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About allnightfuncpl

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  • Birthday 09/29/1980

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  • Location
    Missouri
  • Occupation
    Sales
  • Swinging Experience
    12 years

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  1. We are on C4P and SLS. We have had the best luck with meeting people and finding places to go on C4P, SLS has not been a very good site for us even when we had our old account on there and had all the pictures we could have on there on there. (We don't have pics on the SLS account now because 99% of the people we run into on there are people we already know from C4P.) We did the AFF thing, SDC and TLSL but found there was either nothing but a bunch of posers AFF or not too many people close by SDC and TLSL. C4P is very active in the midwest, Missouri, Kansas, and Oklahoma.
  2. Mrs. Allnight and I used to tell our parents we were going to be partying with friends which made getting them to watch our kids be about as hard as giving a cat a bath, since on her parents side of things they feel since they didn't get to go out and party when my wife and her siblings were small nor should we, and on my side of things my parents are very anti drinking and don't think we should be out partying as "responsible" adults don't that in their opinion. So since we had been going through a rough patch money wise at the end of the year last year we came up with the perfect what are we doing for the weekends we go out. We made up a story that we were going to be working for a "friend" who owns a "private dance hall/club" and that on weekend he has parties booked and needs us to work that we are "working" for him on those weekends. While what is really going on is that we are going to the swingers club we like to frequent here in Kansas City called the Spott and partying or having a couple over to our house for the evening or going to a house party. Nice thing is Mrs. Allnight's parents and mine no longer object to watching our children overnights on a Friday or Saturday night and part of the following morning and rather than feeling that we are being not very responsible in our decisions they now think we are being responsible and providing for our family even though the hours are inconvient. We don't like the fact we have to lie to our parents to get them to watch our kids for us but it is not like we are going out every weekend, a good month for us is getting to make it out to the club twice. Most months we do good to make it out once to the club due to my actual place of employment's shift schedules.
  3. Well Skinzman glad you took the time to read my wife's post or any of the responses from others, my size and the size of the other husband of the couple the Bday girl and her husband (the one my wife played with) played with were part of the equation in what happened thus the reason for my wife mentioning it. If you want to take it as my wife bragging about my size and not about us actually being concerned about what to do in the situation so be it there is not much I can do to change your mind, however seeing how this is your first foray into the situational help forums I am glad to see that after at least almost 5 years on this site and presumeably in the LS that you were able to offer such thought filled and helpful advice. As for an update on things, my wife and I decided after having read everything on here and talking about it some more ourselves that we don't need to be apologzing for anything that happened that night. Permissions were granted by all involved and that if she didn't want him and her to play that night she (the Bday girl) should have said so. Yes it was her birthday night but she still could have said no and it wouldn't have bothered my wife or I in the slightest. Thank you again to everyone who has offered constructive advice about the situation, your replies have been most appreciated. Sorry if things were kind of hard to follow at some points in our posts.
