Pleaseher6

Clearly its the mark of an unselfish husband to allow his wife to achieve sexual gratification with another, given medical problems which prevent him from pleasing her. Over the years I have met a few couples where the male half suffered from ED issues and were looking to "Spice up" their sex life. In one relationship a 45 year old husband who was extremely well hung, allowed me the privilege and pleasure of pleasing his beautiful 34 year old wife. Earlier in their relationship she was well satisfied with their sex life. As age and medical issues took their toll on his body he could no longer please her with the same efficiency and wanted his wife to enjoy her sex life, as he truly loved her.

Exactly!!!

I think it depends on ones comfort level whether to go bare or not. First and foremost if I ever thought that someone I was considering to have sex might have any STD...I would run. I avoid anyone who is an illicit drug user. Sex whether "gloved" or not is not a consideration in that case. I tend to like being with Married Couples in their late thirties to early fifties, where the husband is straight, and have children. They have no reason to lie about birth control and as parents are concerned about the welfare of their children. I make it a point to tell women who I am with that I am not "Surgically Safe". I usually ask whether they are Surgically Safe or if on Birth Control, and what they use for protection. Keep in mind that condoms have a 5% failure rate with women in their childbearing years. Also keep in mind that women who are 45 and older, suffer primary infertility with only 10% getting pregnant after a year of trying. The rate of miscarriage goes up exponentially for women in their forties and older. On one occasion I went bareback with a good looking wife in her late thirties using only Natural Family Planning after she "forgot" her diaphragm at home with her husband's approval. I think it's important to understand that they had three children together, and successfully used NFP together for nine years after their youngest was born without even a late period. We went bare twice in one night, I did not pull out. That night everyone had a great time. Importantly she did not get pregnant.

I once had a Married Woman as a lover who had a preference for Lunch Hour encounters. She was a mother of four who loved sex the way it was intended, did not like a man cumming in her mouth and usually went into orbit when we came together. Every time we met she brought a larger shopping bag into our room and made the notable remark got to be prepared. We had fantastic sex and she had a preference for Missionary and Riding Cowgirl. Upon consumating our sexual union she would press her thighs together and travel to the bathroom with kit in hand. She would turn on the shower, get her kit together and call me into the shower with her. Upon entering the bathroom I noticed a large red douche bag and vaginal syringe hanging from the shower curtain rod. We would soap each other up, I would masterbate her as she inserted and manipulated the douche syringe as we stood together in the shower. Naturally we would kiss and rub each other until she told me to release the clamp. Upon letting the water flow, our love juices were flushed from her pussy down her thighs, onto our feet and tub floor as we kissed. After ward she would always say about how much better she felt as we toweled each other off. Very hot!

As a straight Male, I prefer pleasing a hotwife before her husband's very eyes. To me it's about pleasing her and putting on a show. Driving her wild and playing "Gas Station" as he watches or films is a major turn-on. Equally important is the fact, that I don't mind him joining in later. For doing a hotwife as she blows her hubby or receiving a bj from her as he does her is not a problem. They way I see it incidental contact is not problem, yet don't care for any intentional contact to my body by her husband. The focus is on acts which lead to her enjoyment!!!

In some ways I am sympathetic towards your situation. You remained married for nine years and had established ground rules for swining which were violated by her. Would you have allowed her to become pregnant through Artificial Insemination or seeking a surrogate without strings? Most Women by nature have a desire to bear children. I also think that as one who is religious you need to speak with your Minister. I think that you should also consider that in Judaism a Rabbi cannot perfrom a marraige for an infertile couple under religious law. The fact that you were married for nine years and were childless suggests you are infertile and your ex or soon to be ex suffered from secondary infertility married to you. So in Christianity, a Judaism based faith, one might find your marraige invalid for that reason. Swinging placed a temptation before her and it proved too much. She became pregnant. Did the bio father interfere in your mairraige? Did she continue with her relatiohship with her lover proving detrimental to your marraige? The fact that you stayed with her for a temporary period after the childs birth in some ways serves to validate (ratify) your desire to be a father to her child.

Very Hot! I think your experience is more of a Breeding Session rather than what many might term a "Fertile Swing". In your experience conception and pregnancy were the goals whereas I think "Fertile Swing" means sex absent artificial birth control with a possibility of pregnancy whether remote or of a higher probability without becoming pregnant as the goal.

I think it's almost always a good thing to fulfill the fantasies of others. I think it's exceptionally hot and if all agree and want to do it, why not? I also think there are a lot more people than one might think who engage in this type of fantasy or even might want to have a child when they suffer from secondary infertility.