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  1. "Work It" by Missy Elliot. My wife will drive you crazy stripping to this song.
  2. In my experience, you could interpret the same behavior to either arrogance or inexperience/curiousity/ or voyeurism. Some of us are naturals for this stuff, others aren't. Let me break it down very bluntly. My wife and I know that we are hot, and we are mostly interested in couples of similar hotness. Not because of ego - because of attraction. If you look like you are 35 or less, fit, and attractive, you are in the minority in the lifestyle. My wife is 10 years younger than me and very fit. I'm 38, but you would never guess I more than early 30's. I'm actually open to a variety of different women (including older ones), but my wife isn't attracted to guys who are obviously "middle aged" or to "soccer moms" or overweight people her age. It's not that she's shallow. She's not that she's a snob. It is what it it is. If you disagree, well. more power to you. She knows that in a few years, we will be right there with that crowd. Standards will adjust accordingly. But for now, she wants to be with people who are more similar to us. And yes, we try to find parties that might offer more choices for people in our own age group. Much Patience required, sometimes, S
  3. My wife and I are both very similar. In the right situation, with the right person, we are both open to same sex experiences. Years ago, I was very adventurous and experimented with men. This taught me that while I can enjoy sex with men (especially if there is woman involved encouraging the action), it's not really my thing. For both my wife and I, we find that some people are just so attractive/sexual/sexy, that it transcends gender. My wife has a male FWB who plays with us together sometimes, but I can't imagine he and I playing together as part of it. He's a good looking dude, but I have zero interest in the way. it's very rare that even remotely interested in a man. My wife isn't overly interested in seeing me play with guys. In the right situation, she would go along with it, but it's not something she actively wants. Hell, it's hard enough to find a match where she is attracted to the guy and I'm attracted to the girl. Trying to get a full scale bisexual fourway together must be a very hard thing. I'm sure people make it happen, but it seem to be really tough to find.
  4. We've been to parties that require screening. There were more younger couples like us, but few people who were interested in actual play. Arrogance didn't seem to be the problem. Our issue at that particular club is that a lot of the people who go are just there for the show. We payed attention to the crowd, and most of them didn't play with anybody. At regular clubs, we have trouble finding couples where my wife likes the guy, but the people are nicer. Pick you poison. For us, we prefer regular clubs. There are usually one or two other couples that interest us both.
  5. When I see "they all need jesus in there [sic] lives], I can't help but think "TROLL." In my experience, it's harder to find couples where my wife is attracted to the man. I'm constantly in situations where I am interested in the woman but my wife has no interest in the guy.
  6. We like both situations. The one thing that bothers us though, is if the other couple has such a need to connect to each other that they are constantly needing to "check-in" with each other. Our best experiences have been where we all start out together, then go off separately (same room or not), then come back together.
  7. I'm trying to figure out what this has to do with swinging/lifestyle. Did your wife or ex-wife fucked other guys with or without your permission? Were you having your own fun while this was happening? It seems that perhaps you are concerned that you are less experienced than your partner. Your post isn't very clear. To answer your question directly...well...I can't. I've had sex with more women that my wife. And my ex-wife. Combined. But my wife wasn't exactly a prude before meeting me. She had her share of one-night stands, fuck buddies, and sport fucks. It never mattered a bit to me, even before we got into the lifestyle, and I never in my life expected that I would marry a woman who had only been with me. It's running joke with us, however, that she used to fuck a ginger. I joke with her that it has never bothered me that she used to fuck a very well hung Nigerian, but it's a little disturbing that she spent a summer screwing a ginger. Take that for what it is...lol!
  8. My wife and I can read each other pretty well. We knew we were heading in that direction anyway. We had talked about it a little, but we didn't feel like we could claim to be full swap when we didn't know how it would feel in the moment. It wasn't TOTALLY out of the blue. We though it my take a little longer to get comfortable with things, but in the moment, it felt right and we both sensed it. Thanks for all the nice comments, everyone!
  9. New Year's Eve was a landmark moment for us. We played with two different couples. The first was a soft swap. The were super hot, and I think we were both feeling like we wanted more, but we were in a group room and it just didn't feel right to bring up making the leap. A little later, we decided to go back to our hotel with another couple we had met earlier in the night. They had already hooked up, too, and I asked the dude if he had another one in him. He said, give me a few minutes, and we'll be good to go. We actually never discussed full or soft swap. We thought it had come up in conversation before. They gave us a ride back to the hotel. My wife sat in the front with him while I was in the back with his wife. Once we got back to the hotel, it was just a pile of nakedness. Finally we came to a point where the other girl asked if we had any fantasies....I though for a second, looked at my wife, and said, "I really want to watch Mrs.S ride him....what do you think, Mrs.S." She said, "Yeah, honey, I'm game if you are!" Just like that, we were full swap! It was so natural, so comfortable I couldn't believe it. She and I can read each other so well....I knew that she was ready to take the leap and she just needed me to ask. I must say, it's like a new world has opened to us. Damn, it's good to be swinger!
  10. OK. I lied...lol. We just had our first full swap experience, and it really turned me on watching her ride him. It still doesn't do much for me to watch her give oral to a man, though.
  11. Interesting topic. My first inclination is to say this...just ask her straight up she's ever thought about it and don't be afraid to say you've had fantasies. Start the dialog honestly, if you and your wife are meant to do this, I suspect that talking about it will lead you in the right direction. Even if she expresses little interest immediately, it may plant a seed that will grow, but you will have planted it in an honest way - you are just expressing a fantasy and having a discussion OK, easier said than done. I think a seed might have been planted in BOTH of our minds by Shortbus. Actually, Mrs.S and I were just having a laugh about this tonight. We saw Shortbus on maybe our third day and had no idea going in that it would be as graphic as it is. No wonder we ended up swinging. We talked a lot about the film, and from time to time, we would talk a little about swinging or threesomes. I wasn't even sure I wanted to do it, but eventually (over three years) later, I brought up going to a party. After our first experience, I didn't even mention going to another until she brought it up. That way, I knew we were totally in it together. If you want to use a film/movie to help bring up the topic, why not try a movie like Shortbus or even Secretary. There are some interesting french films, too. Those would naturally lead to discussion of alternative sexual practice in a manner that I think will be much more well received by a woman.
  12. This was the biggest question I had before I jumped into this with my wife. I had been in group/swinger hookups before with a few FWB's and been the second man in two MMF's. I wouldn't say that it turns me on....it turns me on to see her with another woman turns me on, though.
  13. This is our biggest peeve, too. This is especially annoying when the male half contacts us, we tell them we might be interested and ask nicely for a male picture, then we never hear another word. We don't know what to make of it. There is nothing we both like more in a profile than a G-rated couples pic that shows general body type and faces. If you contact us and can't provide that easily, we wonder.
  14. This sounds about right. Mrs. S knows almost instantly where the couple falls - 1. NO, 2. Probably No, 3. Maybe, 4. Yes. This is long enough for a "probably no" to get us interested or turn a "maybe" into a "yes." For a yes, we're ready to get naked. We got burned by time management at our last party. This probably would have helped.
  15. Thanks so much for your feedback. Since the last profile update, we've been to anther party and we feel much more confident about where we are with everything. Before, Mrs let me do the online stuff and didn't pay it much mind. Now, she's a bit frustrated with parties and she's being very active with the online stuff. Both of us gave it a good look over recently and we added new pics, and we'll have a few risque ones up soon. We have a new default waiting for approval and a bunch more in private that any "friends" can access and if we contact a couple, we give them access. We also changed the part about Mrs. play with woman. We would love some feedback on the new version.
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