  4. I don't think I could have offered better advice or said it better than how Sunswept replied. Awesome reply Sunswept!
  5. The best thing Mrs. Allnight and I have found is to be yourself and do what comes naturally to you. Some people do great with the direct approach others do better with the teasing reel the person in type of approach Perfect example would be Mrs. Allnight when we are at the LS club we like to frequent she meets and approaches most people out on the dance floor as that is where she most comfortable meeting and talking to people, and I am slowly starting to become more that way simply because now that the Mrs has been able to convince me that even though I suffer from WGCD syndrome that I am not the only one out there on the dance floor suffering from it. However take my wife and put her in a non LS event such as a bar/pool hall situation where there is no dance floor and you will see something entirely different from her. There she likes to play all shy and will coyly flirt with a guy but make absolutely no first moves and make the guys make the first approach the reel them in approach so to speak. As for me I am one of those people who observes first, I kind of watch to see what a lady is like whether she seem the talkitive and approachable type or the coy and shy and whether she seema to like a direct or more indirect approach. Once I have a lady kind of figured out I give it a go does it work all the time no but probably 90% of the time it does, so I stick with it. The way I see it the worst thing that can happen is getting a cold shoulder response or told no, if that happens oh well life goes on, you just move onto whoever else you are interested in meeting and have fun and don't let it bother you. We actually had a couple that when Mrs. Allnight and I first met them the wife of the couple gave both my wife and I the cold shoulder, we didn't worry too much about it and just moved on with our lives and kept right on having fun at the club and after hearing from her husband what fun we are to hang out and how cool he thought we were and seeing us at the club having a good time with everybody she is now becoming quite friendly with us. Now for the goofball responses which if I didn't read the intial post I would have given just because I am a goofy guy sometimes and I just can't help myself from giving these two answer in a sad attempt at being humorous How do you approach a woman? By asking either one of the following questions From the front or from the Back?? or From which position would you like it?? I know I know :rollseye::sad: and I know don't quit my day job to pursue stand up comedy
  6. We would not quit swinging regardless, as it would only reinforce in whosever mind that what we were doing was wrong and would imply we quit because we must have felt the same way or we were somehow ashamed of our involvement. Family finding out: If it was my adoptive parents I would be up a shit creek in the worst way and probably disowned as my dad is a minister in a very conservative denomination and my mom would probably die on the spot. My youngest sister would probably not be surprised, she has been kind of freaky over the years and knows a little about how wild my wife and I can get courtesy of ending up at a non LS party that my wife and I was at that she had come to with her boyfriend at the time where things got a little wild that night. If it was my bio family who we do maintain contact with and I guess you could say somewhat normal family life with I am sure my bio mom would be devastated and it would be the end of them watching our kids for us. My bio dad would probably be hoping to get some and my siblings would probably be praying for us and telling us what sinners we are. Now if it was Mrs. Allnights parents well they already tell me and make sure she knows that they feel I have corrupted her by getting her pregnant before we were married and horrors of horrors I let her dress sexy (which in their eyes is dressing like a whore) when we are going out with our friends or anytime else she feels like it. God forbid their perfect daughter show just a little cleavage or some leg. If they found out I am sure her father would be on my front door steps with a loaded gun to take me out. Employers: If it was an employer that found out and I lost my job since I don't have any morals clauses I would say I hope to God they have a damn good attorney because I am going to own them. One of my old coworkers tried to pull the stunt of outing me at work, lets just say it didn't go to well for him as he happened to mention it near one of my friends who is not LS but knew we were. I took care of the problem rather quickly after being told about him trying to out me, I told him I had printed out his profile and photos, (I hadn't but he didn't know that) and that if things did not stop right then and there that said information would be handed over to our HR. To put an end to the rumors at work lets just say it is nice to have a friend (the aforementioned friend above) who knows everybody and their brother and who would do anything for you. A couple of well placed statements from her and the rumor was dead and my name was so to speak cleared she started a counter rumor for me that myself and said coworker had had an argument and this was just said coworkers way of trying to get back at me. (Which all it took was one person remembering a blowup myself and said coworker had about the way they were treating another employee about a month before and then that story became very plausible and said coworker was discredited.) Neighbors: Neighbors finding out well they could try messing with me, but I am not one to mess with as I am not afraid to defend myself or my family and friends if attacked. My neighbors know my standpoint is Don't mess with my family, friends or me or there will be problems for you courtesy of a situation we had with a now ex neighbor. We had a now ex neighbor that called the cops on my wife and I after having some words with them over some racist comments they made towards some friends of ours the ex neighbors claimed I had physically threatened them, thank God for our friends who they had made the comment about and two of our neighbors who overheard the discussion as 6 matching stories to 2 non matching stories tends to clear you in LE's view so instead of me being the one in trouble they were the ones in trouble for filing a false report and soon found most of the neighbors wanted nothing to do with them or their kids and moved out probably within 6 months of the incident. It is also helpful having enough friends who are in local LE who