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NH603

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About NH603

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  • Birthday 09/10/1975

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  1. Agreed. I have mentioned several times that my wife and I are ok and I am moving on. People keep posting questions and follow ups. To clarify, I am moving on everyone!
  2. I hear you... Bottom line I need to move on and I am. Many of my feeling were justified here and reinforced, which helps a lot. Opinions about what should have been said/done at some point are life lessons.
  3. Hey to each there own. If there is a exclusive situation and it goes astray after a while, so be it. But I would be again a dead horse if I explain why I felt hurt. I do feel hurt after not getting the emotions returned, especially where I see his POV. My suspicions all along were correct about him and how he viewed things. I just cant hook up with someone who doesnt even want to see us for almost a year.
  4. Yea, it is a bit of a dead horse me explaining over and over here. It just seems like anyone who make a different point has a reason founded in the original problem. Call them? At least twice a month, especially early on. Over the past few months, not so much. We got the hint. The wife and I have very few local friends due to having to move so many times over the past 2 years. She clings to anyone that says hello. It isnt a matter of her thinking different about them, it is a matter of her wanting friends and being a bit desperate.
  5. Susan... First, how do you know my name? Second, it wasnt a swing party. Third, I had told her the friendship was over, I didnt like how they treated us. I didnt like how they ignored us... wrong for me to assume the sex would be out too? I actually now recall telling her a few months back that I didnt want to swing with them any more. But promises and commitments just seemed to vanish.
  6. I appreciate all the help here. I think we can all just agree it is a crappy situation. Lesson learned, life will go on. Thanks! Jason
  7. I hear you about the rules.. and you are right about the 3 of them.. but you use the correct word... assumptions.... everyone assumed I would be ok. To make it real.. be a friend. Actually call us to see whats up, go out to dinner, do what friends do. They were the ones that wanted that to be the basis of the everything.. and not just be swingers. We all agreed. Friendship is gone, the foundation is gone...why are we swinging?? I dont want to get the last word. I let it go and didnt reply back to them. Hateful emails? No. To the point asking what everything was thinking.
  8. Not harsh at all. I think our situations are different. As mentioned before.. 75 % of the people involved were on different wavelengths . If it isnt 100, there is a problem. Can I see his side, sure.... but it was purely thinking with his dick. Again, me being different here, but if the situation was reversed, I would check or do something. Experience and life lessons here.
  9. I can agree with many things said here. For one, I did mention that I am partly to blame because I didnt say.. Hon, if things should happen.. dont let them. Sure, if the chance came up for all of us, would be talk again and consider it? Sure... but I was not included with this decision. Neither was his wife. They just had sex. Problem stems that all involved agreed to only have sex if we were exclusive. Everyone forgot that but me. If I was a different person, I most likely would not care. But everyone forgot this this all for 10 minutes of fun. My pain is 100 % around my emotions and the fact that 3 out of 4 dont seem to want to apply the original rules. The after results of him not even contacting me just reinforces my beliefs. They are not our friends. I have known this for a while. I have told my wife this for a long long time. Basic Math Here. Not friends and/or not exclusive = no swinging Friends + exclusive = swinging One on one time before was part of this history. Back when things were agreed upon. But by your own example, you broke your own rules. The other guy was not there to be a part of that "solo" decision between you, your wife, and the other girl. How do you know he is ok with her being there? Hopefully he does, but if you knew they were only the exclusive type, but only she was at a party, that would raise a flag. Aside that my wife didnt go to a swinger party, it was a regular party. We are not an open couple, or otherwise this would not be a problem either. I appreciate your thoughts.
  10. I do want to get the last word in, but I have come to the conclusion that either they dont care or just dont get it. Frusterates the hell out of me when someone doesnt see your side, but I have let it go and I didnt reply back. It is all I can do. Still hurts deeply though.
  11. Well she finally wrote back and said that this "Relationship" isnt working and she wishes us the best of luck.
  12. Oh I totally agree that she was into it and is as much to blame, if not more. Perhaps what I should say is WE were used for HIM to get to her.
  13. My wife and I will move on. It hurts, deeply, but we have too strong a relationship to let this bother us for ever. Thanks for the thoughts here.
  14. Thanks for the reply here. As far as my wife and I go our relationship is strong. I have no reason to believe there is more to her thoughts about them than what I know. I work from home, she is unemployed. We have kids. I am practically with her 24 hours a day and they live an hour away. We have no problem reading each others emails. If there was something more going on, it would be very easy to see. It hurts, but I think it hurts more so because she was used and I feel for her. I dont even think she gets that just yet. She may just be clinging to any friend as we have recently moved and friends are not exactly all around us. I dont think alcohol would have made a difference here either. Not saying that in a bad way, but it may have just sped things up.
  15. Well sent an email to just him explaining that a friend would have called me and been concerned that I was concerned. Feel pretty good about this after venting even though there was not much response back. I know they got the messages
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