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About bryanky

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  • Birthday 10/24/1971

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  1. Yes, this sounds very similar. I may have mentioned that we took nude pictures a couple of months back. I was totally caught off guard by her reaction. I could tell that she enjoyed showing off and feeling sexy. She literally took the camera from me and snapped away while I went down on her and later when I was having sex with her. Weeks later and it's not like it never happened. We don't mention it, if I bring up the topic, she'll say "maybe we'll do that again sometime." What I thought was a turning point really kind of dead ended. Anyways, sort of anticlimatic on my end. Based on my experiences, the only meaningful time to share fantasies are the moments preceding lovemaking, usually as part of foreplay. We usually don't delve into fantasies much, but when we do it certainly fuels the fire. I have found that discussing fantasies, sex,etc. after sex is a waste of time. Usually my wife's thinking shifts to everyday routine matters. "Who's going to take our son to practice?" What color should we paint the bedroom walls"? In other words, sex is the last thing on her mind. Regarding the swinging fantasy, it's like my wife and I have this silent chess match going on in our heads. I think about it often, and my wife has dropped too many clues for me to think of it as coincidence. It's a conversation that's begging to be had, but it's damn near impossible to find the perfect way to go about having it.
  2. Great point. You ask very good questions. Why in the world do we get stirred up about sexuality, yet we tolerate manipulation,jealousy, deceit, and abuse in relationships. It's like the analogy I like to refer to: society gets uptight about sexual content in television programming, yet the past two or three generations of children have grown up watching graphic violence on tv. Anyways, not to stray far off point. Sex should be a beautiful and enjoyable experience. Why some demonize it is really a mystery.
  3. Actually, all the above posts are very helpful, and for that..Thank You. Good point about communication. I have to use this type of strategy with my job, so one would think that I employ the same ideas in regards to communicating with my wife. Instead, I usually revert to asking close ended questions that almost always end the conversation before they occur. About religion, that' where I fear that my hopes of sexual openness in our marriage will be crashed. Mind you, my wife is not a fervent bible thumper who casts judgement on everyone, rather she's pretty black and white about certain issues, including sex. That said, she keeps dropping suggestions and/or hints that are contrary. For instance, recently we found out her half sister was in the lifestyle. I guess that has stimulated some thought on her end. Last night, during a pillow talk session preceding our lovemaking she mentioned gangbang. I can't remember the exact context, but it was fairly benign. In other words, said in complete jest. The question begs me though, are casual references like this common in vanilla couples or is it a sign that my wife, at the least, has this fantasy? I know what you guys will say...Communicate! Honestly, I want so bad to share my fantasies, but I fear what the repercussions will be. Maybe I'm afraid of offending her or pushing her away. Before I sign off, one other question. Is it common or at least somewhat common to see Christian couples in the lifestyle?
  4. Alright guys/gals, long time viewer finally wanting to jump in and join the forum...so go easy on me for awhile. My situation is very similar to what you guys read almost on a daily basis, so I understand that I'm very far from cornering the market here. That said, here goes. I've been married almost seven years to a good woman, mother, and wife. She's attractive, hard working, trustworthy and kind (except during arguments, LOL). The problem is, and I hate to label religion as a "problem" that it seems that her religious/spiritual beliefs put a damper on sexual openness, let alone swinging with others. While she does enjoy sex, it's limited to two or three positions, mutual oral, and that's about it. I did, however, manage to take some nude pictures of her and us together. And, interestingly, she got very excited during our session and took over the camera and started snapping some pics of her own. Over the years we've role played a bit, sometimes inquiring how her "boyfriend" is doing,or you better get done quick before my husband gets home. Mostly mild stuff that has never progressed past the pillow talk stage. She has, at times, mentioned swinging. Never in the context that led me to believe that she was seriously interested. However, that she mentioned it does pique some curiosity in me. Is she fascinated? Or revolted? Honestly, I'm afraid to bring up the matter to her other than "play" pillow talk. As she is conservative sexually, I'm afraid she'll decipher this as a desire on my part to be unfaithful or I'm attempting to compromise her values/morals. A word or two about her usual sexual nature. I'm sure there are married men that have it far worse than me. In fact, I really don't have it so bad, considering all the qualities my wife possesses. Still, I long for her to be aggressive, instead of making sex so routine, as it's comparable to changing the oil in our car. I wish she would push her boundaries, and/or comfort level. Wear lingerie or talk dirty. Deep down, I've always suspected that my wife has a wild and adventurous side...I just have no idea how to tap into it. Most of you that walk in my shoes, will probably say get used to it, or leave. I refuse to do both, as I believe there is a way to break down her blocks.
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