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Styles-N-Heidi

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About Styles-N-Heidi

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  • Birthday 08/16/1981

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    New Orleans

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  • SLS Name
    StylesNFreakyDiva
  • Favorite Club(s)
    Nympho's, Stletto's, Colette's

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  1. I disagree. If I take cialis 24 hours later if my pants rub against it I pop an erection. It can happen at the most inoportune times. Drugs effect different people in different ways, while it may not help you a bit another man may not be able to keep it down if he wanted to, and even if it helps someone a little bit it's better than no help at all. The best and absolute only way to fully perform well in group play if you aren't comfortable with it is to practice. The more you play in large groups, the more comfortable you will become. Everything in this lifestyle takes getting used to I don't know to many naturals. I could of been Cialis's spokesman when I first started out but as I gained experience my comfort level went up. Now the only time I use Cialis is for large group play, because my nerves no longer are a factor.
  2. I am genuinely intrigued now do you think that states such as California, Louisiana, Arkansas, Florida generally have more variety as far as age than say Wisconsin, Utah, or Montana? :p I know this is a little off course and maybe even deserves it's on thread but have their been any studies conducted on possible regional difference and how general society in a particular area has an effect on the swinging population?
  3. Definitely worth repeating but not at all as we assumed it would be. We decided to check out a club for our initial introduction into the lifestyle. We had all these rules, and ideas on how it would be but everything we thought went out the window when we were consumed and overwhelmed with the atmosphere. We were amazed when we seen so many attractive couples around our age with the frame of mind that most swingers were much older than us so we probably wouldn't be compatible with many people. Since then our perspective has changed about the older peeps and so has almost everything else haha. I could honestly write a book about our first experience but I will quickly summarize it into a quick sentence or two. We were at the famous New Orleans club Colette where for our first time we experienced a girl on girl, then a FMF with a different girl, then a four couple group play. I thought I would be semi weirded out by seeing my Heidi with another guy but I will never in my life forget how beautiful and amazing I thought she was after waking up beside her the next morning. We have been full throttle ever since.
  4. Such a good question. Personally my only real issue with large group settings before was my performance, and my only recommendation would be ED medication. I have since became quite the exhibitionist. Heidi and myself love audiences and generally end up playing in voyeur areas of the swinger clubs we attend. Sometimes I reach climax sometimes I don't but I always enjoy myself regardless of the people around me, and climaxing isn't the most important part of the play to me it's the experience as a whole. I know this post of mine offered no real advice, the best I can give is if you can't orgasm then just enjoy the experience. I can always climax with Heidi and I will be sleeping in the same bed with her at the end of the night anyway.
  5. Thanks for the response. I will gladly keep you posted, but it may be a period of time before you get the news. I have 25 pills left at the pharmacy and honestly the more w grow in the lifestyle the more comfortable I get the less I seem to need them. I pop one every now as a "just in case" but for now I seem to be taking only one or two every other weekend when I am off of work. Thanks, Styles
  6. We would absolutely refuse to play with anyone in this situation. I won't give you the you are not swinging you are cheating lecture I am sure you have that much understood by now. If you want to be in the lifestyle and that is more important than your current relationship then break it off and pursue what you want, but please be careful if you wish to maintain your relationship you are walking on egg shells at the moment. We all wish you the best of luck.
  7. I think my doctors reaction was a fair one personally. He wrote me a prescription to help to ease me over any mental humps he assumed I may have and then said if you come back and are still having this issue then we need to run some tests to make sure you are okay. Which is exactly what a doctor should do right? Show concern about your health? I don't know guys it's the year 2008 little girls are getting pregant right after puberty. Gay marriage is normal. Sexuality in society on all levels is evolving. Not saying all the results are good because obviously they aren't but lets face it swinging isn't so out of whack of society anymore. It's not a mortal sin, and there is a thing called doctor patient confidentiality. I still wish I would of told my doctor the truth and I think his diagnoses from the information I gave him was more than acceptable, it was admirable. I blame myself. :p
  8. Hmmm. I am not sure if I have noticed a difference. The majority of our playmates are in their mid 20's to mid 30's and we all party like rock stars when we get together. However we do have a set of playmates that own Nympho's here in Louisiana that are a good bit older than us and from our discussions and when they get together with us and our playmates we all seem to be totally compatible and on the same level so to speak. You know I hate to sound like an oddball but the differences could be regional. Louisiana people seem to have a different way of living than everywhere else in the country. I hear people talk about the average age of swingers being in their 40's, but where I live swingers come in all shapes, sizes, and ages. Check out our certs on SLS we have never had a problem finding playmates in our age range. To the older folks: We love you guys. We never discriminate and your guidance, willingness, stamina, and knowledge has been a blessing to Heidi and myself as we develop in the lifestyle.