are also either LS or LS friendly as I could make any neighbor who wanted to cause problems due to the LS, have a rather difficult time as well. That and knowing codes and ordinances for the city we live in means I could really be a bad person to mess with. Fortunately for us we live on a street where like everybody in the neighborhood is asleep by 8PM except us, and us having weird or unfamiliar cars out in front of our house is nothing out of the ordinary to our neighbors as we normally have friends (both vanilla and LS) over somewhat regularly. Children: What my wife and I do when they are not around is none of their business in our view. We do not play when we have the kids here at home anymore, we tried that one time and THANK GOD for securely shut and locked doors is all I can say. Fortunately we were able to pull off that it was just Mrs Allnight and I down in our basement with the TV on. If our kids indeed had figured out and were trying to make us feel ashamed my wife and I would probably also remind them that there is probably things they have done that they would be ashamed of if we found out and that unless they want to be reminded of those things when they come to light this is no different. We respect their privacy and so should they ours. If it was a matter of them being concerned about our marriage our simple response to that would be does it appear our marriage is in trouble or something to you?? Both of our children (along with the rest of our extended family) know if they have concerns or want to make accusations of something about anything in life that they had better have supporting evidence to support the concerns or accusations so that right there would put a dead stop to that line of questioning as there is no supporting evidence available. (Our marriage has actually become even stronger and better than it was before we got involved in swinging because we both learned how to fully and completely communicate with each other!) Susan those of us who would defend ourselves when attacked like that are a rare breed. Most people when confronted with something potentially embarrassing like this will tuck tail and run. Like CXXC said I am glad you had the presence of mind to stand your ground and defend yourself. Shame more people aren’t like us!
  7. Running into people we knew from the vanilla world while swinging was something that really concerned Mrs. Allnight when we first got involved in the LS. Once we finally got back into the LS after the little break after our second time out with a couple is when things got really interesting for us in the sense of knowing people from the vanilla world specifically work. Ended up being that 5 of my coworkers in the store I worked at that time were involved in the LS, which was quite interesting because 2 of the coworkers I would have never in my life expected to be in the LS, while the other three were no big surprise. Two of the 5 are now very good friends of ours. Since Mrs. Allnigt is a SAHM (Stay at home Milf) she doesn't have to worry about running into anybody she currently works with as it is just herself but we have seen ex coworkers of hers from when she was working at the club we go to. If it happens it happens is my take they are there for the same reason as we are in my view it is kind of hard to out some without outing yourself.
  8. LOL Mixtupcpl cervical swabs.... too funny!!! I think we already established the fact that two of us out of the three from that evening are more than capable of performing said swabs! What you said in your second paragraph and where my wife and I are at currently thinking wise is what we keep going back and forth between. We would like to become friends with them but at this point they are really best described as aquiantances. We do care but at the same time we are both thinking if they have been in the LS for a while now which is what they had stated this is one of those things that should have been pre-discussed long before they even hit the club that night. When it was Mrs. Allnight's bday night at the Spott back in March, I knew 4 weeks in advance (which was when we contacted the club owner to arrange her bday celebration) that the whole night was to be about her and what she wanted and I was perfectly fine with that as it was her first bday celebration at a lifestyle event so I wanted her to enjoy every single minute of it. Things that had be prediscussed that was the one night I was not allowed to go play solo even though one of the females I had played solo with before was going to get to be there again after a break due to work commitments and she was really hoping to get to play with me again that night, talk about it sucking having to turn down someone you have had a very good time with. I was requested to dance more dances with her than I normally did, which since I suffer from WGCD syndrome is not something I normally liked to do but in the end that part ended up being really good for me because not only did it get me more comfortable on the dance floor it opened up some doors for us as a couple with other couples who didn't realize we were together as in married because they seldom saw us together in the dance hall because Mrs. Allnight and I are both quite the social butterflies at the club and have lots of friends some unique to each of us and many that we are both friends with and didn't used to spend a lot of time together at the clubs at least in the sense of dancing together. Now back to last Saturdays situation we had actually discussed the possiblity that if the situation came up where only one of us wanted to play be it me with the birthday girl or her with the husband what would our response be. My stance was if they (either the birthday girl or the husband) wanted to play seperate or as a couple that is fine but the ball is in their court. If they wanted to play together as a couple with us that was fine, if they wanted to play seperately with each of us that was fine too, or if only one of them wanted to play with only one of us that was fine too. We felt it was her (the birthday girls) night and assumed that the what was and what wasn't okay with her between the two of them had already been discuused (I know I know we should not have assumed but we did) It is going to be a couple of weeks before we be able to go back to the club so between now and then I am sure the wife and I will 110% figure out what to do or how we want to handle things. As for me tonight, well it is 2:30AM and the Mrs. just got home from a family friends of hers place about 10 minutes ago so we are going to go hit the sack for the night. See ya'll in the morning!!
