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Mr_n_Dr_Hottie

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About Mr_n_Dr_Hottie

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  • Birthday 11/16/1959

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    San Diego, CA
  • Swinging Experience
    <1 yr

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  • Favorite Club(s)
    Sea Mountain Inn

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  1. We have seen several recognizable people at SMI, probably due to its proximity to LA. But, not being Hollywood types, we don't usually recognize them unless they tell us who they are. The reason it is not advertised as a swingers resort is to not ruffle any local feathers. This resort has been in several other locations over the years, and has been closed down for "zoning" reasons. The owners are very careful to play down the advertising. Word of mouth has been enough to pack the place every weekend, though. And yeah, I'd do her too. Maybe I already have
  2. We must be really spoiled. No kids, no job constraints, etc. We are still newbies, so there is no staleness yet. Even this one does not apply: We are lucky enough to live just two hours away from Sea Mountain Inn in Palm Springs. It is a very lifestyle-friendly resort, like a mini Hedo (it is quite small, so the emphasis is on mini), but also very upscale. On a good weekend we can meet several couples that we are both attracted to . This has turned out to be the only venue we have needed to hook up with other couples. Between the onsite playground and the constant invites to private house parties that we get from people we meet there, to the occasional date with other local people we meet there, we don't have to work at finding playmates whatsoever. I guess if we had to come up with a main issue it would be that there are not enough weekends per week We do have to work during the week, after all.
  3. We went with 4 times a week for the poll, but that is usually a minimum We try to get together twice or so during the week, but often will have 2-4 "sessions" per weekend day. Our playtimes are also usually very long (several hours), and can result in multiple orgasms for each of us After a really good weekend we are both ready to go back to work just to rest up. Combining this with our play with others, and we are very happy people
  4. Yes, I definitely think that they felt we missed the message. Really we didn't, but now I can see how they might have thought that. And no, I really don't think that they were just rude assholes, and the explanations offered by you and good times probably hit the nail on the head. I will admit that we missed their initial hint, but after that we were trying to give them plenty of space. Compared to either Desire resort (Cancun or Cabo), this place is tiny. The evening was very cool, and the only way to stay comfortable was to soak in the jacuzzi until overheating, then soak in the pool until it felt too cold, then repeat. The alternative, hiding in our room, was not an option. So it was inevitable that we would run into them several times. And yes, we always have a great time there, and did again that weekend. Because of the weather, there were only five couples there on Saturday, including us. The least I have ever seen. The previous weekend there were over 100 people there. Anyway, one couple was bored and left early. We ended up socializing with a great couple from Australia, and having lots of monogamous sex
  5. This is exactly the perspective I was looking for I'll bet they thought we didn't get the hint and were trying to horn in on their party . And, in fact, for the first several minutes they would have been right. But later we were just plain confused. We will have to pay more attention next time and do a better job of avoiding. Or, because it is such a small place, just let them do the avoiding but at least we will understand why they are doing it. It is funny in a way because we are usually the ones being approached, and have developed our own avoidance techniques. Thanks everybody for the insights.
  6. We regularly play for an audience at the lifestyle resort we frequent. Although play is allowed, and happens, everywhere on the property, they have a public playroom that we also frequent. This room doubles as the dance room in the evenings, so it can sometimes be distracting. I (Mr H) really enjoy having people watch, as long as I can maintain my focus. This is always easier when everyone else is playing too, but it is not a requirement. Dr H (Mrs) is fine with an audience, but it doesn't really enhance her experience as it does for me. Oddly, I am not much of a voyeur unless we are also playing. I just feel a little creepy
  7. That part we are writing off to miscommunication, since when we went to the restaurant that we had invited them to, they were there and called us over to their table to eat with them. At that point they were still being friendly and we had a good dinner conversation with them.
  8. We had not set up any plans for play, and as soon as we noticed that we had been dropped we left them alone. But, this was a pretty small place and we bumped into them several times after that. Each time, they completely ignored us and left that area immediately. That was the thing we were surprised about. We were fine with being rejected, and happy for them that they were able to hook up with a couple that they liked. During two of the incidents of them snubbing us, we were hanging out with another couple that we were not interested in playing with but were fun to chat with. They were older and had a lot of lifestyle experience, and they even commented (in a joking way) on how rude the other two couples were being. We, on the other hand, have little experience, which is why we were asking about it here.
