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sjsl

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About sjsl

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  • Birthday 04/10/1967

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  • Relationship Status
    couple
  • Location
    san diego

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    coupleplay92064
  1. Whether its weight or a profile of a single woman that has a partner, it is all about information. Profiles need to have as much info as possible, otherwise people will contact you that you have no interest in or they wont like you. We both smoke, many non-smokers dont want to be around smokers, they would be pissed if we left that out. Just as a full swap couple would not bother to contact you if you included the info that you are soft swap if they only wanted full swap. It is much easier to say or show as much about yourself right from the start. Weight just seems to be a touchier issue than all the others.
  2. Let's not leave these people out of the AFF description: 1) Profile of a single woman, you exchange e-mails or talk in chat only to find out she has a husband that likes to watch. 2) Profile as a couple, she is the one that gets to play and he can only touch what he brung or the women are only allowed to play together. 3) Friend collectors. Why would we want to include someone in our friends network when they live in freakin' Germany?
  3. So true. If you are not going to be honest with yourself, at least have the recent pictures to be honest with the rest of us. We are both listed on one site as "a few extra pounds". We decided that was accurate because, honestly, we both know we are 20 pounds overweight. We were reading one ad last night that described the woman in the profile as a BBW. Looking at the pictures, she was a BBW. Yet in the stats she listed herself as a few extra pounds. Does that mean we can now call ourselves average? ( then again, wouldnt 20 pounds overweight be considered average in America?)
  4. It almost seems if you include the term FWB in your profile, you will attract people that "think" they want to play with another couple but nothing ever comes of it. And if people that really do want to play read your profile they might assume that you are one of those people. So, as we still hope to find other couples that may want to do more at times than just have sex, we dont mention it up front. If we all get along in the beginning it may become that. If we are intending to play with another couple at home, we also would like them to be able to carry on a conversation about something other than sex toys. If we meet a couple and they are attractive but have no sense of humor or completely stuck on themselves, there is no chance of it going any further. If we meet and can sit for 2 hours laughing and talking about almost anything, we are both ready to go. We have never been to a club so we might be totally wrong about this. It would seem that at a club physical attraction might be enough to go and play.
  5. Different sites have different ways of describing weight. On SLS we are honest about both our weights. On AFF you have to pick a body style. I am 6 foot and weigh 200 lbs, my doctor says I should weigh 180 max. Therefore, I list myself as a few extra pounds. I see plenty of men that describe themselves as average and they have a bigger gut than me. I am OK with that because when we do meet people they compliment us on being exactly what we say we are in our profile. I have to assume many of the people that lie like that, never have any intention of meeting.
  6. You can ask 10 couples what they would define as FWB and you will get 10 different answers. Our profile starts with "we are not looking for a one night stand and we are not looking to be invited for Thanksgiving dinner". We are looking for something in between. That means, we wont wear a blindfold and show up at your door (although that might be fun at least once) without knowing you in a clothed environment. We like the idea of having friends that we can enjoy a night out without any expectations of sex, and still be able to talk openly about sex. Vanilla friends become uncomfortable if I do my NUM-NUM-NUM-NUM-NUM-NUM thing when breasts are brought up LOL. Friends that also play, usually start doing the same thing or they at least are not offended by it. At some point we also start doing the checking out other people in the bar. We are able to get a feel for people after a set up meeting to determine if we want to go forward. If we do, we consider them friends on some level.
  7. I have gone through and read all the old posts on this subject looking for things we might have in ours. I have to agree with many others about the "professional" term. I am to assume that CPA's are better lovers than plumbers? One profile I read made it quite obvious that they were proud of their "professional" status. I wrote them and asked."if you are professional because of higher education, why do you have so many spelling errors?" I didn't get a very nice response :-) Not sure how others feel about this next one. When we read a profile where there is any bragging, such as, he can last all night and is gifted orally, that raises a red flag. Bragging tells us that the person has a large ego and are not fun to spend any time with.
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