  9. LOL Mr. Allnight here finally getting the chance to make my own commentary regarding the whole situation here. Mixtupcpl yes if only smaller penises has been involved the whole situation might have turned out differently. While Mrs. Allnight considers me to above average I tend to think of myself as pretty average, evidently it just seems she has a knack for picking out gentleman to play with on her own that are smaller in size (both length and girth) than I am thus increasing my size in her eyes I guess. It is true that I can bottom out without trying to on Mrs. Allnight but I am by no means hiding a 10" monster in my drawers heck I haven't even taken the time to measure to even see what it is to me all that matters is that my wife and the women who I get the chance to play with walk away with a smile on their faces and want to come back for more which so far I have been pretty successful in that respect. For laughs I will correct the dick sizes so everybody has them straight: Husband of birthday girl- not big at all but good with fingers and tongue -Made Mrs. Allnight have enjoyable time with his oral and digital skills not so much from the flag pole Husband of couple they played with- Big (see prior paragraph regarding this subject) like me, We have never played with this couple yet but he appears approximately same size in length and girth judging from photos in their photo galleries which we have seen- he is the one who pounded the birthday girls cervix into her stomach area Me (Mr Allnight) Big (see prior paragraph regarding this subject) These were the only three penises involved in this situation even though there was an additional couple interested in having a fun time with the birthday girl they had left before said situation had time to develop (my wife and the b-day girl's husband were still in the dance hall when that couple left no idea what size the husband of that couple is. Hopefully this clears up all the penile confusion. I only felt that I should apologize to her because it was pretty obvious that she knew I didn't believe her at all when she said she was okay with them to continue playing to not only me but to her friends as well when we asked her if she wanted us to stop my wife and him playing and yet I didn't go ahead and go back and put a stop to the play. I was torn between going back there and stopping things right then and there because I could tell it was bothering her even though she kept saying she was okay with it but at the same time I didn't want to make it look like I was some sort of an ass who wouldn't listen to what she was saying either so I choose to say put and talk with her and the rest of the friends that were there until my wife and her husband came out. We are still not really sure how we want to handle the situation the next time we see them, it does appear from the changes they made on their profile that there is no longer permission for either one of them to play solo as they now state in their profile they will ONLY play together as a couple which had not been there prior to last Saturday night. So maybe a little bit of drama that we don't want to go touching or messing around with for a little while, who knows. Right now Mrs Allnight and I are kind of the opinion of taking a wait and see approach. Thank you again for all the advice and opinions that have been offered they are greatly appreciated.