  9. Thanks for all the responses on this. Another possibility we are considering is that they thought we were "players" because we go there so much and are so familiar with the staff, etc. Maybe that combined with our public play scared them off. In fact, we are nowhere near players. Dr. H is very picky, and we often only play together. It was a little disappointing that she really liked him, and was ready to play. She then had to take it out on me Just for the record, we didn't actually consider them "our" couple. I was just referring to them that way for this thread so as to avoid the "Couple #1, #2" type of description.
  10. We just got back from our favorite lifestyle resort, where we encountered a unique situation and are hoping for some dissection here. The resort we frequent is outdoor, fully nude, and very lifestyle/sexual. This weekend's weather was bad, so there were few couples. We were hanging out in the jacuzzi when a new couple arrived. They had a room next to the jacuzzi, and after settling into their room, they joined us in the water. We started chatting with them, and seemed to have a good connection. We were both attracted to them, and seemingly them to us. After a couple of hours of talking, we asked them if they would like to go to dinner with us. They said they would. Meanwhile, several other couples joined us it the jacuzzi and we were all chatting. At some point we went to the pool to cool off a little, and stayed there for about fifteen minutes. While we were there, we noticed "our" couple clothed and heading out for dinner. We decided to go out then as well, and dressed and left. We got to our favorite restaurant (about half a mile away) and the other couple was there. They called us over to their table and invited us to join them, which we did. We had good a conversation with them over dinner, then left to go back to the resort. After we got back, my wife and I went to the playroom and had sex before going back to the jacuzzi. When we got to the jacuzzi, another couple complimented us on our energetic lovemaking, and basically gave a play-by-play account to everyone else. From here, the evening got weird for us. The couple we liked was chatting with another couple a lot, and we kept trying to remain in the conversation, but seemed to keep talking to their backs. After awhile, they started talking about going to the pool to cool off. We left, saying we'd get the migration started. After hanging out in the pool for about half an hour by ourselves, we went back to the jacuzzi. The minute we got there, the two couples left the jacuzzi for the pool. We stayed for awhile talking with another couple, and later the four of us decided to go back to the pool. Again, the minute the we got there, the other couples left for the jacuzzi. At this point we were checking each others breath and looking for obvious problems. Later, we were back in the jacuzzi and saw "our" couple with the other couple in one of their rooms. Our feelings were not hurt by this entire interaction, because we go to have great sex with each other in a fantastic environment, which we did several times. Hooking up with other couples is just icing on the cake. We were, however, confused by the sudden rude treatment from a couple that we had a seemingly good connection with. A couple of additional facts. The couple we liked had lifestyle experience, but no nude experience. We have lots of nude experience but much less swinging experience. The couple that "our" couple ended up with also had no nudist experience. In fact, both couples remained in robes whenever out of the water. Also, we have been to this resort many times, and are good friends with both the owners and the staff. Both other couples were there for the first time, and had flown in from distant places. We analyzed this experience on the way home and each of us had a different take on the sudden change. Dr H (Mrs) believes that the public sex display on the playbed was the instigator. To support this is the fact that neither couple seemed to be that comfortable being publicly nude, and may have extended that belief to public nude sex. I (Mr H) think that they simply decided they had more in common with and/or liked the other couple more. Neither explains the sudden rude snubbing, however. Any thoughts?
  11. We still very much consider ourselves newbies at this, but this technique has worked well for us. In fact, thus far it has been the ONLY way we have hooked up with other couples. It helps that we live only two hours from Sea Mountain in Palm Springs. The environment there is similar to Desire on a takeover week, but it is like that all the time. We have made lots of very good friends there over the past year that we have been going, and have recently begun playing with some. But we have also played with couples that we just met that day and felt comfortable with. Last Monday we returned from a week at Desire, with a non-takeover crowd, and were really bored with the "activity" level there. I think that even a non-swinging nudist would have felt somewhat bored as well because of so many people being dressed or only partially nude. Maybe we just went at a bad time. Or maybe, as I suspect, we have just gotten used to hanging out in a nude, openly sexually-charged atmosphere.
  12. The place we go to is a little different - it is all outdoors, fully nude, with no private areas unless you rent a room. Playing is allowed, and encouraged, everywhere on the property, and it is always assumed that others are watching. The large public playbed is located on the dance floor, and it can be distracting when people are dancing, chatting, etc. But it is also cool to dance awhile then flop onto the bed and play. At this resort, since there is only the one large bed, you can expect that other couples/groups will squeeze onto the bed with you. It does not, however, mean that they can touch, or join with you, without asking. One afternoon we went in to play together and the room was completely empty. We played for a long time, completely concentrating on each other, not aware of anything else. After we finished and had been cuddling for awhile, I looked around and at least 10-12 people were quietly sitting in the chairs all around us, still watching. We must have been inspiring to watch, because they gave us a standing ovation!
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