Wife and I have been looking on and off for years for a bi male playmate, most recently to play with me while she watches. We start making contact and everything looks good and then, right as we're trying to arrange a time to meet....nothing. They seem to disappear from the face of the Earth. Usually it's when the guy expresses a kink that crosses a line for us (sex in public, recording, meeting without my wife present, etc.) but we politely refuse.
Any tips on how to find a bi playmate?