  10. No surpise here for what I am: Mr. Allnight: Your Type is ENTJ Extraverted Intuitive Thinking Judging Strength of the preferences % 83 19 31 67 Qualitative analysis of your type formula You are: very expressed extravert- Very true drop me into a room with 100 people and I can come out of it telling you something about most everyone in the room slightly expressed intuitive personality- Well my parents always said I had my head in the clouds and I have always loved the abstract moderately expressed thinking personality- Spot on again distinctively expressed judging personality- Mrs. Allnight says most definitely on this one, lets see I am a neat freak, extremely decisive, and am definitely the type to go down with the ship. Damn the Icebergs, Full Steam ahead as my family loves to tease me. But things in this area that totally dont fit me are I am very spontaneous and care free and enjoy surprises Fieldmarshal is the type description according to Kiersky Interesting highlights from MB personality type descriptions The Sixteen Myers-Briggs Types Living They seek power and control. They want to have an impact. Because of their desire to take charge, they are often leaders. They pursue leadership roles very directly and have difficulty following others unless those individuals demonstrate more competence than they themselves have.- Umm seeings how I have spent 2/3 of my life since 16 self employed I would say pretty accurate They may find retirement unsettling- I have to have something to do some sort of basic structure as much as it drives Mrs. Allnight nuts I will probably be running a farm in retirement Learning and working: They want to change things to fit their concept of what should be. ENTJs like to debate and view problems from all sides. They are comfortable critiquing and analyzing. and do not mind intellectual conflict in the classroom. They like challenge.- I love to have a good intellectual debate be it in the classroom or at the family dinner table if need be (Long story just say judgemental family members got me started and some education came down the line that night and said family members no longer hold same views they did prior to that night) Their sense of identity is closely tied to how they carry out their responsibilities. Loving: They often wonder if they can 'win the heart' of the attractive other. -Umm lets see I have known Mrs Allnight since she was 9 and I couldn't work up the balls to talk to her until 7 years later because I was just certain there was no way she would go for me They may not be as verbally communicative of their loving feelings as others types. - This is one area where swinging has made a MAJOR change in my life for the postive in that because of it I have learned how to be much more expressive verbally about my feeling of love for my wife and my family whereas before becoming involved in the LS I was not that way. The other two main points it lists in this section for my personality type are completely the opposite of me and in no way remotely resemble me but nothing is 100% right all the time. Will have to have the Mrs test when she gets home tonight then we will post hers.
  11. Mrs. Allnight and I have more embarrassing stories than we can count on our hands. Here are two of the most memorable ones for us. 1st embarrassing moment: Our kids had gone outside playing at their friends and the Mrs. and I are all alone and started getting a little frisky with each other, since we knew the kids could possibly still come home at anytime as kids seem to enjoy doing. We locked the door to our bedroom after having headed back to the bedroom to take care of things, so we get back the bedroom I lock the door and I gave it a fling with my foot as she is practically ripping my clothes off me and I hers. 15 to 20 minutes later into our wild session we were having, I had changed how I was having my fun with her and had put her legs up over my shoulders and was thrusting into her at this point with her legs over my shoulders. Of course we are making all sorts of happy sounds so we never even heard our kids come in the bedroom. All of the sudden my wife and I became very aware our kids are in the bedroom when my son blurts out MOMMY, WHAT IS DADDY DOING TO YOU??? Of course my wife’s instant reaction is to immediately propel her legs forward in an attempt to push me off, I just pushed right back into her to prevent this as it would have left no doubt what we were doing (not like things hadn’t probably already done that, but they have never said anything to make us think since then that they figured out what was up) and looked over at our kids and said Mommy and Daddy are wrestling why don't you leave the room and shut the door behind you!! Unfortunately for us both of our kids are big time into the TV wrestling stuff (i.e. WWE, ECW) so they both are like but I want to wrestle with you guys too. At this point my wife and I are practically dying and just want our kids to leave, I yelled at both the kids and told them to get out of the room right now and shut the door behind them. So they finally leave and shut the door behind them, I gave the door a look to make sure we had indeed locked the door and after seeing it was indeed locked and completely somehow managed to finish what the Mrs. And I had started. So after getting dressed and freshening up a little we go to leave the bedroom, we open the door and lo and behold there is both our kids ears to the door. Kid you not the first words out of our son's mouth is "So did you win Daddy, did you pin Mommy?" Mrs. Allnight is about ready to die at this point and was even more so when I respond back "Yep Daddy got Mommy for the three count son." Both the kids took off and went back to playing outside shortly thereafter, while the Mrs. and I just sat there and laughed our