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LokisFemaleHalf

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About LokisFemaleHalf

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  • Birthday 03/03/1965

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  1. Started replying, but it just became too overwhelming. I have lots to say, but saying it here is not the proper format. Thanks for all your advice, all the slamming, and all the aplogizing for slamming. (I am not mad, btw, I do appreciate differing opinions. It is what intelligent people do!!) I am not a swinger, never will be. But I appreciate all your advice and concerns. I will probably not be coming back to this board, not because I don't want to heed your advice, but there is so much more I need to do to work on myself and raising my daughter than worrying about who did what right or wrong to whom. There are so many things that I could say about this from my point of view, but in all honesty, that would cause more harm that good, so what is the point? All of you have given great advice and been as fair and honest as you could given the facts you have. Godspeed and Peace -SIF
  2. Who on this site can define open marriage for me? I think that the definition I have a grasp on is skewed. I would appreciate the official definition
  3. In fairness honey, you chatted with my boytoy and told him everything was ok, that he had your blessing. How was he to know that it was true???? Do you want our friend's husband's blessing? I don't think it matters to you, and it is no one's business..........
  4. Best post so far, as far as food for thought without being judgemental. And how ironic from the same people who did not judge me on my adventure. Wine is in order.
  5. Nah, folks, this is not that dramatic. He will not go psycho. We have been friends with these people for decades. The bottom line is that Loki would have asked this regardless of the marital situation; he wants to do this woman. The fact that things are not going well in the marriage is just a coincidence. Her hubby spends 90% of his time in a third world country, working, and wants her to move there with the kids. She has declined many times, and he still asks. When she talks to him about problems, his answer is " Sorry you feel that way". He wants sex, but does not want to treat her with love and respect outside the bedroom. I can assure you that Loki does that to me. The hubby here has asked me to sleep with him, and god knows what he has done while on work trips. All he cares about is himself, not his kids, not his wife, not even his friends anymore. Now, I agree that he should be aware of his wife's choices sexually because they are married, but that is her deal, not Loki's. I repeat, He did not ask because the marriage is bad, he asked because he wanted to and I supported it. Cops, NAH!
  6. Here's wifey. The one who was supposed to be dead in a crawlspace from fucking her 22 year old cyber-lover, but hey I am still alive and kicking, LOL! I know Loki came here for advice, and we appreciate yours. I just want to clarify...He is NOT selfish. In fact, he agonized over this choice. I was against it, and pointed out to him many of this things that you fine people here said, i.e., She is married. He should know. He's our friend, too, no matter what an ass he has become, what about the kids. I put much thought into it, and decided that he deserved to make his choice, and that I will support him in that choice. What exactly do you mean by a "guy like you'? My husband is caring, sensitive, sweet, thoughtful, kind, polite, and unselfish. I do not have blinders on. I know him. He has many flaws, but being a predator, as you have alluded to is not one of them. He asked a question of a woman he cares about. So what? I would like you to kind of back off on the stereotyping, please. If you do not agree, fine, and we accept that, but avoid characterizing him. If she was in a good marriage he would have asked. And not because her husband bugs me to fuck him, but because she is a choice he wants to start with.......He is not asking her simply because her marriage is not good, a marriage SHE chooses to stay in flaws and all.......He is asking her because he loves her.....Thanks for your advice, NEXT!
  7. Well, guess what? He is coming to visit and we are going to a concert! Playtime! This time, hubby gets to join in after some hot foreplay....alone....to be continued! I love this life!
  8. Ok. The only threesome I would participate in is one with a more casual choice than BD is making. He is choosing to pursue one of our best friends, someone we share life with, the kids play, etc. I am not comfortable playing with this friend. If she is his choice, I back him 100%. I would rather it not be his choice, but now it is his turn, and I am going to support him. Now, if it was the hot waitress at the italian joint, or a less than close friend, I could play above the waist and give him his threesome. But it aint gonna happen with his choice, and I am not one who is bi or bi-curious. He sent me away for three days with someone I adore. The least I can do is return the favor...Hell, we are breaking out of the monogamous mold..What else do ya want?
  9. Loki would rather me be involved, but I am going to send him off to play alone. I am sure this will start another firestorm, but it is only fair to him, and I am fine with it. He deserves it. Look what he did for me.
  10. I have not been offended, but thanks for the thought. I take advice, make choices, and live with the consequences of those choices. I will not say that this has not been an emotionally exhausting experience for me and hubby, because it has. It would have been the same in a traditional swinging situation because we are the same people in any situation. But the beauty is the closeness and emotional bond we have strengthened is irreplaceable. As for the people who questioned this action on the heels of severe marital discord, I agree with you. I had the same issues. But I finally said, WTF, if he loves me he still will, and if doesn't we move on. Thanks for all the advice, folks. We don't have to agree, but we do need to respect each other as adults, and most people here did that. ((Thumbs Up)
  11. Thank you, and love you. I love people who can think outside thier own box and embrace what others do with maturity. Let's face it; sex outside marriage is just that, no matter how you go about it. The important thing here is that hubby and I discussed it, encouraged each other, and were both fully aware of the plan. That means we did it together, whether we were in the same room or not. And when his turn comes, we will both be back here, hoping the more open-minded people will support us once again. You ROCK!!!
  12. I like you. And if I am ever in Northern Cali we shall sip wine. We made our choices, did not plan to ever do this, it just evolved. It is done and over, and other than some emotional turmoil because I was never a "casual sex" kind of girl, I am fine, hubby is fine, and I will not be swinging anytime soon, no offense. We all have to make our own choices and live with those choices, and we are fine. Love, Hugs, Kisses.....
  13. Ok folks, here I am. #1) I cried because one year ago I never thought I would be screwing anyone other than my husband and I did. It was a big step for me. I am ok now. I had to get over it, and I have. #2) All the effort, time, chats, talking, blah blah is and was a good thing for my marriage. We are closer now than ever. This situation has fostered intimacy and has reborn a close relationship. I have gained a lifetime friend. I am not in love with him, nor do I want to be. #3) I have to choose my sexual partners carefully. I always have. For me it takes more than a casual meeting or two and then a roll in the hay. I have to connect on an intellectual and friendship level. That is what I did. I am fine with it, and so is my husband. He encouraged this. He condoned it. He left me a wonderful note when I arrived home. He showered me in love. He reclaimed me sexually. #4) Hubby and I spend a great deal of time making love, seducing each other, talking, and being in love. #5) A sexual encounter was never the intent when I started talking to this young man. We talked politics, economics, and just clicked. I am fully aware of his age vs. mine, and we do not want to be "together". We turn each other on sexually, we wanted to fuck, and we did. What difference does age make? We also talked, had pillow fights, saw a movie, and laughed lots. It is a friendship. I am in love with my husband. I love my friend. There is a difference. Any more questions? I will be glad to answer them. Thanks!!!
  14. Ok, I am home, not dead, and was treated like a lady all weekend. I am an emotional mess, been crying since I checked out of the hotel, but I will be glad to be reclaimed by hubby. I will post more details later when I have sorted out all the junk. Right now I am enjoying too much wine, and trying to debrief myself LOL......
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