erotic_wishes

My husband and I have talked about this-but not quite how it is mentioned here. I don't think I would want to become pregnant with another man's child - but it would be fun to try to get pregnant with my husband while another couple was there. That could be erotic

My husband and I have this problem-we don't have any pictures of him for the site-it's because HE is always the one taking the pictures! I need to take some of him....so...it's all my fault I guess;)

My husband and I have really agonized over this. We completely realize that seeing the couple you are talking with-is well-absolutely essential! I mean, physical attraction is a must. So we completely understand when a couple asks us for a picture of our faces... But here is the thing-like many other people who are in this lifestyle, my husband and I hold very public jobs-and we are both VERY worried that our pictures or identity might find their way to the wrong hands-and most likely end our careers. So what can we do? We just have to be really careful about who we are talking with-we have to make sure that who we are talking with-is someone we can have some level of trust with, someone who is not a picture collector for instance. We realize that most people seeking friends need to know that 1. the couple is real, 2. the couple has a female and 3. that the couple is attractive. If the couple that contacts us has certifications, we are much, much more likely to be willing to possibly share face pictures, but if they aren't certified then we aren't sure at all that we can trust them with our identity. We have bumped into quite a few picture collectors already, UGH:( So what can we do? well... I don't know if this is the right answer but here is what we have decided to do. We post pictures of ourselves publically-but we block out our faces. Then we went and bought a webcam-and we openly let everyone know that we are happy to talk via webcam face to face-if they do too, maybe even if they don't. If they don't have a webcam,- then we are happy to talk to them on the phone-or meet in person-to prove that we are real and that there is a female present;). We are also in the process of making a video for swinglifestyle-again, so people can see that we are REAL.. We completely understand that alot of couples without certifications might not be willing to put up with our reservations about revealing our identity online...but all we can do is hope that from reading our profile, from seeing our bodies and from hearing our voices-that they are willing to take the time to get to know us....and build up the trust necessary. We HATE that we have to be this way. But we don't know what else to do. We would love to try a club, but we are a bit intimidated by that. We would love to attend a smaller, more intimate house party, but since we are newbies-we aren't exactly sure how to get invited to one-we understand that those are usually for close friends..We realize that all of this takes time...and so we are trying to be patient and understanding... We are newbies with almost no experience so if anyone has any thoughts about all of this-please let us know...we appreciate honesty.. Getting started in this lifestyle is proving to be hard work;) S

My wife and I are both 35. As a general guideline, my wife and I feel that 10 years younger is the absolute youngest we would go. We are more open about couples who are older however.

Thank you everyone for the replies. I really appreciate it In our first (and only) time with another couple we thought we had everything all planned out. We told each other that we would squeeze hard if we needed their attention/if something was wrong etc. Well needless to say-when you are having fun:blush:..squeezing is something you uh..do often-so, we completely missed each others signals. It turns out we weren't as clever as we thought;) Ah newbies... Since we are new, we both really want to have some kind of way of communicating with each other privately. It's important to us. We both really WANT to make the other couple as comfortable as possible at all times-even if we don't want to swing with them. And we just feel that if we could communicate via code words or actions, we could prevent misunderstandings etc. Anyway, Sexylady1970 we really liked your idea..keep things simple...Your idea was: "1. No way not interested 2. This is making me uncomfortable" We think that maybe one more might be good for us. An : "I am interested" one. We just keep racking our brains and we just can't seem to come up with any code words/actions without the whole thing becoming like a special forces mission or something. Just something simple, unmistakable..and unnoticeable to others... maybe...tapping to say I am uncomfortable?..and maybe a rub on the back or leg to say "I am interested"? What might work for an "NO WAY-not interested" code? Thanks again everyone for helping us:) Have fun this weekend!

Hi everyone, I hope I have put this in the right place.. My husband and I are kind of new to the swinging world~ we have only had one experience..After that experience we realized that our "code words" were hopelessly inadequate! We figured someone might be able to help us come up with better ones here... I apologize if I am too wordy... We are wondering, what code words might be good for the following situations? 1. If one of us likes or doesn't like the couple that we are talking with..and one of us would like to leave their home or walk around a club and get to know other couples. We were talking one night and came to the conclusion that one of us might want to talk with other people-but what if we are still interested in the couple we are talking with?..So how can we excuse ourselves briefly-with either the intent to come back-without blowing them off? or...how does one escape altogether?...We want to be honest, but we don't want to be rude. We thought about things like "I need a smoke"-but neither of us smoke..so uh...that didn't work...Then we thought about "I need to check on the kids"-but that seems a rather popular one. Argh, this is so hard 2. How can one of us say "hey I really like this couple"..without actually saying it in front of the couple? I mean, how can my husband and I find out how each of us feels about a couple, without them hearing us discuss it? Does that make any sense? We thought that excusing ourselves to discuss it-might seem like we were blowing them off, which of course-we don't want to do in that situation. 3. While swinging what if one of us noticed our partner doing or experiencing something that makes one of us uncomfortable. How could I say "slow down, or please don't do that"-without breaking the mood? We don't want to you know-stop all the play-we just wanted some code word to say-"that makes me uncomfortable" I am sure there might be other situations that call for code words, and we would really be interested in hearing ideas and thoughts from everyone. Any help would really be appreciated. Thank you everyone