butts off about the whole thing and hoping and praying to God that neither one of our kids really realized what was going on. Nothing else has ever been said by our kids about that day and our lesson that we learned that day was always make sure the door is COMPLETELY shut and locked as our son informed us a couple days later that was how they were able to open the door was because it wasn't completely latched shut. 2nd embarrassing moment isn't really an embarrassing moment per se other than the fact that Mrs. Allnight gets a little embarrassed when someone outside of our play partners can hear her as she tends to get a little loud when we are having fun. We were at our favorite club The Spott here in Kansas City it is an on premise club and we had gone into the Red Room which is one of the private rooms for people to be able to play in if they want to. One of our very good LS friends and I are in there just having all sorts of a fun time with Mrs. Allnight, the D.J. had the music turned up rather loud and no one was in the lobby area next to the rooms so she is really being rather vocal about how we are pleasuring her. Fast forward almost an hour and a half later we are back out in the dance floor all cleaned up from our play session and the club owner happens to swing by and say to us "Hey do you guys happen to know who it was that was in the Red Room like an hour and a half ago?" Mrs. Allnight knowing full well at this point we had evidently been overheard was like “No, no idea why?” He was like well whoever it was, they were all sure having one heck of a good time, I could hear them clear up in my office and that is with the music coming directly into my office area, just listening to who ever it was down there was getting me all hot." Had it not been for the ear to ear grins on mine and our friend’s faces and Mrs. Allnight turning about a red as her top was that night, he would have never known it was us. Once he saw the smiles and her blushing he just started laughing and smiling and said "Well I am glad to know you guys we're having a VERY good time that is what we are all here for." All three of us still to this day bust up laughing when we think about that night and it has kind of become a running joke with the three us that were in the room that night anytime that the three of us are playing whether it is at the club or here at our house.
  12. Not new, we have been swinging for just shy of 2 years now. We started out as a soft swap couple and very quickly progressed to the full swap side of things. Mrs. Allnight has even done some exploring on the bi side of things which has been awesome. We are not moderators or anything on any other sites although we did recognize the SN Bitobliss because they are indeed one of the moderators on C4P which is the site we have had the most luck finding others close by to us on as well as finding the information on The Spott which is the club we frequent quite often now. We have totally loved finding out about and exploring the lifestyle and hope to make and have many more experiences for however long we are in the lifestyle.
  13. It was actually two friends of ours who first stoked our interest in swinging. I (Mr. Allnight) was the one who first broached it with her (Mrs. Allnight) after our friends revealed their interests in us to me. We talked about it and talked some more, asked our friends a ton of questions about the LS, did about 5 months worth of researching on internet reading everything we could find and talking with our friends and then finally dipped our toes into the swinging LS and other than the few months we took off after meeting the 2nd couple that we mentioned in one of the other threads we have posted in have been actively having fun ever since. Just have never got to ever play with our friends yet due to distance, schedules, and jobs, but the desire to do so is still there for all four of us.
  14. Actually you misunderstood it'sso, my husband (Mr. Allnight) is the one who is the pick of the litter who is larger in size, her (the birthday girls) husband is much smaller in both length and girth coompared to my husband. My husband and I (and other playmates that we have found of similar size)can go all night long. He just makes sure to put myself or the other girls in positions where it is easier to limit how deep he can go if that is the intentions of playing all night long or multiple times in a night. (This is one of my husband's and my favorite things to do- going all night long that is.)
  15. No she has not expressed anything to me or my husband. Not really getting worked up but I don't want to be offending anybody or causing problems for a couple, I am extremely sensitive to that sort of thing because of what happened with my husband and I with the second couple we met back right after we got involved in swinging caused some problems for us though the situation was completely different than this one [The problems were largely because I wasn't totally ready for the experience even though I though I was and had told my husband I though I was] and yes we did take a break for a few months to work on talking through all the things that came to light that night with the 2nd couple right after we got involved in swinging. They are a fairly new to the site we met them on but have been in the LS longer than they have been on that site. (They just said a while when we asked how long back when we first met them.) They are one of the few young couples (24 and 25) we have met that we both click with and that doesn't live like 5 hours away from us. No problem with playing with those older than us either as we do that on a fairly regular basis so please don't take it that way by us saying that. Thank you for all the response so far.
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