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glassypeaks09

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  1. But i humiliated her??? Didn't she do that to both of us by putting us in that situation as the result of her breaking the rules?
  2. Thanks for everyone's input. I never thought that I embaressed her, but I see now how that may have been true. I was just really surprised by what she was doing. She had previously made it clear that she did not want to have sex with other guys at all (without any prompting from me whatsover). I was trying to make sure that the sex was #1)OK with her - and #2) see what I should do - kinda like "ok babe , well if your sure then here i go too".. (I am aware its not good to change ROE during play) If I had been closer to her, I guess I would have been able to tell whether she was OK without asking out loud. It seems that many of you think that she was indeed embaressed by being called out doing something on the very edges of her comfort level. i guess that is the only thing that still bugs me - if that is true, i wish she would just admit it - hell it may even be a turn on to talk about etc. So perhaps I should have assumed it was ok after I made a comment and went ahead with the guy's wife? I am fairly confident that not everyone was doing full swaps - i know at least two couples said they didnt. The embaressed explanation explains her reaction and why she wanted to leave so badly. But if she was embarressed, why would she continue after I made mention once or twice? Afterward, she wanted to go RIGHT away, as soon as we got dressed. I thought that was pretty awkward, so I insisted we relax and socialize for 5-10 minutes before leaving the hotel room. She ended up being really upset with ME for that - this may support the embaressed hypothesis. What i hear folks saying that believe this to be the case is that it is not likely that she really didn't know what was going on. Makes me feel pretty dumb for calling her out like that, but i was just trying to look out for her (and to be honest, decide if i was going to "proceed" as well.) Maybe she did have no choice but to play the victim which she def did. I feel like i got the short end of the stick on this one. The biggest downer here is that if that is true, it really reduced our intamacy for a while. She was alot more reserved about her sexuality for afterward. We have made alot of progress since and have discussed the incident at length. She still claims she didn't know what was happening. I really want to believe her, mainly so I would know she trusts me enough to tell me if that wasn't the case. Thanks again for all the input.
  3. My gf and I started going to parties about 6 months ago. We had been to two others and had a blast. We played in hotels after each. At first, we just did soft - girl/girl stuff. The second party we got more adventurous and we both basically did a soft swap with other guys going down on her and touching her etc. We both liked this, it was a big turn on. We still had our rule of no full swap sex (more hers than mine!). At the first few parties we stayed very close to each other and "looked out" for each pther really well. (She was cautiously enthusiastic but not quite as much as I was about attending these parties.) At the last after party there were about 6 couples and pretty intense play going on as you can imagine. I felt more comfortable that we were a little more free to roam around a little since we were both more experienced at this point. At the height of it, I hear my gf moaning and the sound of someone fu--king her. I can barely see just the top of her hair through all the bodies , but it is obvious she is getting it from behind and enjoying it. We had been drinking alot and I know she must have gotten carried away - I said out loud - "hey (her name) you know thats not me!" - it continued - i couldnt say how long maybe 20 seconds maybe a couple of minutes and I say two more times that "hey thats not my cock inside you" - I think it was the guy who was doing my gf's wife that was laying out in front of me, wanting me to do her I suppose (again, lots of people , hard to see what all is going on) - I was hesitant to do so, but wondering if I should go ahead and proceed since my gf surely was. Finally after I said louder a third time (keep in mind the room was fairly noisy) that she was being f'ed by someone else, it stopped. She looked mortified and got upset (she held it together until we could leave, was almost in tears) Granted in the past we were extra cautious staying close etc, and the guys were less aggressive than this guy was, or so I think, not knowing how it actually started - we only flatly stated our bounderies to the couple who invited us and felt more comfortable when theirs were the same, but i felt like... "man, why is she upset?. She is the one that broke the rules." I still wonder if she actually stopped him or if he just finally came and then she felt guilty about it. I am trying to move on and for the most part have. I think I would have felt better about it if she had just said "oh god, I got really carried away, I am so sorry" instead of "I didn't know what was happening." Anyway, it put a damper on our comfortness sharing fantasies etc (she was very reluctant to talk about being attracted to others for quite a while, if not still to a certain extent) and left a bad taste in our mouths after the other great parties we had been to. Typically, we feel super close after playing with others, this was different. We seem to be past it now and will be playing again soon, so I guess it will all end well. I am writing to get others opinions about what happened and how they may have moved on. Do you think she knew what was happening? -I know it really doesn't matter and I shouldn't wonder, but that is easier said than done. We have waited a while now and feel like we are in better place with our sexuality and trust again, so I think getting back into the "swing" of things will be fun and an important part of putting it behind us . Does this make sense? Other than stating our rules to the room beforehand, is there any other advice?
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