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myhw4u

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About myhw4u

  • Rank
    Contributor
  • Birthday 03/29/1973

Personal Info

  • Relationship Status
    Couple-She rights but he does the typing
  • Location
    Baton Rouge, LA
  • Occupation
    Sales
  • Swinging Experience
    just over 1 year

Swinger Info

  • SLS Name
    myhw4u
  1. We both like challenges. I like Janet and B likes Mr Stephens. I think Janet would go from being a challenge to a lot of fun to scary and for some reason I like that, lol. B likes Mr Stephens' smile and eyes and the fact he has a tendency to do things he shouldn't. Personally I think he's got few issues, but that is a discussion for another thread, lol.
  2. Our introduction into the lifestyle started with interests in the hotwife genre. Since B was my hot our screen name became myhw4u, kind of fitting. On yahoo we used the nick SindyC1975 which was an obvious and cheesy play on Cindy. After B had several guys, we thought we knew pretty well, forget her real name and call her Sindy we decided to change to yankeefleur. Yankeefleur came from the marriage of us being Yankees and the fleur de lis that are everywhere in southeastern Louisiana.
  3. Because you are leaving we would lean towards no. There were 20 years that things could have happened and for one reason or another they didn't. We feel it would be better to not pursue it and risk any fallout. Of course if there is a chance of a visit after you move, then never mind what we just said and go for it, lol.
  4. As we've grown into our lifestyle niche, we've found that B is an exhibitionist and I am a voyeur. Most of our encounters have involved pictures, however this has never been a criterion for us to meet or play with anyone. Somewhere along the way B became a Southern Charm. Once our not so secret was found out, guys thought if they were willing to allow us to post the pictures then that guaranteed something, so we decided to keep the two aspects of our lives separate. I love to take pictures. I'll ask if they are comfortable with the idea, if not, there is no disappointment just more involvement. If they want on the site they have to ask and most back out after learning about the releases.
  5. Like several others have suggested, we can't help but feel like we're only getting part of the story. Where is Paul Harvey when you need him, lol. Seriously, we have found once the shock wears off things should start to normalize. Try to help the situation by not bringing it up again or calling attention to it, ignore the comments and if possible minimize unnecessary interaction.
  6. myhw4u

    A beginning

    Over the last year or so of our adventures into the lifestyle I have kept a blog on 360 of thoughts and encounters I thought others might enjoy. While 360 is a suitable forum for my postings I'm always running the risk that they might be deleted or my account suspended because of the adult nature of the posts. There is also the draw of the undesirables which I'll probably rant about at another time, lol. Until then, my last post there and first post here: I have realized in the hotwife lifestyle, men are at a slight disadvantage. I’m not talking about the sex, because the sex between my wife and I is the best it has ever been and it keeps getting better. What I am referring to is sharing in the excitement about a recent encounter with a friend. Due to how society generally views gender roles; women are able to have vanilla friends enjoy in their excitement. My wife has several of these friends and with each retelling she gets to experience the excitement. “You did what to him in the parking lot? OMG I am so jealous!” How many guys would react similarly? “Your wife did what to him in the parking lot?” I have shared with a few vanilla friends about our lifestyle and the responses I’ve received have been “Why?” and “How can I meet her in a parking lot?” So my excitement sharing is very limited and that has lead me to another realization. I need this forum to express my excitement and hopefully get a few “OMG I am so jealous” comments, lol. Our adventures have declined over the past few months, partially because we’ve tried to change up how we meet new people. But we’ve found that our original set up works best for us. After feeling comfortable with someone new (through chats, emails, phone calls, etc) we set up a public meet. My wife meets him and if things go well we all rendezvous for some fun. Most recently there was a guy we met through sls that my wife met and she really enjoyed the few drinks they shared. So much so after the establishment closed at midnight they found their way to the backseat of his SUV. On her way home she filled me in on the overview of the evening, “we talked about this and that and then this…oh and I blew him…” I couldn’t resist attacking her when she got home, but I did restrain a little to allow her to describe the evening. My wife takes great pride oral skills and so do I for that matter, lol. With her night ending so well and then coming home to my welcome, she remembered why we enjoy this lifestyle so much and how important it is to us because of the benefits we receive as individuals and as a couple. I hope someone can appreciate my excitement. The woman I’m married to, the love of my life, the mother of my children is also the fulfiller of my fantasies, what’s not to get excited about?
  7. I also join in, B loves being the center of attention and MFM's give her that opportunity. As of yet, we have not played with any couples or any single ladies. Thank you for your comment!
  8. Go easy on us, lol. Our profile has changed and been updated several times as our experiences, wants and needs have changed. Let us know: SLS - MYHW4U.
  9. When guys have asked B (better than saying my wife all the time) out, she's let them buy her drinks, they always meet knowing to expect nothing beyond a drink and maybe a game or two of pool. We have usually paid for dinner just because I think it would be odd to have separate checks.
  10. I'm glad we're not the only couple with "hidden rules", lol. Like we never play on the first date... It all makes so much more sense when someone else explains it instead of you trying to justify it to yourself, lol. We've had guys want us to drive 100 miles (round trip) buy dinner and a hotel room for a couple hours of fun. Then we'd have to drive home and pay the sitter. To us that is a lot of expense just to have some guy enjoy my wife. On the flip side, we have out of town guys willing to pay the sitter and cover all the expenses for the night for the same enjoyment. There is something fundamentally wrong with that picture, lol.
  11. We've read several of the threads relating to who should pay for dinner/hotel/etc. My wife and I have mixed feelings on who should pay for the different parts of the evening, but we both agree it should be arranged before hand. We have recently run into a string of single guys who are willing to pay for virtually everything, our sitter, dinner, after dinner activities, hotel room....etc. We would love to take advantage of such offerings. However we have not because we feel we will be taking advantage of the single guy and then there is that pesky feeling of obligation. Any advice on how to handle this situation?
  12. We're in the same boat, sitters seem to make everything expensive. We will have friends over or go to their houses depending on how kid friendly they are.
  13. I've had similar happen to me under similar circumstances and it is extremely frustrating! For me, we have narrowed down the causes to it all being mental: over stimulation or over thinking the situation. A little alcohol or just calming down has help me/us, and I stress a little alcohol, lol.
  14. I have a question about the single swinger. My wife and I have been actively involved in swinging for about a year. Our experiences have only been with single guys. After we joined AFF and SLS we quickly learned that single guys are only after one thing. There is nothing wrong with that, makes our hotwife interests much easier to pursue, lol. My question is: Is there really such a thing as a single swinger? Single guys wanting NSA sex sounds like every single College/Military guy I ever knew. The swing clubs in our area are very restrictive to single guys, single girls seem to have a free pass but that I think fuels my question, almost everyone wants a single girl, lol. In our adventures we've found that swinging is a couple's adventure that allows single guys to participate. When does the single guy acquire swinger status?
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