with her mouth. The only issue we had that was a lil concern was again condoms. I also blow big loads, simply, I can make a big mess. Not sure if it's related to size, but it always has been a concern. With tight condoms that often break, when I cum it can break them. This did happen once. Having finished I pulled out, but it was done. Course, my wife and I know we're safe, we haven't been with others for over 15 years and had recent test. The other couple hadn't been with others in 5 years and also had recent test, just something we all agreed on. I know it doesn't cover everything and always some risk. It's also a matter of trusting others that certainly don't have to be honest if they're messing with others, as much as we feel they're being honest now. They did swing years ago some, but say they're just looking for a love couple like we were. We all would prefer bareback for pleasure, but it's a risk that we have to discuss more and all feel safe about.
  2. Been awhile since I've been here, but we did have our first experience with this couple, that led to a few more with them. They had some past experience, but haven't swung in years, jobs, kids, but they seemed more emotionally prepared the first time, my wife and I were a nervous wreck, like virgins, but both so highly excited. We decided the first night was to be soft play, well, medium play. Our ground rule for the first meeting was no matter how excited that there would be no sex the first time and told them, they were fine with it. I was nervous about my size and so excited I was also worried I would cum in 3 seconds. We lit one candle, so the room had a little light and all laid in a king size bed together. It was strange at first, probably took us an hour to get our clothes off, slowly piece by piece, each of us just doing foreplay on our partner and then my wife and I basically watched them. They told us that we could start by just touching them while they had sex, so we did, just soft rubs, she was basically on top of him going slow while we touched them, it was erotic as hell for all and they got off. His wife was orgasmic, seemed she was cumming every minute if that's possible Next, we did it in reverse. Why my wife was giving me head, the lady was beside her and I felt my wife put her hand on me, there was some talk about wow, obvious her husband saw it and said he would love to see if his wife could take it, but we didn't get there...yet. Anyway, my wife gave me head, I knew I was gonna cum fast, so told her very slow, even stopped her a few times. I knew the man was behind my wife rubbing her ass and a few times heard him say "Is that OK or doe's that feel good and my wife would reply with her soft "mmmm or yes and go back sucking. He wasn't fucking her as we hadn't yet agreed and they were really nice about being slow. I wasn't sure, but my wife stopped sucking me and I felt her tremble and almost a quite moan as if she came, but went back sucking. The other lady stroked me great while my wife sucked, I came fast and hard. It took a few more minutes, but I wanted to please my wife, so I went down on her why they rubbed on her. My wife is a lil bi curious. We've discussed it and she says she's not gay or really bi, but that soft touching or small things with another woman would be OK. The couple each were licking her breast why I went down until she came. They were certainly horny again by the time we finished and I knew we would be again in moments, so back to watching them, but this time we got more involved. As his wife gave him head, I did say I would love to see my wife suck him and she did, taking turns. He wasn't hung, maybe 6 to 7 inches, but had some thickness, but my wife easily took all of him in her mouth..I must say I was so excited I was about to bust again. I started fucking my wife from behind while she took turns sucking him. When he came in her mouth I blew the biggest load in my life...yea, he had a condom on, but the long fantasy of watching her take a load of cum in her mouth while I did her from behind...it was exciting. Long story, but it basically ended there, we had to get home and were already late, but more talk of another get together and all went home. My wife and I fucked again later that night. We didn't do really any of our kink talk with them, but we let loose about them when we got home. My wife did say as the man was rubbing her ass that he slowly made passes at her clit and finally put his finger in her and slowly stroked her, which was OK and she said she came. We both agreed we wish we would have gone further, but really it was erotic and great for a first time. I sort of joked with my wife about why didn't she really get kinky, ect..., she did the same with me. Course when we had sex we acted out how we would be with them next time...next time came the next weekend and it was fantasic.
