Twolovers01

We have reserved ANAL for just us. Plus she's not a huge fan of it anyways. But it is something that we will not do with anyone else...

We are a married couple of a Quad poly. (MFMF) Both couples have children still at home and around the same ages. We enjoy spending "family" time toghether almost every weekend. We do the same things any normal family would do, camping, fishing, going to the beach, cooking out....etc.... I hope anyone with any questions concerning our relationship or there relationship would feel free to ask. Good luck in all your searches for "happiness" J and M

We WERE looking for a couple that we could have a long term relationship with, and WE FOUND THEM!!! So we have our ideal outcome!!!!!!!

WE agree that it's is a lot better for US if there is an emotional attachment. It makes the time spent together better, the friendship stronger, and the sex steamier!!!

We are not new to this and had never considered the POLY end of the lifestyle. We had also decided while searching for the right couple that we would never do full swap, and if we did never separate rooms. After meeting the couple the we now call our OSO's, the wife and I talked A LOT about how we felt, how they felt and what the four of us discussed together and separate. After 2 1/2 - 3 mo. of soft swap and hanging out, my wife and i decided we wanted to take it the next level. FULL swap. We talked with our OSO's to see how they felt about it and to let them know that if we did do full swap we HAD to be exclusive. They agreed and we proceeded to take the next step. It went well and after a couple times of it we all decided that we really enjoyed it....COMMUNICATION is key. We all thought that we knew all of the rules and how everyone felt about everything, but there has been a couple times of miss communication and someone being upset... But back to the original post question about feelings....There is in my opinion no way to keep your emotions out of it. When you spend a significant amount of time with some one and have sex with them there is no way to keep your emotions out of it totally. You may be able to not become too attached to them, somehow, but if you consider them good friends ( like we do our OSO's ) then you will care for them.

Do what feels right for you. If you feel like (for lack of better term sorry ) the third wheel on the pending vacation then you should stay home. You could do something nice for them while they are gone, or just pamper yourself, or just enjoy yourself alone. We haven't taken any real vacations with our OSO's, but we spend almost every weekend toghether with all of our kids. We have been out to do alot of things toghether as an extended family. We would go on vacation together more if it wasn't so hard to make room for the NINE of us to go places.