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About tcphoenix

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  • Birthday 01/01/1979

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  • Relationship Status
    Couple
  • Location
    Camp Lejeune, NC
  • Swinging Experience
    Searching for our first couple.

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  • SLS Name
    nakedphoenix

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  1. Read that soap opera that NCfuncouple98 posted, the sooner the better. Tell me that thread doesn't give you a sense of deja vue? Carefully consider where you go from here, that thread almost single handedly convinced my wife and I to choose pursuing swinging vice an open relationship.
  2. We're online as a couple on SLS. We're sooo darned excited!
  3. You're very welcome, I'm glad that our questions and everyone's answers helped you out.
  4. The individual playtime isn't set in stone per say. We're proceeding forward as a couple and if the individual thing happens, it happens but if it doesn't, it's ok. The one thing she's NOT comfortable with is the club scene. She wants to meet couples outside of that from AFF or SLS and go from there. So that's what we're going to try. On that note, what's up with SLS today? Can't add a new account! Lol...
  5. She thinks it will help break the ice. We're not totally married to the idea though, if the right opportunity doesn't come along, then that's fine. We're going to start looking for couples as soon as she gets back. I'm "going" first but i'm not going to stop her if the right opportunity presents itself, ya know? T
  6. Ah, I love my wife so much. Talked to her tonight and we're going to give swinging a whirl. We're going to have one individual playtime each (if I can find one) to get our feet wet and then we're going to dive into couples. We never have done things the usual way. LOL.... I love that woman soooo much. T
  7. She's VERY curious I think. She's shifting from overwhelmed to curious so I guess that's a good sign. Since she's in CA right now, it's kind of hard for me to judge exactly where she's at. She's read this thread though and she said the replies are VERY interesting; couldn't stop reading! Heck, maybe she'll post and let you know herself! Lol....
  8. To be perfectly honest with you, I've already thought extensively about her being with another guy and I'm incredibly turned on by the idea. I'm probably a bit of a closet voyeur so I can't say that fantasizing positively about the experience is a problem. I can't guarantee I'll be totally good to go without any off feelings but right now, doesn't bother me in the least. I think she thought I was just saying that in the beginning but... we've talked about it enough now that maybe she gets it. lol. Thanks for the advice on the communication. I know we're talking well, open and honestly now, we just need to keep doing so. Communication hasn't always been our strong point but we're at a point in our marriage where all our preconceived notions, hangups and secrets are pretty much being stripped away. The comms are Good! Lol... I think I'm the same in that I will probably need some reassurance from time to time that we're still good and that other men (and women) aren't replacing what we have between us. That said, this could be a really great thing. I just can't help but think that this experience could really help us grow and become more close as a couple. Does that sound crazy? T
  9. One other question for the night that sprang into my head.... Once you decide to take the plunge and try swinging, how do you start? I've checked out SLS, do most try and find couples that way? Do you essentially "date" other couples, hang out and become friends first? Or do most try and find a swinger club? I know my wife is curious just the same as I so if you have any insight, I'd appreciate it! We don't know how all this works! LOL!
  10. The reality is that people cheat on their spouses all the time in the military and rarely if ever is there anything punitive done to them. That said, there's a comfort level for me that I feel like I need. Drama is a huge concern of mine; I would rather do with less drama if at all possible if you catch my drift. I've seen jealous partners calling not only the military member's spouse but their command when things went south in the extra-marital relationship. Pretty hard to insulate yourself against something like that I would think. On a different note, one of the things the missus thinks will be an issue is jealousy. Not from her end; she assures me she's not a jealous person and would have no problems with me being with another woman. She feels like she doesn't know how I will react to her being with another man much less seeing it first hand in a same room swinging situation. While I don't "think" I would have a problem, I will admit I won't really know until it happens. Anyone have any insight on this? I will say that my main goal in all this is for us to be happy. I will never be so arrogant as to say that I'm the only one who can please my wife sexually, that's FAR from the truth. One of my main "goals" so to speak is to see her happy. That's the reason I don't think I would have an issue with seeing her with other men. If I saw that she was enjoying herself, how could I be upset? To me, that's one of the greatest gifts I could possibly give her and vice versa! Anyway, hope this thread hasn't died and that everyone had a GREAT weekend! T P.S. My wife is reading so at least she's interested. She's away staying with some friends and visiting family; can't wait for her to come back so we can talk about this more.
  11. Wow.... That's just crazy, why tell that to ANYBODY? Amazing... Thanks for the laugh!
  12. Thanks for the insight mix, I appreciate your thoughts! On a side note, I'm amazed that my wife is even willing to talk to me about this sort of thing and willing to consider some of what I'm interested in. Even if we decide on staying vanilla, I'm a very very lucky man and I REALLY love my wife. T
  13. I think that hit a real cord with me, thanks. That definitely puts things into perspective a bit more. For her it could be about the sex because there are plenty of guys out there to play with. For me, I'd have to take time away from my marriage and my family to develop a relationship with someone else. Hmmm... lots to think about. T
  14. iapr, Part of what draws me to swinging is that there's understanding on everyone's side exactly what you're there for. You're interacting with people of like mind, I would think. I would have no problem becoming friends (with benefits) with another couple or going to a club and doing whatever comes to mind. The thought of capitalizing on the lonlieness of other women though, to even up or even get my side of an open relationship going.... that's not my thing. I think I respect women too much for that. T
  15. visexual - not a Marine... Coast Guard Thank you for your service as well! slevin - yeah, unfortunately they would care and then some. Everyone else - Thanks for the insight and great suggestions. I'll talk them over with the missus and let ya'll know how it goes. What we do or if we even do anything depends completely on what she wants and if she's comfortable.
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