  3. I think a few have given the most important advice, talk about it outside the bedroom.
  4. I tried to read or glance through the post. I've been with my now wife for 17 years, married 15 and we're now in our 40's. I was pretty wild in my single life, but by age 35, my wife had only been with a few, mostly because she stayed with one man for so long. I had fantasy of others in my previous marriage and it came up a few times, but there we're too many trust issues and problems. I slowly made others part of our lovemaking and even though it took some time, my wife grew into it and really enjoyed it. Sometimes I felt like I may have gotten carried away in some of our fantasy talk and fantasy sex with others and would ask her "doe's this bother her", wanting to be sure she has no problem with it and she clearly states she loves this aspect of our sex life. Why we considered other actual people we never moved into that realm, just now slowly starting. Actually, we just met with a couple yesterday for lunch and we're all meeting tonight at my getaway cabin to cook out and see how it goes. I do know both have to be 100% in love, complete trust with no jealousy issues, if I didn't feel I had that with her or her me, we would never venture into it. For us this is about us and fulfilling fantasy and taking OUR sex lives to a higher level. See, due to our culture much stigma is placed on sex. My wife and I both grew up in fundy churches. It took me years, but why I still have beliefs I hate religion because it mostly controls us with fear and guilt, not love for others, religion often breeds hate, racism and bias towards others. It took us both years of study to shed much of the bias religion and culture ingrained in us. This culture still exist today and even has great effect on secular people and marriage and I think it effects us all at some level. I do think most responsible swinging married couples are very moral loving people. Certainly many singles probably get involved for sex, but I think the married couples that do this really love and respect their partners so much so that swinging is much more than sex, it's about fulfilling each other. I think it's important to test your motives, if I had any doubts about my partners trust or emotions, I wouldn't do it. It's very important to let your partner know they come first and this is about you two equally and you want them and would never leave them regardless if they swung or not. Even with all my wild desires, I love my wife and would never cheat on her. In 15 years of marriage, I can honestly say I've never had a desire to go find another woman, I haven't so much as held another womans hand. Even in my private sex life masturbating my wife is part of it, not that she would care if I didn't. Sure, I'm sexually attracted to other women and may have thoughts in the moment, but I've never desired to cheat and I can tell my wife anything that goes through my mind without jealousy or being judged. I don't have experience to judge others. I'm sure the emotions behind swinging are complex and differ with people as in all things. I do think married swingers trust so completly they are able to disconnect sex from stigma and it's about both, not one partner. Married swingers would be devestated if their partners cheated on them by breaking their set bounderies or emotional betrayal. It's a shame that society deems somehow these people are less in love with their partners, they would feel much the same emotional pain if their partner betrayed them as any other, maybe moreso because they have enough maturity and love that they can be honest with their partner, whereas most people keep their inner desires hidden from their partner. I have no doubt the reason for so much cheating and divorce in the real world is due to couples not being able to share their most inner thoughts without fear or jealousy, this breeds an inner distrust. We all know we have these thoughts to a degree, if my wife and I couldn't share these, then all you can do is suspect what is going on in their mind, which leads to suspicion, distrust and often betrayal. By reading the post, I can't say that I think you two are quite there, but the question may be more needing more time to work through the issues. I do think it would be a bad idea for any newly married couple to start swinging during periods of emotional trauma until those issues are resolved. I do think you can build a much stronger bond during trauma that will build the trust where you could share this. I do know trauma, during these events just naturally for us we don't include as much fantasy and it becomes more emotional. My partner knows my desires, but she knows she is first and I would never risk losing her over any fantasy, for us, if we take it to the next level, it will be about each other, not just sex..If reality doesn't work out like fantasy, we have no problem with just each other.
  5. I've certainly never had an ego about, spent my life thinking what girls would say. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 19, but more I liked to fish. Funny, the first girl was 5 years older, had experience, very small waist and had some ass to her and it wasn't a problem with her overall, but certainly became one after that. We met with the couple for a late lunch and spent most the day and evening together, but with kids, we didn't go late into the night, not that we were planning it, but I'm sure it would've worked that way so we're meeting tomorrow night, they were very nice and made us very comfortable, we're all excited about tomorrow.
