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jonelle514

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About jonelle514

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    Just Getting Started
  • Birthday 10/28/1978

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    Pensacola
  1. I have talked to him again and he said that he only acts like he is jealous to make her feel good. He says that he does not have deep feelings for her, that it is the newness and she has never been with another guy since she got married so he wants to be her first. He thinks it is like taking someone's virginity. We did talk about rules and he says that he will abide by them.
  2. we met them online, at sls. That was about a month ago. They said they have only done oral with other couples and same room sex, never a full swap. They want a full swap with us. My expectations of swinging was to find a couple that we liked and to experience sex with them and maybe progress into a full swap, but we wanted to be friends with them. As in not have sex with them all the time, but be a one couple couple. I know that they want to be a one couple couple also. I am open to all ideas, I just want to take it slow. My husband has always wanted to see me with another woman, but we didn't start talking about swinging until a year ago and finally joined sls a few months ago.
  3. I want to be a swinger, I guess I had different expectations. I wanted to be with a female, then have same room sex and MAYBE a full swap. I wanted to ease into it. When we talked about the experience with this couple I told him that I like to know what is going on. I want to be prepared for what is going to happen so I can process it and when he made out with her, jumped in when I was playing with her, got a bj from her and then was rubbing on her while she was having sex with her husband I was upset because it was something I wasn't prepared for. I was strictly under the impression that he didn't want anything to do with her sexually. I also told him that I felt like the asshole because my mood went south because of it. He said it was all the excitement and that he couldn't help himself. I wouldn't want him to take one for the team for me, but I might do it for him. I just can't for her and I think it is because of the feelings that I think they have for each other. They both deny it, but I am not stupid. When we see them, they are glued at the hip. I even caught them cuddling on my couch when I came in from smoking. They said it was a joke for me and I asked how it could be a joke on me when I wasn't even in the room? I only came back in because I forgot my lighter so its not like they were expecting me to come back in so soon. I was not a happy camper and couldn't see why they had to hide it. I kinda feel like I have to private eye, which makes me not enjoy anything. Her husband says he has no problem with what is going on. I am hoping it is just because of the newness and not deeper feelings. I am not a prude, I just want to take things slow. I don't know what rules are the norm, but I think I am against kissing. Honestly, I thought that their interactions with each other was the norm and I did start to think that I am not meant to be a swinger. I am glad to have my feelings actually heard. I finally feel like I have a valid claim. When we first got on sls, I thought my biggest problem was going to be finding someone that would like us.
  4. thanks for the reply. I was worried that I would come off as the jealous wife. I have tried to talk to him and he knows how I feel, but it doesn't change the fact that he wants to have sex with her. He tells me that no special feelings are going to come out, but I feel like they are already forming. We had a rule of no kissing and he threw that out the window the first chance he got to make out with her. I know he loves me, but sometimes I feel that his desire to have sex with her make him do such stupid things. This is going to sound insane, but I would be more comfortable with him being with another woman if he didn't act like a highschool girl. I want everyone to be friends, I just don't want to feel like I am here to have sex with the husband so he can have sex with this girl. I don't even know if I want to take one for the team
  5. Hi. My husband and I are new to the lifestyle. Before we decided to get into the lifestyle our talks were about him wanting to watch me with another woman. I told him that I wanted him to be honest with me because I know that now it is him watching me with another woman and then him wanting to join in and then full swap. He assured me that all he wanted to do was watch. Well we found a married couple that we like. I am not sexually attracted to either of them, but I did kiss her and finger her. My husband just could not sit back and watch, he made out with her and even got a bj. Now it seems that watching me and her is out, he wants full swap. The other couple wants full swap also. I am scared about the whole thing. My husband and the wife talk on the phone every day and then they chat all night all long on the messenger. When we see them, he becomes touchy and he is not a touchy person. They flirt constantly and they have even become jealous of other people. For instance, he was chatting with another girl on the messenger not flirting or anything, just talking and the wife got upset. Now the wife is going to meet some guy she knew in high school and says it is the one guy she always wanted to do, but never did. My husband got upset. When I am around them, I feel like the 3rd wheel. I want him to have fun and want to tell him it is okay to have sex with her, but I am afraid of the feelings they may get after. Plus, I am not sure how I feel about them having sex. I asked him if it would be a one time thing or if he would want to do it again and he said he would want to do it again. I know he really wants to have sex with her and I told him last weekend he could and he saw how upset I was, but he still ran to her. Nothing happened because they were not sure what to do, but I thought if he just did it and got it over with he would leave me alone about her. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
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