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alittleconfused last won the day on January 13 2011

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  1. Ive had this happen and it sucks but if the guys not willing to deal with it then its not your wifes fault. My own experience, I work long hours most of the year, 70 sometimes 80 hour weeks.Im constantly moving from one town to the next for work and away from home.I eat like shit on the road and get little if any excercise on the road.And Im not as young as I used to be. It happened a few times with my wife, then it happened with a play partner and then it happened in a threesome I really wanted to participate in.I realized it was becoming a problem so i went to the doctor, she prescribed me some viagra and it works well.But we didnt stop there, were also looking for the unlying cause and trying some other pills, right now Im trying the low daily dose tablets of cialis and waiting for some test results to come back, if theyre normal Im going to ask for my testosterone levels to be checked.Ive also started eating better and excercising daily, just havent been able to quit smoking yet LOL. Also the situation Im in Ive been very open and up front about my ED problem with the other partner, she knows it happens and generally will work through it with me without both of us feeling uncomfortable about it.The thing about it is even if its not a serious problem it fucks with your mind, if it happens enough its all you think about when it comes time to play and that alone is enough to cause it. If the guys not willing to address the problem then your wifes certainly not the one responsible for addressing it, much less the cause of it.I found out the hard way that ignoring it and trying to force a bad situation to get betters only going to make it more awkward for everyone.
  2. lets see, first off theres really no loyalty issues or concern about hurting thier feelings.We got into this with the understanding if anyone wanted to stop we all would.More of a convienence thing I suppose, they live about 2 blocks from here so its just close by and handy if someone feels like fooling around. Were not really afraid to branch out with other partners, hell we talk about it all the time.Ill be going back on the road for work soon and weve discussed if were gonna quit all together while Im gone or set some ground rules and give each other the freedom to play while Im gone.Its not something were avoiding, just something that hasnt came up. The other lady knows her husbands not doing it for her, hes not really doing it for his own wife, the girls do wanna play though and I have no trouble in stamina so theres no way to really exclude him either.No she doesnt fake orgasms, but shes much more vocal during sex then the other wife anyway so he may think she cums, I honestly dont know. Ive met the guy, we actually go down there quite a bit, the kids play together, etc...But as far as the sex goes yeah, the women go back and forth.Me and my wife go out quite a bit as well without anyone else along, cant actually remember ever going on a date with them.
  3. Well guesse we will find out.Apparenty they were talking yesterday and decided themselves that they need more F/F time without the men involved.Only thing was they werent sure when they could do it, last night I told my wife if she wanted to pick the other women for a long lunch beak I could goto the doctor myself today {Thyroid test}.Shes gonna talk to her this morning and see if shes interested. This playdate was all theyre idea all i had to do was be gone, if it dont work out today itll be next week some time.
  4. Weve talked and you may well be right, she may not know exactly what she wants.She says she wants to fuck but honestly I think she may be more into the other woman then the womans husband.The whole lesbian things new to her and theres much she would like to do but it never seems to happen as the womens husbands so quick to finish, and due to scheduling when we all three fool around up here it always seems rushed.I know one night she even invited the woman up and when she didnt seem interested in a 3way she told the woman she could just do her.I had no problem with it and am now thinking it isnt a bad idea to let the two women have a few playtimes without the men involved to see what happens, theyve only been alone once and both loved it from what theyve told me. On the other hand when she gets home from there she wants nothing with a softer touch, it doesnt matter how slow I try to go shes hot and wants fucked hard and long, our sex life at homes improved drastically in the last 6 months Another couples not an easy thing to find, its a small town surrounded by smaller towns in the middle of rural nowhere.As you can imagine its hard for anyone to bang anyone else without the entire town knowing.A single males an option, and Im open to a MFM threesome, but again, its hard to find one that can keep his mouth shut around here.She may have better luck if she tried to find one for a one on one type thing but she has never brought it up and Ive learned my lesson about persuing an issue to far from all this. Actually he never pushed her buttons much, the other time they were alone was much like this time, it was over fast.It wasnt that she enjoyed it to much, she just got into it deeper and faster than we had talked about.Its not that she doesnt enjoy fucking around with him, its just not what she imagined it might be I guesse.As I said, she enjoys it more when the other wifes present it seems and may want to persue that further, the guy does make her horny but it seems thats about it. Getting her to post probably isnt an option, she doesnt get on any forums of any type that Im aware of and unlike me doesnt like talking about her sex life openly with people shes never met LOL.Hard to believe out of all weve done shes still hung up about talking about sex I know but it is what it is I suppose.
  5. It actually went pretty well. The other wife called and my wife went down, picked her up and brought her here and she went back down there.For my part I didnt even wonder about what she was doing and she went ahead with the plan this time.Lotta oral sex, banging, etc... followed by intercourse in both situations. Im begining to wonder if its all me thats making her not want to fuck around one on one with the guy very often.Up here we started and I ate her out and banged her for awhile, then she blew me for awhile and we fucked in the missionary position for probably 10 minutes and then tried another position for awhile.As I said Ive had performance problems before and something about that position wasnt working to well so I started losing my erection.She sucked me off again for a few minutes then we probably fucked for another 20 minutes this time really going to town.We both had a good time. on the other hand my wife went down there and he ate her out, banged her, and she blew him for a minute, he stopped her and went down on her again then she got on top, and he was done in about 60 seconds.Thier entire encounter was over in about 15 minutes and actual sex was only about a minute long.She never came.She had to wait another half hour after they were finished to come back home. She hasnt said it but I think in the threesomes she gets a lot more action as her and the other wife play as well.When she came home we exchanged stories and she sucked me off for awhile then got on top, she came in about 5 minutes and I rolled her over and fucked her hard and we both came again.It was pretty awesome. A full swap in the same house isnt likely any time soon, we both have kids and getting either house empty enough for that never seems to happen.My wife did mention she would like to get fucked by both of us at once, probably not gonna happen right away but I am certainly willing to consider it.So for now things seem to be going well again, next time she doesnt want to fuck the guy Ill have a better understanding of why, she justs more out of the foreplay than the actual sex when down there it seems like.The guys the same way with his wife it sounds like so Ihave nothing to worry about, even makes me feel better about the erection problems I have, Id rather have a little trouble getting it up than cum in the first minute every time.
