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Lolisa

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About Lolisa

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 07/07/1969

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Maine
  • Interests
    skiing, sailing, hiking, books, music
  • Swinging Experience
    4 years
  1. Hell yeah it is! Even when I'm off with another couple or guy it is still all about my husband and me. The kink of sex with others outside our marriage is what we enjoy about all of this. I enjoy knowing he enjoys it and vice versa. He gets a lot out of my dates...waaay more than the people I'm on the date with!
  2. We are thinking about going to our club's Halloween party this year and can think of a million costume ideas for me, but nothing for my husband. Any good fun but sexy ideas for guys or a couples costume? He does not want to walk around shirtless and he wants to be able to dance. We like the idea of an "interactive" costume so we can talk to people...and this is NOT an on-premise club so no nudity. Best idea for me, cigarette girl, but instead of smokes have condoms, temporary tattoos, glow sticks, and a little paddle for spankings. Or as a couple, go as Masters & Johnson, wear lab coats and have a clip board with a list of sex questions. Thanks!
  3. Sexiness is a combination of chemistry and confidence....The sexiest thing about everyone I have met is their confidence level. We have decided not to swing with a couple a second time not because the wife was large (she was, and she was very sexy physically) but because she did not think she was sexy and felt intimidated by me (the wife.) Attitude is everything. One of the greatest things about our club is walking into a room full of people of all ages and sizes and almost all of them are oozing confidence and sexuality. Confidence is hot! She needs to either accept that she is hot the way she is or do something about it so she feels good about herself! Its her judgement of herself that matters not anyone elses...and that's not just a swinger thing!!!! Now I have to check her out on sls since I hear she's so hot! LOL
  4. Wow, great responses....thanks...We feel similarly, it is just hard to put it into words! We actually like these people a lot and enjoy their sexual and nonsexual company and as long as they can keep it on a nonpolitical level I think we are OK with it. There is much much more to them (and us) than politics.
  5. I guess we could have put the subject "swinging and values/religion/etc" ---insert any value you hold dear to your heart! We are semi-new swingers (1 year) and are very open-minded and respect that other people are not the same as we are and genuinely accept that people will have different views than us. We have agreed that talking politics and religion is OFF LIMITS when meeting new people because if we find them likable and sexy and we all click, what does it matter? That said we need to have that chemistry and we need to genuinely like the people we swing with...physical attraction is only one part of sexual attraction for us. We have played with a couple several times with whom we have great chemistry. We have become FWB which is nice but have been noticing the guy has been bringing the conversation to a political level, which we have respectfully ended quickly. We have a lifestyle facebook account and they just friended us....BIG MISTAKE. Now we can see how fiercely political they really are and how against many of our values they are. Wish we had kept it only on the sexy level!!! My husband and I feel like we could play with them again as long as we keep things away from "issues" but I honestly feel like a hypocrite and the image of this sexy woman I've had hot sex with holding a sign with some pretty hateful things written on it is kind of burned into my mind! Like I said before, we are not in your face extreme activists, but we have our issues and hold our values and like to think we live our life with integrity! How do YOU handle issues like this? Would you swing with anyone who was very different from you politically/religiously/value-wise?
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