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  1. No, before we ever started we agreed that unless something was just truly disturbing that we would not stop the experience but would have an open minded and consequence free discussion on it and see what needed to be altered for the next time. The way I came to see it was it was very interesting to see my wife performing sexual acts from a perspective that when she is doing them with me I never get to see. So it was a cool experience to sit back a few minutes and watch. One situation I even positioned myself by her and acted like a cheerleader. That got her going even more, flat wore the single out. For us is was just making sure to never do anything is more then highest level of common comfort between the 2 of us. Open communication with your spouse will always overcome these types of issues and make the experience more enjoyable.
  2. We hit this situation because we both wanted to enjoy a 3some which would be 3 people enjoying the available sexual positions. No I'm not bi but I'm not phobic about unavoidable contact. After each situation we always talk and discuss any "takeaways" we can tweak and apply for the next time. After a couple of experiences of each of us not feeling I was involved enough; we decided that that in an MFM my role would be to fit into any "gap" that I felt like fitting into. Be it watching to taking advantage of what ever body part was available at the time. This allowed my wife to enjoy her toy without me feeling left out because it was up to me how much I interjected into the situation. So the next time we applied this "fill in the gaps" philosophy and we ended up having the most pleasurable encounter we had to date at that time. It is in the same mindset that we are mulling over the option of splitting up at parties and just checking in from time to time. In the end this is about making sure that each person involved get their desired level of enjoyment out of it. And like the others have said, the energy afterwards both immediate and in the days that follow is higher than normal. So sometimes it's ok to be less involved in one situation and more in another
  3. I broke down & measured for the first in my current marriage. I was a bit dismayed to see that the measurement was less then the times that my first wife measured me. The way I look at it is that in my life I have had some experiences. Low numbers by some accounts but still double digits and I have never had a complaint about my size. I know that even with my wife there are times that it's bigger than at other times. But I like using my hands and mouth equally as much as using my penis. I like the erotic reactions to foreplay quite a bit.
  4. I will say this though. I want the salon's chair in my living room. High backed reclining massaging chair with a whirlpool foot bath, & arm rests. I could sit in that pretty comfortably. Of course when I got the pedicure the other day, my wife said no to florescent yellow nail polish! :lol:
  5. Ok I should clarify. This is a thick mustache. I from time to time have done the permanent five o'clock shadow and I have different varieties of the goatee. But I never grown them thick. She prefers clean shaven but is willing to entertain certain levels of facial hair. I did update our profile to state that a face picture is where it all starts. I see so many many people with nude pictures with no face or swirls on the faces and honestly I have never met anyone in my life that if they were appealing dressed, that I ran away when they got naked. My wife looked at his picture and tried to imagine him without the mustache and we have been clearing our mind of preconceived notions that would close us down to other people. Trying to have a broader view of who to consider (so to speak). We don't want to limit ourselves without reason. As for the smoking, we have both been with smokers in the past and while it wasn't horrible, we just find that we have issues with it. That being said, we are learning to never say never on anything, but SLS doesn't have a maybe category. But hey, we have only been doing this about a month and our views have changed a lot in that time and so who knows what next month will be like. Because I know that I personally have said "Dammit, they smoke, why did they have smoke." I feel horrible but I have held off replying to the email just to figure things out. I used to be good at "dating". I guess 12 years of not doing it has blunted my edge, so to speak.
  6. My wife got me to try a pedicure for the first the other day. It was ok but I felt weird until a father & son were seated beside me and they got one too. I have tried hair coloring in the past and the color has always looked fake to me. I have recently with entering the lifestyle took to shaving my private areas and I am still researching the best routes for this to be problem free. I don't see me doing waxing though, and a facial, I doubt that too. I don't think there is anything wrong with it all, I'm just not sure I want to spend that much time on it.
  7. Ok so we opened ourselves up to seeking more than just single males. We got an email on Swing Lifestyle from a couple that wanted us to check out their profile. Well there were no face pics or any of the husband. So we emailed & asked for that. Now the couple is nice looking but the guy has a big mustache and my wife just doesn't really like that. It's kind of a turn off. In our picture you will see me with facial hair on my chin but not upper lip. I do that when the goatee need comes upon me. With the varying shade of gray & white that have started being more prominent I have been keeping that gone. Ok so the question. Is this a situation where we should be honest and tell the whole truth. Should we use the not compatible excuse but give not details? Or should we just not respond. I should say this, my wife is open minded and there are only one or two little quirks like that she just isn't able to get past. But also keep in mind that we just achieved one month in the lifestyle. So thoughts would be appreciated.
  8. My wife has been through 4 pregnancies and I can honestly say that I don't even notice them and I always encourage bikinis and all that on her because if a woman is attractive then she is still attractive with marks. I am clumsy when I have worked on cars in the past and my hands has spots that look like Frankenstein. I agree with the soft light idea, but only because I like soft light. It just makes the scene more erotic.
  9. I am on the verge of just talking to my doctor in a round about way. I don't need anything at home normally but would like a kick start when with playmates. I take some medications that are for pain that affect the nerves and the muscles and so I have drug interaction issues to watch out for and so I'm thinking that at only 1-2 pills a week that the normal cost of an actual prescription pill wouldn't be prohibitive.
  10. I looked for L-Arginine at Walmart, they carry but were out. I will keep checking for it. I have to look for the Steel Libido.
  11. Thank you all for the input. We have made a few revisions in the profile.
  12. We will correct that shortly. Thank you for pointing it out. We respond to every email in some fashion unless they are just rude. But I think the idea we are trying to conveyed is that we both have to agree on things before anything extensive is pursued. If we both are not ok then we don't pursue it. Time for some revisions. Again.
  13. ok lets try this again. We have majorly updated our profile and I found some other settings that could have been blocking us being searchable by couples and such. I think I have opened up those settings now. Would someone please consider going and see if you can search for us? We are "jnsfriends" on SLS. I have tried to search us but it comes up with no results. If no one else can find us by name then I will have contact the site admin and see what the deal is, what am I missing.
  14. We decided early that we would not do anything that we both weren't 100% onboard with. We can speak desires but we agree to accept "no" as a final answer.
  15. I tried a silicon ring and it did nothing for me. I couldn't even get a normal erection going while wearing it.
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