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tittietwister last won the day on June 7 2013

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  1. Seriously though, that's one of the fears I have regarding trying MFM. I mean, isn't everyone supposed to conscious that it's about the three of you, not about two of you? Isn't it just a little inconsiderate on the part of two to do something that excludes the third (not counting picture taking)? I know I would not have handled it as well as Mr. Fun4Ds. Kudos to you.
  2. I think it's great everyone is trying to kind and helpful here but honestly, this question isn't about swinging. The guy is just a jerk. I've so many like him and so many girls are willing to rationalize it in a vain attempt to hang on. Best to leave him and move on.
  3. I voted no. As some other replies have stated it's difficult to separate sex and love when speaking of your spouse or SO. The love enhances the sex so even though it is more enjoyable with her, technically she isn't the best, I know that I am not technically the best she has had. There will always be someone better than you technically but hopefully only one true love.
  4. Been there unregistered. Your husband is most probably suffering from anxiety and over-thinking. He is probably a very considerate man who thinks of others rather than himself. Hence, he wants to please but isn't sure he can as his impression of other men in the lifestyle is that they are sexual supermen of sorts and the women as expecting that. That added to the normal pride and expectation men place on themselves equals too much pressure and anxiety to perform. He may also find the notion of sport sex unappealing - he may prefer to get to know the person first and develop a degree of liking and trust. That was the case with me. I still don't do well with textbook swinging (sport sex). For me, to be able to relax with a person I must develop a degree of liking and trust (I refer to as poly-lite). If that is the case he needs to be reminded that it's not just a ladies prerogative to say no (politely) if a situation is not to his tastes. The final possibility is that swinging is not for him. If you feel it is for you and he is OK with that then consider simply opening your marriage and giving each other the freedom to play individually, or not. As my wife is more the pure swinger type and I lean more poly-lite, we have combined this approach so she can have the greater degree of sporting activity she prefers and I can limit myself to situations where I feel comfortable.
  5. That's an affair - not swinging. Sounds like she knew what she wanted and the overture to swing was just a pretense to pursue a relationship with him. Now he's shown he can't be trusted to honor rules. I think you need to less concerned about experiencing swinging and more concerned about understanding why he succumbed so easily and what you can both learn from this to strengthen your marriage. Perhaps a counselor could help.
  6. Two for us. We first tried SLS and now are Lifetime members - it's the best value out there but not the best site in our opinion. SLS does have some neat, unique features like allowing members to list their intent to attend club events so you can see who is going and maybe hookup. Our favorite is APG (altplayground.net). No free members equals less BS. The admin staff is more responsive. They also sponsor/host parties regularly. The user interface is much nicer too but APG costs a lot more than SLS. We've tried most of the other sites mentioned here and none have worked anywhere near as well as SLS and APG for us.
  7. As a couple who has felt on the fringes of the lifestyle because of our friends first preference I have to say the poll results and comments are encouraging, to say the least. I sense that some may have different views on what constitutes an emotional connection but regardless, this is great!
  8. Yes, we would like to but can't afford to buy our favorite on-premise club which is for sale. It's run by an elderly couple and he still mixes a little pleasure with business on party nights.
  9. Absolutely we give and receive certifications. When you hire someone for a job don't you ask for references? Or if you're looking for a contractor don't you ask your friends about who they have done business with. It's like references - it helps. Regarding advertising your activities, our experience is that like any other social clique, people talk, certs or not. We don't think it's a big deal and sometimes you can work it to your advantage. For example, a couple noticed we had a cert from another couple they knew and liked. They introduced themselves by saying since we both like couple X it's likely we'll like each other. So in that way the certs facilitate social networking.
  10. Cuddle, pet, talk, rest and then on to round two.
  11. I voted for the minority view. I have often wondered about how typical this group is. I have taken some of the informal polling data and shown to experienced swingers not on this board. Can't remember what all I have shared but the consensus is usually some level of disagreement with the results. My sense is that this group is more thoughtful and reflective than typical swingers. It would be great to be able to meet people on this board.
  12. I have always loved women who embrace and enjoy their sexuality fully, completely and passionately. To me there is nothing more beautiful and sexy than a woman with a healthy libido and a desire to satisfy it. I like women who want to be a man's women. A man's woman titillates for the pleasure of her man. She knows the power of it. The leftover cum and smells of sex combined with her her lust for more is very visible and erotic evidence of such a woman.
  13. Wish I knew more forgiving people like those who have commented on this thread. In my experience the women have been very reluctant to give second chances and I can't conceive of thirds. Hell, some are offended if you stay hard and don't cum. The pressure I feel to perform has driven me to develop and use an elaborate chemical cocktail. In my opinion, to be a sexual athlete is the expectation.
  14. No, but I have had the experince many times of seeing various indications that they didn't like despite saying that they did so yes, that's probably ceated a mental uneasiness as I don't want a woman to do something for me if it doesn't also bring her pleasure. I also recently had an experience where the lady and I were having a great time and said that I could not cum in her pussy (we were bareback). When we were done with fucking she asked me to cum in her mouth. Just couldn't do but it still felt good.
  15. The Decker's are just a little over the top IMHO. Even though they are the most physically attractive couple I think Susan projects an inner beauty, idealism and innocence that's appealing to me.
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