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Lee55

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  1. Shelly - thank you for the advice. We are new to this, so we definitely need guidance. The more I think about it, the more I agree that it isn't worth the risk to play with our neighbors or long time friends. The dilema for us though is that my SO at this time only wants to play with people we know. She does not want to go to a club as of yet, or meet people on-line. Hopefully that will change in the future, but that's the limitation for now. What would your advice be for "Couple C"? They are not established friends, and we only know them through a few social gatherings that our neighbors have invited us both to. I also agree with bringing up the subject during dinner. I'm actually thinking of asking couple C about their friends that are swingers and see where that conversation goes. I figure this would be less risky since they had previously brought up the subject. I'm just not sure whether it would be better to bring up the subject at dinner, or sidebar where we are only talking to couple C. Again, I apprciate all of the input.
  2. Thank you everyone for your replies. It is much appreciated - please keep them coming! I wanted to address some of the comments made. I agree that it is probably a bit too risky to swing with the neighbors. As far as playing with friends, my SO would be much, much more comfortable doing so with people she knows. I've heard numerous times that many couples that are friends often wind up playing together. So I guess my main question is how do these couples bring up the subject, or what situation brings this to fruition? In my scenario, I think couple C would be the ones we would approach since we do know them, although not as well as the neighbors. I'm sure we can get time alone with them in the hot tub, but I'm not sure of the best way to approach them. And as some of you said, it may be better to do a one on one at some other time. I'm just not sure the best way to handle it with them. T & E - I hear what your saying, and I would definitely agree with you if we were inviting people over that we just met at a club or online. But in this case they are all friends who know where we live and work. So I'm not sure what the difference would be going to a hotel. Please let me know what the pitfalls would be playing at home in this case.
  3. Here's the overview: We're having a house party pretty soon and have invited 3 couples. We all plan on spending a lot of time in the hot tub after having dinner and some drinks (no suits allowed, but nothing further has been discussed). One of the couples (call them couple A) are pretty good friends of ours and the guy told me recently that they are interested in swinging (not specifically with us, but in general). Another couple (call them couple B) are our neighbors that we have become friends with. The other couple (call them couple C) are friends of my neighbors that we are getting to know and would like to become friends with. On a recent gathering during a conversation, couple C mentioned that they were friends with a couple that swing. Unfortunately at that time, I wasn't able to get more specific information or talk to them further on the subject. I got the feeling however that they may swing themselves. So the evening has potenial for a lot of excitement. Couples A & B are pretty open minded, and from what I can tell couple C is also. Now the questions and concerns: My SO is not attracted to the guy in couple A, but has some attraction to the men in couples B & C. She is not Bi-curious. Otherwise, I'd say there's some attraction between all of the couples. My main concern is how to either bring up the subejct, or how to play it out so that playing becomes a strong possibility. The subject of swinging has never come up with couple B, and I don't know couple C well enough. I would like to just bring up the possibility, but I'm afraid of offending couples B & C. I definitely need some guidance on this as it is new to me. I appreciate any info.
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