  6. Weve discussed it but the other husband doesnt seem interested, and actually Im not sure how well it would go.I had some problems early on in the erection department when we started doing threesomes, I tend to get sidetracked in group situations and lose track of what Im supposed to be doing I guesse LOL. On the other hand after she got home last night we had awesome sex then she told me the kids were going to stay at her moms tonight so the house would be empty.Her and the other wife discussed it and thought it would be a good oppurtunity for me to get to play as well but werent sure what I wanted to do.The other wifes made no secret she wants to hook up with me again alone but I still wasnt sure what my wife wanted. This morning i read the posts in here and we discussed it again when she woke up.I didnt pressure her, and she already seemed to be thinking it would be a good night for a full swap since the other couple seems very interested in it.Personally I would have preferred a 3some but I told her to set up whatever she felt comfortable with.Right now the plan seems to be for a full swap, which will be another first for us, we get to play a lot but usually not with all 4 people involved.The plan seems to be for her friend to come here and her to go down there for a couple hours.Should be interesting to see if everyone follows through tonight with the original plan or if it gets changed at the last minute.Thanks for the advice, should be interesting to see what happens
  7. Kinda strange situation here but Ill give you the highlights.Weve been playing with this other couple for months now.The first time was a disaster as Ive already posted with her going much further than we had discussed.We have pretty much moved past that and continued.Its been fun, and I posted about me having sex alone with the other wife a few weeks ago.Other than those two occasions and one time we swapped partners and got blowjobs everything else has been done in threesomes.Thats been great to.But after our disagreement the first time she never had sex with the guy again, lotta stuff with the wife, some oral and stuff with the husband but no fucking. I finally asked her awhile back what the deal was and she said she didnt want to move to fast and piss me off again.I assured her she wasnt going to and we felt comfortable when we left the conversation off.The next time she went down the guy started having sex with her and she made him stop and finish with his wife.I asked what she wanted when she told me this and she said she wants to fuck him but didnt feel comfortable that time. Its happened several times now and Ive quit asking about it thinking she will move at her own pace.Tonight we had it set up for her to go down there and the other wife texted earlier asking if one on one with her husband would be allright.I read the text and handed my wife the phone, without any conversation she replied no it had to be a 3way. The other wife asked why and my wife replied " I didnt want her to". This caught my attention pretty fast so I asked why she hadnt even asked since shes told me in the past she would like a one on one with him again.She kinda changed the subject and I asked again, she said she wasnt sure how I would react.We talked it out and finally I told her Id talk to the other wife, I asked her why the change of plans and she said just for something different.I couldnt see a problem so I told my wife if she wanted to go ahead, I had no problem with it.She texted them back and said it was ok and I thought great she can do it, get it over with, and we can move forward.Problem is by the time she left she had changed her mind again and told them it had to be a 3some, they had no problem with it either way but it left me very confused. Ive given her the ok for a couple months now, Ive done everything in my power to convince her Im ok with it and every time the occasion comes up she says she wants to but doesnt follow through at the last minute.Im begining to think its not me holding her back but Im actually very confused as to what she wants right now.I dont want to seem like Im pushing her into it by constantly bringing it up but if shes got a problem with something Id like to help her work through it.Any thoughts??
  8. I watched my wife with another woman, Ive always wanted to see that.Unfortunately as it was a fmf threesome and I was the third party I found it to be distracting and wasnt as turned on as I thought Id be.Id like for the two women to go at it once while I just hang back and watch but its gonna be awhile before I talk her into that. I have no urge to see her with another man, its not jelousy, its just not something Im interested in seeing.If she at some point wanted a 3some with me and another guy Id have no problem with it. And when she comes back and tells me about her night after she goes out it turns me on a lot, probably more than anything else Ive done so far.And shes always horny as hell when she gets back that helps .
  9. I dont know a lot as Im fairly new to all this but we had a misfired experience early on and it damn near drove me nuts for a couple weeks.My wife went further and faster than either of us had seriously discussed and it happened during a week I was out of town just to complicate matters. She was completely honest with me, as the OPs wife seems to be with him.I finally reconciled it with her and myself and it was easier than I imagined, I posted it here and got some good advice and a chance to vent a little. And I realized it wasnt just her that fucked up.I had given her the green light to play while I was gone.I had put my job ahead of us and not given the conversation we had when I left the time or consideration it should have warranted.And I had left it very vauge as to what I was comfortable with and what I wasnt.She had misunderstood what I said and got caught up in things faster then she realized and that was it. The OP here has done the same thing, he gave her the go ahead while they were apart and now regrets it.The guy my wifes seeing doesnt sweep her off her feet, her and the other couple get together simply for sex and nothing more as do I.But he respects her and doesnt push things further than she wants to go, and is a helluva nice guy. My advice is to own up to your part in this in your mind, chalk it up to a learning experience, talk it out, and move on.If you keep going over it your going to make it into something it wasnt in your mind and you wont stop thinking about it.She had a good time, with someone shes never gonna see again, then came home to you and told you the truth, seems pretty forgivable to me.
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