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jandscincy

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About jandscincy

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  • Birthday 08/25/1974

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  1. Hmm...Interesting...I thought of hobby as the less intense of the two words but am totally on board with the rest of your description of the use of the word lifestyle. I still refuse to use it, though. I just can't make it jive in my head with what we are doing/attempting to do. Everyone else: those magazine ads seem like a SLOW way of getting things done! I am doubly thankful for short-attention span internet after reading your accounts!
  2. It's my thread so I can continue to jack it, right?! Actually, it scares the pants back on to me to call this a lifestyle for me at this point. We take it seriously, and did not make the decision to begin lightly but to me, to call it a lifestyle means that it needs to take too much time and encompass too much of my world? My lifestyle was pretty much set before I decided to increase the maximum occupancy of my bed...Do I mis-understand the word "lifestyle"? It's not a hobby for us either...and certainly not something we chose to do as a part of a fad.
  3. How did couples go about meeting other swingers before the internet? I've rather burned myself out with the profile building, picture taking, internet research, etc. But then I thought about how very much harder this would have been before I had all this information at the touch of a button. Whew...most likely it wouldn't have been worth the trouble and risk. So, not really a question. Just more of a comment and a bit of gratitude to help with today's grumpiness on my part!
  4. Looking at profiles, I recently realized that I get a small twinge of jealousy when my husband expresses a preference for a blonde! Since I am a brunette (well, red right now;)) I think I feel this way because he is picking something "other." I am thrilled that I saw it early and that we can laugh about my "blonde bias" but since we are very, very new at this I think this issue will be worth watching! He jokes that we should focus on couples with brunettes at first just to be sure! I guess what I am trying to say is that it is nice to get affirmation here that gung ho and happy to be moving forward can co-exsist with those small moments of jealousy!
  5. I'd love to get rid of labels in real life but when I'm looking for a partner in an ad or someone asks in a swing situation it is helpful to have a shorthand so that expectations are clearer (more quickly in wiring or online- obviously in person more communication can take place). So far, I can't figure out a shorthand that works for me...
  6. Awww...What a lovely night for you and what a nice post! Successful first time outings like yours bolster my confidence. Now...we must choose an inaugural venue.....!
  7. This thread started an amusing game in our house...since we are so new to this and haven't met anyone (save the one Craigslist MFM that thankfully was a success so I didn't run screaming for the hills!). OK, anyway--- we haven't had the chance to see how potential partners react to us or how we might react to them. We did, however, cycle through our list of friends, neighbors, business associates, kids' friends' parents etc and share who we might be interested in! Turns out that I (Mrs. jands or S) am FAR less picky than Mr. jands, at least in talk! That was a surprise to me.... I rather thought men looked at an opportunity as an opportunity!! For me, it is about comfort level. If I can talk with you and relax then I suspect the rest will come naturally? If you are pleasant and fun that's good enough for me. I don't have to look at you over my Cheerios for the next 20 years!
  8. Well, I just love learning new vocabulary! I had no idea how very little I really knew! Fun, fun! Now that I know the term, I like to see one!
  9. BucketList- I could not love your screen name more! So perfect! Wish I'd thought of it! We are new and will likely run into the same trouble so I can't help but I couldn't let the name go without a comment! Clever, clever, clever...
  10. Excellent advice and a good reminder but I really should have spent more time naked in my twenties!!!
  11. Mr. Weloveeachother- the sexy grin is the best! It is tricky to remove and seems to last for weeks. The "post-game wrap up" as J calls it is nearly as good as the real thing! I am thankful for that because opportunities are a bit few and far between....
  12. Doug- I did get your PM. Thanks for the welcome. I'll try to respond soon and I will watch for you and your wife to work through these little issues and then maybe we can talk! I'd want you guys to be as pleased as J and I are with how things are working out!
  13. I used a bit of alcohol in the few minutes before the man my husband and I were hosting for an MFM arrived because I was so nervous that I was shaking- no regrets, just social nerves. Hey, its been 18 years since I've taken my clothes off with anyone but my doctor or my husband and this body is NOT 19 anymore (I miss you, 19 year old body- you were lovely....)! I had enough to drink to mellow the nerves but not alter the personality. I'm incredibly new to this and likely others with more experience will offer better answers but I will offer my (very, very) limited view: if you even suspect one or both of you will have regrets that alcohol will mask during the heat of the moment then maybe this isn't a great idea for you right now? I try my very hardest to live life with no regrets. Ironically, that's why we are are here! We didn't want to wake up at 80 years old and say, "Oh, man. I really, really wish we had followed through with that dream of sharing each other back in 2011." The flip side is that I try not to get into situations where I suspect on the front end that I may come out the back with regrets. Good luck to you and your wife!
  14. I know this is an old thread but I am wistfully reading all the accounts of house parties....that is exactly what would appeal to me but as an impatient newbie it feels like a long time in the future before we can make that happen.... Our first foray was a success and we are both pleased as punch! Getting there is half the fun, right?
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