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  1. That's pretty intense. I'd LOVE to be able to give that level of euphoria to my woman.
  2. That's because you're in a thread with people who are interested in it. Duh. So what if it isn't necessary for having children. Neither is swinging. Even if it does come from the bladder, it doesn't smell like urine to me. Even if it was, I'd want her to be open enough to allow it to happen, IF it was better for her.
  3. I'm surprised nobody's mentioned Lifestyle Lounge. We've already met quite a few great couples from our area. Nice site with great features.
  4. I read the article ViSexual posted in this thread. I found it very informative and I really liked the direction the author took when it comes to allowing a woman to feel genuinely relaxed and comfy enough to enjoy WHATEVER happens when she orgasms. I thought that article would be helpful in better articulating my views on being 100% receptive and welcoming squirting, or whatever else happens, and I sent it to my woman to read. She read it and it sounds like she really got something out of it. As long as she fully realizes she's encouraged to let go and come what may, I think it was worth the effort. I believe we're past the issue where she felt pressured to "perform it" for me, after more open discussion. I know it's difficult for some women to completely let go, especially given the misperceptions and traditional social taboos, etc. I happen to be a fan of squirting. I'll bring the towels and do the cleanup. I'm happy for any woman who can let go and enjoy herself to that extent with such complete abandon. That just has to be good for a woman in some way or another. Squirt on!
  5. I'm all about it. In my case, I think it not only feels good to me because it's such a profound indicator, but also (and most importantly) signifies that she needs hold nothing back, whatsoever. I've told her that whatever happens as a result of her totally getting off, it's more than okay. I think it just takes time and reinforcement for some people to unwind, though. I just don't want to make it a situation where she feels like she has to perform it. That'd be missing the whole intended benefit for her. I genuinely think it's beautiful.
  6. I met a woman in Memphis before I got married. She was like that. Drop-Dead-Gorgeous and had ZERO inhibitions. Squirter. Absolutely soaked the bed. It actually hit me in the face one time. It freaked me out, cuz I didn't understand what squirting was at the time. Now I'd kill to have that ..Didn't know what I had there. She was a catch.
  7. That's what my woman said. She said it really didn't increase her satisfaction and she's not really looking for it to happen again. Maybe it's just a guy thing. It seems like such a strong indicator to me, because it's so dramatic and obvious. It also seems completely uninhibited, which I find attractive. I do have to say, it was an amazing experience, having her do that after being together and having great sex for 14 years. It was like a message saying there's always something new. I just really enjoyed it as probably the top sexual experience of my life, because it was that cool to see her do that...She was in rare form that night, anyway. I'll never forget it.
  8. WOW! Thanks for the link. I'll read it all. Very cool. My woman's only done it once. It was glorious! It happened along with multiples, about 7 times in a row. Hasn't happened before or since. She seems to think she's not capable. That's obviously not the case. If it's possible, I'd like to hook her up like that again. Thanks again!
  9. Is there any available scoop on what percentage of women are capable of squirting? I've been with 2 who were squirters, that I know of for sure. I think it's an amazing and irrefutable display of satisfaction on the woman's part. I personally think it rocks! I've heard conflicting outlooks on how many women are even capable of it. Anybody know, or have scoop to share?
  10. Well, there's one glaring option you haven't listed.... You know what it is, but I think you might be getting caught up in what YOU want and, like me, you tend to figure out how to make that work for your partner. Hint: The option your hubby wants to hear is that you'll gladly step away from the friend if that's what needs to happen. If you're not even offering that as an option, no wonder your hubby has concerns. You guys seem pretty close. I hope it all fits together nicely. If you guys can pull it off and have it be genuinely good for all 3 parties, you'll have accomplished something very rare. Best of luck, no matter which way you guys go.
  11. Yikes! Yep, she seems to make no real progress on her own. Doh! Well, there's my answer, just like you said. Ouch...
  12. We went down to Desires in Cabo. We didn't do anything, but swim, sunbathe, eat, party and watch the show. I do have to say, though, that the outdoor pool-sized hot tub upstairs has the most erotic atmosphere to have sex I've ever seen. It's a class act up there. One side of the pool/hot tub area is arranged with fire pits, white leather sofas, open canopy beds and slithering bodies. It was freakin' primal. Very hot, to be sure.
  13. Bingo! Now you're tracking. I'm not a control freak, but I was guilty of unwittingly creating some unintended "pressure" on this issue, which I regret. I do feel like she's dragging her feet more than I can understand, given her known wild side. I'm trying to tune into her required pace for things. That's been made extremely difficult, because she just recently learned what made her tick in so many ways and learned how to express her real feelings. Long story on that. So now that we're closer and she's a more effective communicator, she's indicated she wouldn't mind going back to a place like Desire's to party. I just have to handle it the right way. Would I like to see her go wild and do a full swap? Sure, but all in good time. Would I like to play, too? Well, I'm a healthy guy, so I wouldn't mind that at all. My real attraction is to see HER flirt and play, though. I guess I could call it seeing her exercise her sexuality, or find another gear, or some other appropriate analogy for being a slut for the night/weekend. That's why I'm on here and that's why I posted this thread. I want to learn what I should do to not screw things up. Yes, she has her own timing that is only and very spontaneous. She doesn't like for things to be arranged or contrived. Meanwhile, I'm sitting around like a little boy waiting for Christmas. ..."Mommy, is is Christmas yet? How 'bout now? Now?" You can see why I can't be doing that. So, I try to plan. If not deliberately, at least by getting an education on how not to screw up a potentially beautiful thing. Just dancing and flirting would be fun to see. She's seen me let loose at parties and clubs a couple times, meeting people all over the place. She keeps saying she really likes to see me having fun like that. She's impressed at how I socialize. That's interesting to me, because she's the same way, but with tits! Tits don't make EVERYTHING better. Anyway, she's a social charmer, to be sure. However, I have to admit, what I'd really like to see, when the time is right, is her fully going at it. I want her to experience everything that life has to offer. We've been fortunate. We've worked hard and we have good careers. We've aquired some handsome assets along the way and we're both very happy and healthy. This would be just an another adventure that I feel she would be attracted to , if she finds the right people. Again, she's not attracted to just anybody. She's particularly selective. I guess that's where my "control" issue comes in on this. I've wanted to help create a situation where she can be with the beautiful people she would enjoy playing with. Maybe I'm just dreaming. Maybe I should just let it remain a dream. However, I've gone after all of my lifes goals and have accomplished them. I take action. I dare to fo for what others just sit around and talk about. That's why I started trying to help this dream along, just out of muscle memory. I really don't wnat her to feel anything but happy. ....So, I post and learn for now. I hope that makes sense.
  14. Well, thanks for the "reality check". I'll give you credit for not intending that as insulting as it sounded. Just so you know, she's let loose on her own and about scared the crap out of me. She has it in her. I'm just trying to learn about how to let it out, if that's appropriate for her. No, it wouldn't be just for my benefit. I hear what you're saying about if it isn't what she's after, she'd run the other way.
  15. No, we haven't tried the game. We'll have to look into that. Sounds like it could be a kick. Thanks for the tip.
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