  6. Yea, that would've done it for me. The way we feel if we limited ourselves to only perfect beings we could miss out on the most fun and possible good friend connections.
  7. Trust me, you don't want to be over large, it has been an issue. I know years ago I was in some good relationships where I was probably broken up with over it. I would give anything for a 6 inch cock.....
  8. My wife did talk with her today and explained the details. She said the lady could only state she would do her best, but certainly not make me feel uncomfortable and that she likes some size, but obvious can only do the best she can. She says her husband would be turned by the idea of watching her with us all the more. She did say if things worked, that it's easy to be creative so all are happy. Obvious the other issue is protection, I found some special order condoms that may work, but those things have always been such a problem for me. Yea, I'm sure they're plenty women that could handle me and more and I may do better in a more open club where choices aren't so limited, but we're just seeking a couple to get us started and go from there. I have changed my profile to state hung, but I just don't want that to be the case people want us or don't want us. Several have asked for pictures, but I don't want to put my cock on the net, not that anyone would know if it was mine or not. Placing ads has been fun, but it's becoming more work and a task trying to respond and chat with all the people, so just concentrating on a few.
  9. I know many guys claim they want a bigger penis, I would love to have a smaller one. I know in the porn world much is made of those big peckers , but that has never been my experience. I have been only with my wife for 15 years, but before her in all the years of my sexual life, first times were more embarrassing than not. I grew up in high school being called the 3 legged man, knowing both guys and girls were always looking, had to adjust it, didn't like wearing tight jeans, joked about, etc...My male friends called me "Bud man" because my girth probably matches a beer can in the upper portion. I often heard guys say " I wish I had that", but they have no clue. My pecker has had more nicknames than one can imagine, people thought it was funny, but it was actually hurtful. First time sex, often heard comments like.."no way, that will never fit, etc" Most sexual experiences were difficult, once I got in always had to go real slow, be careful, don't bang, that hurt's,etc...and trust me I tried in everyway to be a great, slow and careful lover..... Yes, most girls I dated for periods of time seemed to get use to it and said they really enjoyed it, but only a few in my life could I really go at it, most I had to let them work and get use to it at their own pace. My wife is thin with some decent curves, but it took her some months to get use to it. She says she loves it, but I still have to be careful. Sometimes I use a 6inch dildo on her and can really bang her with it and she cums so hard and I just wish I could do that....just bang away. I think we're getting close to having our first experience. We've met two couples we're really interested in, one has issues, so out, but the other lot's of chatting, one meeting for coffee and still talking. They are more experienced in this field and know we have none. We all really like each other. She is thin, small waist and hips....I'm not saying that determines how things fit, but from my past girls with wider hips did much better...so worried there. I feel if we ever get into the bedroom and get naked and start touching, my cock will be an issue. There has been no talk about size per say, except in joking jest my wife commented I was large. Another issue is this...condoms, always been a problem. I haven't used them in so many years and thinking we could do this have searched, still can't find the right size, the biggest in the market I found was 9inches, I tried it, sort of works, but still not good enough. I'm 11-12 , but wide and condoms just never really worked for me. When I can get one on, it leaves much of the shaft uncovered and they are so tight they hurt and I often lose my erection. I've broken many a condom in my past. I am still looking hoping I will find something on the market today. My wife is talking and chatting with this woman, I some with the man. I told my wife maybe to just bring it up with her. Do you think that would be a good idea? My wife, although thin has gotten use to it, but I still can't do certain things, like bang full force doggy, legs over head, etc. I'm sure they're women in the swinging world that love and can handle big ones without problems, but we're looking just for a couple to play with first, maybe move on from there.