  9. Well I agree with you. Honestly though if you think about it it's more understandable for a single to get upset than anyone else. However still not right. We had a couple get mad at us one time. One of our regular playmates VERY attractive couple with an Asian female, and I have this thing for Asian girls. We went out to meet them one night and they were with this other couple, or what we thought was a couple. With this EXTREMELY hot Asian female. She was 5"10 had a gorgeous body, red pigtails and looked like she stepped right off the scene of the Tokyo Drift movie. After asking the couple how they knew them they said they were just friends. So I asked if they were in the lifestyle and they said no. Well Mrs. Styles took a huge interest in the girl so after getting acquainted for a few Heidi had her bent backwards over the bar making out with her. Heidi gets a little aggressive when drunk. So I walked over to the guy to apologize. He said, "Don't apologize man. She's not my girlfriend just a friend of mine. So to me that meant she was open game. We flirted, and touched, and teased each other all night. She wanted to leave with us, but Heidi had too much to drink and I had to take care of her. So we called rain check. The next day I woke up to a really nasty phone call from the female of the couple we initially went to meet, our playmates. Apparently they had their eye on the girl and we fucked it up for them. It ended ugly that was months ago and we have just now managed to patch up our friendship with the couple. What really gets me is if they were interested in the girl than why not say they were. Don't tell me she is not in the lifestyle while you are trying to get into her pants. If they would of in any way let us know that they were pursuing her then we would of backed off, but the way it was explained to me she was fair game.
  10. Now that I have time to respond to this one :p They were never play partners no. We were new at one time also, and we have broken a small number of new people in. We always offer guidance to the new couples in any way that we can. I didn't say we considered all new couples to be time bombs. I said all new couples COULD be POSSIBLE time bombs. And that's the plain facts. You never know what you will feel about swinging until it actually happens. You may have thoughts and they may be correct, but if they are not, the results could turn out ugly. I agree 100% and the presentation was exactly what I was refering to. It speaks highly of their character. Not their sexual skills. Their initial presentation is a direct result of other's initial attraction to them. Agreed! But we have no problem jut playing with each other You are so right. Swinging comes in many styles. Unfortunately some people seem to be doing it for the wrong reasons, but who am I to say it's the wrong reasons right? It's their reasons just because my opinion is different doesn't give me a reason to call theirs wrong. I have had to catch myself a few times with those thoughts. Heidi and myself do this for each other and from watching each other's enjoyment we get pleasure for ourselves. I wish it was like that for everyone, but it's not and I guess it's wrong for me to think it should be. Thanks for the response, -Styles
  11. Yeah ummm we are in this together. We discuss everything and decide as a team. It's what we are, it's what it should be, and if it's not then thats just abnormal :p
  12. I agree with everything everyone has said so far. We are an extremely active outgoing couple. We have never had any issues really as far as hooking up with the people that we want to, but we have broken some new couples in, not many but a few. And when we would go to parties with them or clubs we express the fact that we appreciate them being our first, and we love the company but if they see someone they are interested in to not feel obligated to play with us just because they came with us. It's all fun when everyone makes it so. If you take this lifestyle to seriously it can lead to a lot of unnecessary frustration.
  13. Very good response. Thank you for that I hope some new couples read and absorb this. It is exactly how we feel.
  14. So I was talking to some of my lifestyle friends today on the phone and I happened to mention this other couple that we often play with and the guy I was speaking with was quick to express his dislike for them. After inquiring why he did not approve of them he told me that they always swoop up the new couples in our area, and that there has been times when they have hooked up with people that he and his wife had been wanting to hook up with for a long time. After hanging up the phone I sat in a state of thought for a bit. What's the big deal? So they swoop up the new couples. We try to refrain from playing with extremely inexperienced couples anyway. We see them as possible time bombs. So what if they have interest in the same people and got to them first? Instead of speaking badly about them I think it speaks highly of their character personally. So they are charismatic, outgoing, and people are attracted to them. If a couple gets to a couple we wanted to play with before us we don't get upset we find another couple to play with or we play with each other. After all isn't swinging defined as "no strings attached sex" with other people? I think some people take this way too seriously and way too personally. I have never seen swinging as a competition. Do you guys have any instances where you have felt this way, or have seen people act dramatic over being "cock blocked"? Do you guys agree or disagree with my opinions? Please discuss.
  15. Oh by the way. The side effects from Cialis and Viagra can be greatly reduced by popping a Claritin at the same time you take the medication. It is a 24 hour sinus pill that reduces the stuffy nose. The headache is usually a direct result of the sinus issues so alleviating 1 problem fixes another.
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