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GomezAddams started following Best stripping music, Need help on response to wife, "Ultra-light" swing questions and and 2 others
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Need help on response to wife
GomezAddams replied to Socal1970's topic in Swinging Situational HELP!
I had exactly the same problem. I can go through my steps if you want to send me a private message. We only have a communication breakdown on sexual issues. -
Here's an oldie but a goodie from 1962: It's called "The Stripper". David Rose, 1962.
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If you can afford it, try bringing her to Hedo in Jamaica or Desire in Mexico. They are clothing optional, no pressure environments. You can watch/be watched, be naked or whatever without any stress on anyone.
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That's clearly her approach. Layered over that seems to be some need of hers to be wooed/chased a bit. I think am going to see if she will go to a meet and greet at an off premise club. I think she'll see that as a non-sexual enough for her to open up and chat yet still provide an environment where she can flirt/be flirted with. I'm very interested in opinions on that.
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Thanks everyone! It's not really an MFM thing- she's previously said she thought that would be weird until she recently blurted out about her best friend's husband. I suspect that I will be waiting until our next Naked Vacation for things to progress, as she won't go to clubs. It's all about spontaneity for her, I think. What really needs to happen is for her to be someplace where there are lifestyle folks without planning to be there, if that makes sense. The last poster almost had it right- the two-drink wife gives a completely different answer than the no-drink wife (which should not be read as she needs to be drunk.) Can't force it, though.
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I've posted before about my sexually non-communicative wife. We've been to Desire a few times, a cruise and a couple of clubs. Some spontaneous soft swap stuff has happened. The other night she confessed that she really wants to full swap and even identified an (unfortunately unavailable) MFM candidate. I was able to figure out that she has a big fear of rejection and is thus hesitant for either of us to make the first move. Although she loves the resorts and swingers cruises, she feels like she doesn't want to do that more than twice a year. I think she wants to be hit on, but wants it to happen spontaneously. Deep down, I knew all along that she wants to swap, but we always need to be explicitly on the same page. This revelation seems like a pretty big deal. So the question is, "what next?" Asking her outright will lead to her clamming up, so all thoughts positive or negative are welcome.
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Signs of unapproachability
GomezAddams replied to JustAskJulie's topic in Finding People to Swing With
This is the most valuable stuff I've ever read. Morticia and I married young, and before that dated though college- never had any need to be approachable! I don't like noisy environments and have a (thankfully non-visible) foot issue so I prefer to sit away from the noise. We must have been transmitting "Stay Away" at 50,000 watts. That 'splains lots of stuff. In retrospect, it should have been obvious. Guess I'll have to suck it up and wade further into the crowd!- 30 replies
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