  10. Being new to this, our few ads we haven't run into that. Maybe because we're in our 40's, but my wife is a stunning beauty, me, I think I'm OK, still in good shape because I've worked out all my life, wife says I'm handsome, but I know compared to her, just not the same level. We put up one ad and it got over 40 hits in one day from men and women wanting to get with us, but I know it's mostly her by all the comments. I just take it in stride...... However, even with all the good looking younger couples coming on, we're both more attracted to the average older couple near our age, I know she is, even with hot couples in their 20's wanting to play. I know neither of us have to have perfect specimans, in fact the thought of being able to play with different body types is part of the fun. My wife still has her model figure in clothes, but obvious has a few issues from children, some stretch marks, boobs aren't as perfect as they once were, but to me those are beauty marks, they show her love for us, what she went through to bring my kids into the world. I've never once in 15 years made a comment about these, men that do are shallow. My poor thin wife really got big during pregnancy, went from 110 to 170....I loved the feel of her when she was larger.
  11. I just joined here, my wife and I haven't done it either. Like you I would love to see my wife with another man. We've been together for 15 years. I'm not sure how it started, but other people came part of our sexual fantasy world. When we met, my wife was very moral, not so much religious, just strong morals. We actually dated 8 months before sex. Sex was good, because she's a beautiful woman, very graceful and elegant, but I was rather kinky, she was not. I slowly worked her into my fantasy. Don't get me wrong, she would do most anything in bed, but I didn't tell her about wanting to see or have sex fantasy with other men, this went on for sometime, what a waste of time. I slowly worked her into it. For one we have perfect trust, we would never cheat, never have in all these years. I would bring toys, we would watch porn and I found her to be openminded, but I didn't rush it. I can remember the night I did. We had watch some porn of a pretend man watching his wife get fucked by another man for the first time and while having sex I started rubbing a dildo over her mouth. I didn't say anything about another guy, just did it as we often played with toys. I started making comments how great it looked to watch her suck while I fucked her and she did, but I didn't mention it being someone else. She was just getting good at dirty talk. That went on a few more times and I could tell she was turned on so I would make comments that I loved seeing another cock in her mouth and I slowly turned it into a third guy, like when I'm really going at it and she's sucking it with me making statements like..."I want to see you make him cum" It wasn't long that we opened up about fantasy. I didn't want her to think I was perverted, just I loved to see her work, hear her talk and the thought of another guy with her turned me on. It worked out great, slower, but later anything went. We have enough trust with no jealousy that she can tell me what man or she tells me to pick one, she knows it turns me on and says the real turn on for her is to see how it gets me going. There is a great looking man that lives across the street, I know she thinks of him some, we even have a vib named after him. She is now so good at it she can talk and make me cum without touching. I think after dildo's, we got one of those squirters, a toy you fill with your favorite love edible juice. She loves to feel that as we both play talk another man is cuming in her mouth or whatever. Certainly it wasn't part of all our love making, but it became a large role. We started playing the other night, more of a quickie and one of those times I was having a hard time getting there, wasn't long she started the talk, said she needed a cock in her mouth and placed my finger in her mouth, she would suck a lil, then take it out and tell me how she was going to make him cum down her throat in such a sweet elegant voice.......BOOOMMM. I think the issue is trust, once you have that and both are secure then you would be surprised what dirty thoughts we all have and want to do. She tells me women want things just as much as men. These slow events got it. After some of our wild sessions pretending she is with other men, I sometimes ask her does it bother her, she just replies that she's a lucky girl. However, we still haven't crossed the line, even though we talk about it, but mostly when having sex, once we cum, it's basically a mute issue. We have discussed it and it could probably happen if it was the right situation and it just happned, but like you I want to move it to the real thing. I know it's a great turn on for her, but we never do it. Hopefully we both can make it cum true soon......I don't know we could go swing, but we have been talking alot recently about just visiting a swingers meeting, so I think she would. My wife is hot even at 45, great face structure, modeled when younger, a former Winston Cup girl... I'm sure with her grace and charm of a 30's hollywood actor, she would have plenty of guys to choose from.
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