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sexyjc

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About sexyjc

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  • Birthday 05/27/1973

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  1. There was a skit on SNL years ago (Kevin Nealon, I think), where he was an adult film reviewer. I don't remember it well, but his reviews went something like this: This week I watched Debbie Does Dallas. At first I was interested....interested....interested....more interested....VERY interested....not interested This would repeat for any of the movies he reviewed. A funny metaphor about a man's phases of arousal. Don't worry, I think that it's universal that all of those hot ideas you have when you're really horny just don't sound hot, and maybe even shameful, when you reach the "not interested" phase. Also, I've heard that men actually do have a little period of depression after orgasm. So that would play right into feeling negative about what turned you on before. Of course, after that wears off and the hormones kick back in, it's game-on all over again.
  2. From what you describe, part of the problem in communication is that your wife may be ashamed of what she feels, or maybe even about sex in general. So she might have an internal conflict between her sexual desires, and what she thinks is proper behavior. This could make her feel bad about herself. Couple that with fear about being judged by others in a small community, and it makes the situation difficult. Having said all of that, I don't know the solution of getting through the barriers, other than not being pushy at all to talk about it (I know that you're being careful about that). You have to try to talk in a non-threatening manner or the defenses will go up. Maybe ask her how she would feel about discussing sex with you sometime to see what her response is (if you haven't already), without suggesting a particular topic about sex. That way she doesn't feel that the topic needs to be confronted right then, but allows her to think about her own feelings and get back to you when she's ready. Just my $.02.
  3. I've heard elsewhere also that men usually have a period of depression after orgasm. I don't recall exactly if was a hormone thing or something like that, but I've definitely experienced it before. Everything that sounded so hot and exciting a few minutes ago all of a sudden seems like it's a bad idea or something. Then, after some time goes by, it seems like a great idea all over again.
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